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To The Friend That Just...Disappeared

Do you know what happened? Because I don't.

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To The Friend That Just...Disappeared
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Throughout our lives, people come and go. How often do friendships last from pre-school through college graduation? Rarely ever. Yet most of you probably get upset, frustrated and annoyed when friendships randomly end.

We should be used to it by now. People disappear after each school change. People go to different middle schools, different high schools, and eventually different colleges. Not to mention, the widespread disappearance of friendships post-college graduation.

But what about when people just randomly drop out? They just stop making an effort to hang out or check in and see what's going on. What do you do? What do you think? Do you just accept the fact or do you continue to fight until you have some answers?

It's a tricky and confusing situation for sure. The situation makes you feel sadness, lost and insecure. Where did I go wrong? What did I do? But those aren't the questions you should be asking yourself.

Look back at the past of the friendship... was it true? Was that person there for you through your deepest valleys as well as your highest mountaintops? Did they support you and encourage you to be the best you can be? Did you get each other in ways that made the friendship special?

If those answers are no, then maybe that friendship isn't worth saving. A true friend wouldn't just disappear. They would tell you about any issue or problem that came up and confront it head-on. They'd want to maintain the friendship as much as you do.

Of course, it is easier said than done, but if I have learned anything over the past 22 years, it's don't fight for someone or something that won't fight for you. There are so many amazing people in this world that losing one friendship just means another one is waiting for you somewhere.

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