I Embrace Modern Feminism, But Slightly Modified

I Embrace Modern Feminism, But Slightly Modified

I advocate for empowering women.


Feminism. A word women across the country are all too familiar with… as they should be. Growing up a woman in a society that was once dominated by men certainly faces its challenges - so it is important to teach confidence to young girls, spread the girl boss movement, and take the necessary steps to ensuring gender equality in our everyday lives. That being said, gender equality and gender superiority are very different ideals… but over time, the feminist movement seems to have blended the two together. And this is where my issue lies with feminism in the modern society.

It is a fact… females were suppressed in male-dominated societies dating back as far as textbooks could record. Since then, us females have made incredible progress. But what have been the current motivations? Are women now supposed to be the up and coming dominating gender? Is that what we are still actively trying to accomplish? If it is, then I think we need to get our priorities straight. We have achieved some amazing things and are actively working to achieve some more. But it seems that all too often, the things we have begun to work toward are in the effort to discourage men more so than encourage women. It is like a backward movement in and of itself. And I do not believe in it.

I do not know how I feel about the feminists of today's society. I feel like referring to myself as a feminist today leaves an association to every march and protest (some of which are refreshing, others completely absurd), hating our current president, being disgusted by any bad decision made by a man, yet believing that women can do no wrong. This may be a slight over exaggeration, I realize, but these issues have become an epidemic. Have you heard of the term "third wave feminist"? If not, it is women in the Generation X obsessed with making everything and anything about sexism and finding a reason to discourage men, frankly, for no reason at all. There are real issues out there worth fighting for - big ones that affect our lives. But whining and demanding that men have it easier in all walks of life is not only a call for attention, but a plea to be victimized.

Modern feminism seems to contradict itself. We work to be a part of the workforce, yet complain that we still work under the shadows of men. We claim that our only intentions are to empower women, yet if that woman is a Republican, we call her names and find reasons to pick apart why she is a disgrace. Take Kellyanne Conway, the manager for Donald Trump's 2016 campaign, for example. Is she less of a woman or less worthy of at least human decency solely because she supports an unpopular candidate by feminists? I certainly do not think so. This "brand" of feminism is doing more harm to girls than good. When there were nothing but good intentions, we got so far! Fighting for what is right and what is just both morally, and legally as citizens of the United States worthy of fair treatment. How did it come to so much entitlement, complaining, and using what should be a movement held special to our hearts to our advantage?

I would like to consider myself a feminist… I really, really would. I am a girl with passions, dreams, motivations, goals, work ethic, resilience. I am an advocate for believing in yourself, not setting boundaries, working hard, actively pursuing what you want. I believe in girls, I believe in women. I believe that, one day, with the right candidate, we can have a female president who can do some incredible things. I believe in girl power, being a girl boss, embracing what it means to be a women. So, does that make me a feminist? In some ways, yes and in some ways no. I'm a feminist in spirit. I will advocate for female empowerment and worthiness. But, in a day and age where the playing field has never been more equal, and a time with laws designed and protested by women to protect us from becoming victims, I just cannot agree with the extent we have somehow stretched this civil rights movement.

This is just an opinion... my opinion. It is not an umbrella term for everyone who considers themselves a feminist - many have the same ideals of positivity and empowerment. But, these issues have consumed headlines and have redefined the way many view what it means to be one. Simply stated, I just think the priorities of feminism could use some modifications.

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Depressed, Stressed, Or Unsatisfied With Life? The Recent Q's Of 20 Somethings

The crucial questions circulating my life.


I've been dealing with several existential crises in the past couple of weeks, in concerns to my life. Maybe there's so much going at the moment, that I'm unsure of the direction that I'm in and I've been conflicted. Conflicted, how so? Well, let me explain in the best way I possibly can without babbling for too long.

I think college is finally getting to me, what do I mean, exactly? School has always stressed me out, but I've been exceptionally stressed about it. The thought of having just over a year left until I'm finally done with school is frightening. The idea of being a "real" adult, finding a job that relates to my major, and moving on makes me wonder if I can really do it all.

