The Ultimate #couplegoals of 2017

The Ultimate #couplegoals of 2017

Can we all develop a Michelle and Barack Obama relationship?
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Obsessed with Michelle and Barack? Aren't we all! Their love seems to be real and timeless, hence the reason why they are at the top of everyone's #couplegoals. From the way Barack looks at Michelle to the words he uses to compliment her, all make our hearts melt. Why do they melt our hearts you may ask yourself. The answer is as simple as wanting a beautiful relationship like theirs. One we can be proud of, one that seems more fun than work and full of positive experiences.

However it may seem, relationships take time especially to get to a point such as theirs. I'm sure they have had their ups and downs in the beginning and the ups were higher and the downs were lower. They somehow still found a way to work through it all, taking each quarrel not as a negative experience, but as a lesson. They took the time to slowly understand each other's wants, needs, and personality. Each day learning something new and different. Teaching each other how to comprise on the way situations are handled ideally from each other's perspectives. With each day getting easier and easier!

Now I don't t think their relationship is perfect all the time and neither should you. Don't hold you or your loved one to that type of standard. Even when some things get easier, others may get harder. Relationships are something that you will consistently be working on depending on what life throws at the two of you.

With that said, we can make our own kind of perfect by always speaking highly of our loved ones. Regardless of the fight they started last week or the look you gave them yesterday. Try to start each day with openness, love, and kindness. Offer to help them with a chore or get something done on their to do list that they haven't got to yet. You may be surprised with the effects your effort will make.

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Stop Saying 'Love Is Love' And Then Shame Me For Dating A Republican

"How can you date a Republican?!" Quite easily, actually.

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"And love is love is love is love is love is love is love is love is love." Other theater geeks like me probably also remember this quote from Lin-Manuel Miranda's Tony acceptance speech in 2016. Now, thanks to Lin-Manuel and his talent for catchy phrases, every time someone says "love is love," all I can think of is Lin-Manuel's emphatic cry for equality.

This cry is one that I support wholeheartedly. I think that you should be allowed to love whomever you choose and that you should do so without fear of hatred or scrutiny. If you are a guy who loves guys, great. If you are a girl who loves girls, great. If you are a girl who loves guys and girls, great. You are born a certain way with certain sexual preferences, and there is nothing wrong with that.

However, if you believe that people should be free to love anyone they choose, then, honey, you better start looking past gender.

Let me tell you a little story.

Recently, I had a conversation with one of my closest friends about my boyfriend of almost 11 months. Somehow (and I'm shocked that this hadn't come up before), my boyfriend's political preferences became the topic of conversation.

The conversation went something like this:

"Wait, so is Tom a Democrat or Republican?"

"He's a Republican."

"WHAT?! Are you serious?"

"Yep."

"How can you date a Republican?"

After that, I basically went on a five-minute rant about how at the end of the day, his political preferences only make up a small fraction of who he is as a person and that I am not so shallow that I would be deterred by something this trivial.

At our cores, Tom and I value the exact same things: compassion, knowledge, kindness, dedication, honesty, respect, and above all else, love. Tom loves me unconditionally and I give him that same love in return; honestly, what else could I ask for?

Tom and I do get in some political arguments from time to time, but we also agree on those issues that are most important to me: female reproductive rights, marriage equality, and support for survivors of sexual assault. All of those things are non-negotiables for me, and Tom understands that and possesses his own list of non-negotiables.

Before you ask, yep, he voted for Trump. Did that take me back at first? Yes. Did I struggle to understand what would compel a person to vote for him? Absolutely. Did that thought kind of terrify me at first? Hell yes.

But you know what? After I just sat and listened to Tom's reasoning as to why he voted for him and watched him delve deep into Trump's policies, I could understand why some would vote for him. And to tell the truth, once I fell in love with Tom, none of that mattered anymore. And what is sad is that people so often fall so deep into their own echo chambers nowadays, that they wouldn't even give someone with different beliefs their ear. Well, I'm damn glad I did because Tom is the most amazing person I've ever met and I fall more in love with him every day.

So to tie this all together with a pretty little bow, if you're going to go around and preach that love is love and that everyone should be free to love whom they choose, then that shouldn't change for me. Maybe you're a Democrat that would never date a Republican or maybe you're a Republican who would never date a Democrat; that's your choice. But we don't get to choose who we fall in love with (much to the dismay of my liberal family and friends). Just keep an open mind and who knows? Maybe you could find some absolutely epic happiness.

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To The Girl Who Has Trust Issues

Your story doesn't have to end here.

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You. Are. Not. Alone.

Whether your trust issues are from people leaving, a broken family, loss, or trusting the wrong people, your feelings are valid. Don't let anyone tell you differently. Trust is to be earned, not just given.

You and your heart are PRICELESS. Just because someone was reckless enough to not realize that doesn't mean it isn't true.

You are deserving of people who know this truth and will treat you this way. Your vulnerability does not mean you are weak— it's actually quite the opposite. Being vulnerable makes you strong and courageous. Nothing good ever comes out of bottling those feelings up. Rock bottom. That's what happens. You hit rock bottom.

You deserve people who lift you up from rock bottom, not knock you down.

You deserve to know how beautiful you are, whether that's from yourself looking in a mirror, a boy, girl, or a stranger walking down the street.

But, you cannot shut yourself down or you will lose trust in yourself. Being vulnerable with someone after a heartbreak or toxic people is beyond hard, but it's a step to love and value yourself, to open up to a trustworthy person who loves you shows yourself that you are deserving of that relationship.

You are worth listening to.

You are worth loving.

Your circumstances do not define you.

Your past does not define you.

Do not let your past define your future.

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