Before you start reading this, repeat after me, “I deserve to be happy!” Let this idea run through your veins, breathe it in. It will help you not lose your optimism even when you’ll hear something you won’t like at first.
Couple of months ago, I had an argument with my friends. They believe that relationships can work only under perfect circumstances -- right time and right place kind of illusion. During an hour, they were trying to assure me that there is a way to make everything perfect, and if there is none then it’s not even worth trying.
Several weeks after that conversation, my best friend mentioned his worries of not having the so-called “perfect moment” with his yet-to-be-girlfriend. I was extremely irritated by such philosophy. Things rarely if ever go perfect, and you have to fight through all the complications instead of backing out and blaming fate for the wrong timing. I was absolutely sure in my way of thinking … until I wasn’t; until I realized that those people were right.
Now you are probably shouting words of hatred at me because you need reassurance in your own beliefs. You need to feel that you were right when you thought your relationships could work no matter what. If only they tried a bit harder, then nothing else would matter. So now here I am telling you that they were right when they let you go -- what nonsense!
Don’t be angry with me or with them; I couldn’t find any use for hatred whatsoever. We all just need to realize that sometimes (way too often for my taste) the wrong people cross our way. People you shouldn’t care about but you did. People who did not deserve a minute of your time but you gave them months. People whom you met when you were in the wrong place at the wrong time. That is why them not fighting for you should be of no concern to you. They are right simply because you deserve much better than that. You do deserve to be loved. You are worthy of all the time in the world. You are bright and charming and courageous no matter what place you are at.
We all at some point forget that we deserve something more than just a good morning text. So now I’m telling you this, so that you never forget. You deserve to be with somebody who starts to believe in the happy ending just by looking at you. You deserve somebody for whom the right time is the time with you, somebody who sees happiness the same way you do.
So don’t hold on to the people who cross your way by an accident; don’t blame them for being too weak, too careless, too intimidated. The whole world is right in front of you to explore. You don’t want to start your adventure holding the wrong hand, do you?
And once again if you ever start forgetting about it, repeat after me, “I deserve to be happy!”
