4 Reasons To Love Yourself Because You Deserve It

4 Reasons You Should Love Yourself Because You Deserve All Of The Love In The Whole World

Times can get really rough, so here are some reminders that you are a wonderful human and you deserve love.


I spend at least seventy percent of my day thinking about what I could have done better, what I should have said or known, how I should have reacted. I spend so much of my time replaying the past and my mistakes that I rarely take the time to love or simply appreciate myself.

I know for a fact that I am not the only person who does this. We could all use a daily dose of self-love. Here are four reasons to love yourself, featuring pictures from yours truly.

1. No one else has your laugh

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If I had a dollar every time someone told me my laugh was ridiculous I wouldn't have to worry about taking out student loans. I laugh with my ENTIRE body and whatever noises come out of my mouth I have zero control over. This is the reason I chose to mention first because our laughs speak so much to our personality.

Whether you have a belly laugh, chortle, chuckle, giggle, or snicker your laugh is a part of you. It is unique to you just like your fingerprint or DNA, it is something that deserves appreciation. Next time you are tearing up from laughter, take a moment to cherish it.

2. You aren't perfect

Jasmine Rainey

Prior to taking this picture I had a minor identity crisis and "needed" a change. This manifested itself as stripping my hair of the prior color it had been and leaving it a horrible blonde. In the past, I have also chopped off my hair and impulsively given myself bangs (pictured above). I could go on for hours about all of the bad choices I have made, but the fact of the matter is that I have still reached all of my goals.

It is so easy to get down on ourselves for not being the perfect child, student, partner, or an employee but if you were perfect there would be no point in doing anything. If I were a perfect writer, there would be no use in me trying to learn or grow now. I guess what I am trying to say is, embrace your imperfections and define perfection for yourself.

3. You are not the same person you were a day, a week, a year, or a decade ago.

Jasmine Rainey

I try my best to not remain stagnant, so I work to learn something new every day and incorporate it from that point on. Knowing that you grow so much as a person from the moment you are born to the moment you die is inspiring. However, ultimately, it is up to you. It is in your hands to either learn and grow or remain the same. Sometimes we do change for the worse but the good thing about that is you can always change again. There are no rules dictating how you much be, growing into your own person and having your own beliefs is beautiful.

4. You are beautiful.

Jasmine Rainey

Not just physically, but emotionally and mentally as well. Your laughter, imperfections, and growth are so absolutely stunning. Physically, your body is gorgeous. No matter size, shape, or color it is deserving of all the love you are capable of giving it. Remember that your legs have held and carried you to where you are. Your arms have comforted you during your lowest moments. And your torso has supported when you wanted nothing more but to change it.

Self-love is not just a one day journey, it takes time and much like everything else, learning how to love yourself is not a linear path. Speaking honestly there will be a time where you feel like curling in a ball and hiding from the world, but it in those moments it is important to know that you are worth love. You are worth love both from others and yourself.

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If You've Ever Been Called Overly-Emotional Or Too Sensitive, This Is For You

Despite what they have told you, it's a gift.

Emotional: a word used often nowadays to insult someone for their sensitivity towards a multitude of things.

If you cry happy tears, you're emotional. If you express (even if it's in a healthy way) that something is bothering you, you're sensitive. If your hormones are in a funk and you just happen to be sad one day, you're emotional AND sensitive.

Let me tell you something that goes against everything people have probably ever told you. Being emotional and being sensitive are very, very good things. It's a gift. Your ability to empathize, sympathize, and sensitize yourself to your own situation and to others' situations is a true gift that many people don't possess, therefore many people do not understand.

Never let someone's negativity toward this gift of yours get you down. We are all guilty of bashing something that is unfamiliar to us: something that is different. But take pride in knowing God granted this special gift to you because He believes you will use it to make a difference someday, somehow.

This gift of yours was meant to be utilized. It would not be a part of you if you were not meant to use it. Because of this gift, you will change someone's life someday. You might be the only person that takes a little extra time to listen to someone's struggle when the rest of the world turns their backs. In a world where a six-figure income is a significant determinant in the career someone pursues, you might be one of the few who decides to donate your time for no income at all. You might be the first friend someone thinks to call when they get good news, simply because they know you will be happy for them. You might be an incredible mother who takes too much time to nurture and raise beautiful children who will one day change the world.

To feel everything with every single part of your being is a truly wonderful thing. You love harder. You smile bigger. You feel more. What a beautiful thing! Could you imagine being the opposite of these things? Insensitive and emotionless?? Both are unhealthy, both aren't nearly as satisfying, and neither will get you anywhere worth going in life.

Imagine how much richer your life is because you love other's so hard. It might mean more heartache, but the reward is always worth the risk. Imagine how much richer your life is because you are overly appreciative of the beauty a simple sunset brings. Imagine how much richer your life is because you can be moved to tears by the lessons of someone else's story.

Embrace every part of who you are and be just that 100%. There will be people who criticize you for the size of your heart. Feel sorry for them. There are people who are dishonest. There are people who are manipulative. There are people who are downright malicious. And the one thing people say to put you down is "you feel too much." Hmm..

Sounds like more of a compliment to me. Just sayin'.

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Being Ugly

What it means to me


Due to a series of ongoing events throughout my semester, I've reconsidered what it means for someone to truly be ugly. Though it is often used in terms of appearance, I do not see it as such-- now more than ever. Ugliness runs deeper than appearance-- it runs within one's soul and festers into other areas of one's life, particularly in their treatment of others.

I view ugliness as someone's conscious capacity and implementation of malice. Taking time and energy out of your day to hurt someone else, that's what I view as ugly. Some offenses are more minor than others, however, it is still a conscious effort to hurt or affect someone else negatively-- and that's the source of the problem. I truly wonder what causes that sort of behavior in someone, as I, along with most people, simply do not invest time or energy into hating or plotting against others. It seems like a full-time job.

I can theorize all sorts of reasons as to why someone would act this way: hate, jealousy, vengeance, etc. Yet, all of these reasons don't hit the root reason. It almost seems that some people are just innately ugly in their soul. This alludes to the timeless debate of whether one's personality is due to nature or nurture. Again, although our surroundings and environment do have a large effect in our behavior, that alibi only goes so far when multiple people are placed in the same environment, in the same situation, and only some are willing to cross moral boundaries in order to hurt the others. Just because an environment applies pressure to people, does not mean everyone is going to act out in malice, and it certainly does not give everyone an excuse to do so. Some people are simply conniving and, well, ugly inside.

If you have ever encountered people like this, I know from personal experience that it is such a drag. You have an enemy, essentially, whether you chose to or not, however based on their hatred towards you, they are now considered an enemy, a hater, and any other associated term. Know that they will do anything in their power to bring you down, even if it requires bending the truth and creating elaborate schemes, but you have to keep on doing you. Let them obsess over ways to bring you down. At the end of the day, their time and energy is being invested into bringing you down, while yours is being used to build yourself up. They will fall by default. So, keep your head high, act in grace, and make your money. They can sip on their Haterade and watch from below.

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