Dear Diary,
Last week I found myself at a crossroads, I felt like was stuck in a proverbial rock and hard place. One of my male acquaintances was consistently messaging me asking to hang out, but I really had no desire to do so. So every time he would text me I’d make excuses, until one day I had an epiphany; I didn’t owe this boy anything. So finally I was brutally honest with him in the nicest way possible, he took it well and has stopped messaging me. It was only then that I realized that my reluctance to tell him no was because I was afraid of his response. Too often women are bad mouthed for sticking to their guns and declining a man’s invitation. We are labeled as stuck up, and given attitude; this behavior has to stop. We are getting too old for these childish habits, lets nip them in the bud right now… this is a list; in no particular order of some things women are not obligated to do for you.
Things women are not obligated to do:
- Dance with you
- No we don’t want to dance, so stop asking. Stop hovering in my vicinity, and stop shooting me smoldering glares.
- Respond to your “excuse me miss”
- We will keep it pushing and ignore you don’t be offended; it’s not anything personal (probably) but we’ve already seen you in our peripheral vision and decided not to glance in your direction. It’s not fair, but that’s how the cookie crumbles.
- Text you back
- I think this one is pretty self-explanatory…
- Care what you think about how we look
- Unless we ask for your opinion we really don’t want it. I don’t care if you like my hair curly or straight, my eye liner winged or tight-lined, or my lipstick neutral or bright.
- Apologize for not being into you/having a boyfriend
- All too often women use this excuse to get out of a tricky situation, but in reality we don’t need to apologize. I’m not sorry I’m not interested, I’m sorry you thought I was in the first place.
The list could go on and on, but I think you get the general idea. Let’s start acting like adults and being more respectful of each other’s choices.
