There is nothing quite like a summer love affair ... with yourself! Want to know something crazier than being single for most of the past 20 years of my life? I’m 100 percent OK with it. In fact, I couldn’t be happier.
Being single gives you time to focus on your well-being and care for yourself. If you can’t make yourself happy, then how can you expect someone else to?
You may say, “But that couple looks so happy and adorable in their latest Instagram post! Why can’t I have someone smiling at me like that on the beach at sunset?”
You know what, maybe they are happy. And if so, good for them. However, who’s going to actually post a Snapchat of themselves fighting with their significant other? Or an Instagram caption telling the world how they almost just broke up? I’m not saying that social media is entirely false, it just has a major influence on making people’s lives appear more “perfect” than they actually are.
Live for yourself, not for someone else. I'm not saying to be selfish, but your mental health must always come first. When my boyfriend and I broke up after my first semester at college, I thought my world was ending. I didn't know how to live without him. It was then that I realized I was just afraid to live with only myself.
The next semester of college and up until this very moment came with me trying to find myself and figure out who I am. I still don't know exactly what I'm doing, but then again, who does? We are college students trying to make a way in this world. Find something for yourself every day, cherish your alone time, and don't depend on someone else for your happiness.
Plus, talk about the perks of being single! There is nobody telling you what you can and cannot do, and you get to live your life exactly for you. Going out with the girlfriends one night? Fabulous! Going partying the next? Good for you. You have one life to live on this earth, and it is your sole decision to decide how to live it.
My older cousin Maya gave me the most relevant advice in college this year that I carry with me every day: being alone does not make you lonely.