Attending college has been an absolute rollercoaster ride, the greatest highs and the lowest of lows have existed in the past three years, but I'm definitely grateful. My biggest fear is failing and failing hard. All the sudden, I need to start thinking about what's beneficial for my future, if a particular opportunity will benefit my life in any way.

Obviously, I'm living in the present but all I can constantly think about is the future and what it'll be like. The issue is that I've stopped living in the present and I consume myself in day-dreaming of a life I could have in a year, two years, or ten. Where will I be living? Does my soulmate exist? Have I met him yet? What will I be doing in five years? I'm so consumed in the "what" and "ifs", that I completely forget about "now"

Completely absorbed by my thoughts, I disregard the fact that I'm alive and living, which is the perfect time to experience amazing opportunities. This leads on to the next thing, am I doing enough at the moment? I have this lingering feeling of dissatisfaction that exists, that I'm not doing enough for someone of my age. At times, I scroll on Instagram and see individuals that I attended high school with and knew in the past living their best lives.

Traveling across Europe, getting into beautiful relationships, and even having children. Even though I'm not quite ready for children, it's amazing to see how people have evolved. Honestly, I don't think I've changed or done enough with my life. I have no cool stories of traveling across Italy with my friends or wild nights at a music festival. Every day feels the same, no excitement or change. Some days I feel like I'll be stuck in the same place for the rest of my life and never get out, which leads to the considerable crisis or multiple that I've been dealing with lately.

All of what I've just explained leads me to think that I might be depressed, which I shouldn't be self-diagnosing myself in a sort of way. Google can be an enemy and companion, at times, but I've been stuck in this rut for about a month. Maybe I'm just being a dramatic 20 year- old, but I'm unsure if I'm sad, depressed, or unsatisfied with life. Or maybe, I'm all three, most likely, there are millions of individuals in the same position that feel this way.

In the end, I'll be okay, hopefully.

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Jamie Stockwell On Life, Learning, And News

The story of a woman who usually tells the stories herself.


Jamie Stockwell, Deputy National Editor of the New York Times, shared both her story and her experiences as a storyteller to a public policy and leadership class at the University of Maryland on Tuesday, March 5, 2019.

Originally from southern Texas, Stockwell received a degree in journalism from the University of Texas at Austin, where she worked at their on-campus publication, the Daily Texan. After graduating, she spent 8 years working at the Washington Post, before heading back to Texas to work in San Antonio.

It was in the newsroom in San Antonio that she credits her learning of how to be an editor, and it was there that she was thrown into coverage of issues such as border security and environmental concerns.

After being in San Antonio for eleven years, Stockwell accepted a position at The New York Times.

"I really admire local newspapers, they're doing a bang-up job," Stockwell said. However, when New York came calling, Stockwell took the call, leading her to where she is today.

Currently, Stockwell serves as the deputy national editor at the Times, and while she has only been there for about 8 months, she is already aspiring to make her mark.

"I have like 25 years left to do this, and that makes me really sad," Stockwell said. As an industry, Stockwell has seen journalism evolve, with its embrace of the digital age bringing new platforms and new challenges to the concept of news reporting.

This evolution has broadened news, making it now accessible to anyone and everyone, making it difficult to remain objective. When asked about this, Stockwell said that the best thing she can do in terms of objectivity is not to let any of her opinions seep into her coverage and to make sure that when gathering information, all sides of the story are considered. Stockwell spoke of the importance of quoting both men and women, liberals and conservatives, and all sides of every spectrum of a story.

When it comes to sources, Stockwell said that the best way to decide whether or not the source is credible to consider what the motives of the source are.

"If your mom says she loves you, check it out," Stockwell said, proving that in the world of journalism, no words can be taken as they are, and all statements, even "I love you's," require thorough investigation.

For the students, Stockwell did offer some advice on how to make it in a newsroom, saying that the number one thing she looks for in an employee is curiosity.

"Work your butt off when you're young," Stockwell said, showing students that in the world of writing stories, a success story for oneself comes through interest, desire, and the drive to always do better, and to always work hard.

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