10 Ways Teachers Make Students Feel Disrespected

10 Ways Teachers Make Students Feel Disrespected

Let's not make school more awful and stressful for students.

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I'm not a teacher. I've never been stuck in a classroom with 30 kids trying to convince them to want to learn. However, I've been a student, and never have I ever felt more disrespected than when a teacher said or did any of these 10 things. I realize it may be "part of a teaching method," or "just trying to control the classroom," but that isn't a good enough excuse. Teachers can't force students to read, they can't force them to want to come to school, but they can respect students enough to warrant respect in return (even though they can't force students to respect them either). So if teachers avoided these 10 things, I hypothesize that their students would respect them more (and like them more...).

1. "I'll wait"

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I know it's disrespectful when students talk over a teacher while they're teaching, but saying "I'll wait" just makes the students feel disrespected. Trying to squash the disrespect out of someone by disrespecting them is like fighting fire with fire: you just get burned.

2. Purposeful embarrassment

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I've seen this countless times; a teacher asks a question, a student confidently offers an answer, the answer is incorrect and the teacher reacts by either laughing or poking fun at the student's incorrect answer. It can be scary for some students to so much as offer an answer in class, so making fun of their effort will only discourage them from trying. YOU'RE THE TEACHER! The students aren't supposed to know everything yet, so instead of making fun of what they don't know, teach them what they should know. Gently correct and inform.

3. Making fun of their questions

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This relates back to purposeful embarrassment and I'll say it again: YOU ARE THE TEACHER! Students do not come into your class knowing everything, they come into your class to learn what you are teaching. If they ask questions, answer them. Whether it is a question you already answered or not, the student is making an effort to understand (even if they previously weren't paying attention) and should not be condescended for doing so.

4. Correcting arbitrary mistakes

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This goes right along with purposeful embarrassment and is often directly related to being a cocky bastard. For example, if a student asks, "can I go to the bathroom?" you, as a teacher, should NOT reply "I don't know, can you?" because the answer to that question is yes, and you know it. Yes, it is grammatically correct to ask "may I go to the bathroom?" but that mistake does not inhibit comprehension and, therefore, does not need to be corrected.

5. Telling students their OPINIONS are wrong

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The only way to prove opinions is by backing up the correct one with facts. If a student voices their opinion, it is NOT WRONG just because the teacher's opinion is different. However, if the student's opinion is wrong because of misinformation or lack of education, inform and educate them—TEACH.

6. Telling students they will fail

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There is a time when it's reasonable for a teacher to inform a student they will fail: for example, if the student is currently failing and needs to get a good grade on the final, please tell them so they don't fail. Telling a student at the beginning of a semester, before a test, or in reference to an assignment that they will fail is completely unacceptable though. No matter what the student's work ethic is like, you as a teacher DO NOT KNOW FOR SURE the student will fail. There is no need to belittle and discourage them.

7. Discrediting student's achievements

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Everyone's successes are different, and deciding someone else's success is less than yours is not your business. If a student expresses a success to a teacher, they are proud of what they've done: encourage them, celebrate with them, and don't capitalize on what they could've done better or how they could've succeeded greater.

8. Undervaluing what they value

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Each student is unique and has their own set of interests and values. If a student shares an interest or value with a teacher, that is probably because they trust that teacher and want to share with them. However, if the teacher discredits the student's interest, it is not only discouraging but will lead the student to stop trusting the teacher.

9. Incorrect name calling

If you know who this guy is, you get it. But just in case, here's a link https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Dd7FixvoKBw

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This is a big one that I get really heated about. I know teachers have a lot of students and a lot of names to memorize, but names are often directly related to a student's identity and should be treated as such. Teachers should strive to learn their students' names and know how to pronounce their names correctly, especially last names—as someone with a complicated last name, I'm so tired of teachers giving up on reading it. Teachers also need to stop calling students by a name that doesn't match what is listed on the roster because they prefer it for whatever reason as well. That's just disrespectful.

10. Demanding authority, but not giving respect

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Saving the most important point for last. I couldn't say it better than the post above. If teachers respect their students by avoiding the other 9 items I previously listed, this kind of situation can be avoided and respect will be mutual.

I've had my fair share of bad teachers, and many of them inspired the items listed above, but I've also had my fair share of wonderful teachers. I know teaching is hard, but respecting other human beings is not. That's what it all boils down to really: R-E-S-P-E-C-T. Just ask Aretha.

