When you are little, you see all your family members happy together.
They are happily married so why would they separate? A child doesn't think and know all the problems that are going around in their family. You grow up watching movies about families, either about the perfect family who doesn't have any problems or about the family who breaks down and doesn't have a happy ending. I grew up like that. Growing up watching these movies, I would have never thought my family would end like this. I eventually grew up and I know that my family isn't perfect. We have problems, which is normal for any family! But divorce is not something I thought would happen. I'm 20 years old and I'm noticing heartbreak everywhere.
I'm lucky enough that this didn't start when I was younger.
I know in many situations that young children suffer through this situation and have problems growing up. A child needs both their parents as they grow up, as they go through life transitions. The absence of a parent could lead to lack of motivation in school and health problems. And it's not only with parents. A child can go through the same problems if grandparents or uncles and aunts separate. They are still family.
As I was growing up, many friends were having family problems and I remember thinking that I was lucky enough that this wasn't happening in my household. It became a common trend. One divorce after another. I was little so I was oblivious to the situation. I was expecting it to happen in my family, but it didn't happen until now.
I'm now in college and I'm seeing divorce with my own eyes.
It's unfair. You see family members separated and you want them together but you know it's not going to work out. It's like with Blake Shelton and Miranda Lambert. They were the IT country music couple. They got a divorce and I was pissed, even to this day. They looked so perfect together. I remember being so mad for a couple days after the divorce was announced. However, I realized that they had personal problems that couldn't be fixed. This is the same with my family. People are going to go their own ways because it doesn't always work out in the end. I have to accept this even though it breaks my heart. Even though we have our problems, my family still supports one another through the good times and the bad times.
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- Can You Divorce Your Family? | Psychology Today ›