Divorce is a word that is all too common in the world today. From the time I was in elementary school until now, families around me have been plagued by divorce; including my own. This isn’t just something that happens. The road to divorce is one of many twists, turns, and bumps. Couples often give many reasons as to why they are divorcing, especially to their children. Many of the classic and cliché explanations given to kids are, “We just don’t get along but it’s not because of you” or “Mom and Dad are just growing apart.”. The real causes of divorce go a lot more in depth than those subtle answers. Issues such as, infidelity, financial troubles, incompatibility, and power struggles are what really drives couples to divorce.
Infidelity in marriages is a huge cause for divorce. Marriage is a vow two people take to love, respect, and honor one another. When that vow is made a mockery by infidelity, nothing good will come of it. Infidelity is showcased in the media today as “comedic” scenes in the plot of a movie. The successful and handsome C.E.O going at it with the sexy and young secretary and just like clockwork, the wise and suspecting stay-at-home wife walks in on them, and crush goes their marriage.
Financial troubles within a marriage is another common cause of divorce. Many couples have a hard time when it comes to bringing their incomes and assets together. All too often, one of the two people will hide money in a separate account, inaccessible by their spouse. Also, there are times when too much money will be spent and bills are neglected. In new marriages, people under estimate how costly things become and how important financial stability is.
Divorce is all too likely the end result when a couple realizes they are just simply incompatible. If partners are constantly disagreeing, not compromising, and beginning to resent each other; it’s obvious that marriage isn’t the answer. Incompatibility is also evident when there is a clear power struggle taking place. In today’s society, women are more independent. It’s completely acceptable for a woman to support herself, work full time in high positions, and be a leader. Some males are stuck in their ways of dominance and when they pursue and marry a woman just as dominant and have no intentions of compromising, their marriage is doomed. A personality and compatibility test should be a top requirement for marriage.