Aretha Franklin

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Growing up I always heard people say that people with tattoos and piercings will never get good jobs because they don’t look “professional.” I was never a person to believe that though. I always found tattoos and piercings to be really cool and wanted a lot of tattoos myself. When I would tell people, “I want a lot of tattoos when I get older,” I would have a fair share of people tell me things like, “You’re so pretty. Don’t do that to yourself,” or, “Don’t get too many or you won’t get a job,” or even, “You’re going to regret it later when you get old and wrinkly.” Over the years I became used to remarks like this which is astonishing because I didn’t even get a tattoo or a piercing until I was 18. What bothered me the most about people having some crazy thing against tattoos and piercings is that people seemed to believe they meant you were unprofessional.

To me, tattoos and piercings are a form of self-expression. People wear different clothes, style their hair, and even do their makeup all to their liking because in most cases that is how they show their self-expression. Tattoos and piercings are pretty much the same thing. But how come tattoos and piercings are so major on getting employed? Does someone with tattoos or piercings look scary or even unclean? Do they automatically have a bad record or might be on drugs? Yeah, there may be some people with tattoos and piercings that are criminals and are bad and scary, but it is not because of their tattoos or their piercings. Saying that everyone with tattoos and piercings are unclean, unprofessional and criminals is like saying people with skin cells are terrible people. Of course, that didn’t make any sense, but that is the point. It doesn’t make any sense to judge someone strictly based on their tattoos and piercings.

Now in a professional setting, I believe that this is still true. If you hire someone based on whether they have tattoos and piercings, you might be missing out on a lot of great people to hire. In my personal experience, I have met many smart and hardworking individuals who have tattoos, piercings, and even both. Someone could be covered in tattoos and may have a PhD and one of the smartest people in the world, but the moment someone sees their tattoos they wouldn’t even think of them as an owner of a PhD. Think about it this way. Imagine you are in the emergency room and they give you the best doctor at the hospital. This doctor finds out what’s wrong with you, takes care of you, fixes the problem, and gives you great service. You think this is an amazing doctor and the best hospital visit you have ever had because of them. When you are about to leave, you see this doctor’s sleeves rolled up and all the tattoos they have. Would you still think he is an amazing doctor or would you judge him for his tattoos and think he is terrible for having them?

Some of you may be thinking, "Well people have to follow dress code which they have no control over.” Trust me, I understand that. When I go to work, I take out my septum piercing and if I would have to, I would cover my tattoo. This is just like any other dress code policy though. Dress codes, in most cases, don’t really allow for there to be much self-expression because most places want their employees to generally look the same or uniform. And I also understand that tattoos that are racist, drug related, or offensive can be a problem in a work setting as well. I would have a problem with that too. Dress codes aren’t the problem though. The problem is that there are companies out there that are so quick to judge people for having tattoos without even giving them a chance to show their true talent and hard work. They make assumptions based off of physical appearance and it is not fair. I know this may not always be the case, but it happens a lot more than you think.

I work hard. I have a job and I am working on getting a degree as a full time student. I graduated top ten percent of my class with Honors, National Honors Society, and Beta Club in high school. I still make good grades in college and those grades mostly consist on A’s and just a few B’s. I also have a tattoo and piercing and would like many more tattoos. Why do I want more tattoos? I want more tattoos because it is how I want to express myself. It isn’t because I am some criminal on drugs because I am far from that and so are many others. Tattoos and piercings do not represent unprofessionalism. They represent art and self-expression.

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The post-grad life can seem foreboding. As you enter uncharted territory, you must draw on your past experiences to navigate this new world of uncertainty. Once you graduate from college it is up to you to secure your next step, so don't let your future sneak up on you. Employ these strategies to make the most of your college experience and build a foundation for the career you've always dreamed of.

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Every college has a center for career services and students often procrastinate until their senior year to take advantage of all the opportunities it has to offer. Get to know the people who work there by name, and absorb all of their advice. The more you stand out in a person's mind, the more likely you are to be recommended for internships or job offers.

2. Attend colloquium speaker events that relate to your major.

Most academic departments on your campus organize some type of speaker series. Not only are these presentations inspiring and filled with excellent advice, they can also be an opportunity to network. The speakers are usually highly successful in their field and often encourage students to ask them questions about their career. By engaging with speakers and establishing a connection with them, you can build a contact list that will help you progress in your future career.

3. Join clubs that spark your interest.

Clubs are an easy way to build a network of friends who share your goals. In addition to boosting your resume, clubs allow you to explore your interests without making a huge commitment. Taking part in activities on campus will expose you to new experiences that may be influential in helping you to decide on a career path.

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Taking on an active role in your education is the most essential part of your college experience. By impressing your professors and getting to know them better, you will increase your chances of receiving glowing recommendation letters and even getting selected for fellowships, scholarships, and internships.

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Building a strong network of friends, co-workers, and superiors will benefit you immensely in the long run. By knowing people who are willing to go to bat for you, you will stand out among employers because there are others willing to express their confidence in your abilities.

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