Modern Feminism

I Embrace Modern Feminism, But Slightly Modified

I advocate for empowering women.


Feminism. A word women across the country are all too familiar with… as they should be. Growing up a woman in a society that was once dominated by men certainly faces its challenges - so it is important to teach confidence to young girls, spread the girl boss movement, and take the necessary steps to ensuring gender equality in our everyday lives. That being said, gender equality and gender superiority are very different ideals… but over time, the feminist movement seems to have blended the two together. And this is where my issue lies with feminism in the modern society.

It is a fact… females were suppressed in male-dominated societies dating back as far as textbooks could record. Since then, us females have made incredible progress. But what have been the current motivations? Are women now supposed to be the up and coming dominating gender? Is that what we are still actively trying to accomplish? If it is, then I think we need to get our priorities straight. We have achieved some amazing things and are actively working to achieve some more. But it seems that all too often, the things we have begun to work toward are in the effort to discourage men more so than encourage women. It is like a backward movement in and of itself. And I do not believe in it.

I do not know how I feel about the feminists of today's society. I feel like referring to myself as a feminist today leaves an association to every march and protest (some of which are refreshing, others completely absurd), hating our current president, being disgusted by any bad decision made by a man, yet believing that women can do no wrong. This may be a slight over exaggeration, I realize, but these issues have become an epidemic. Have you heard of the term "third wave feminist"? If not, it is women in the Generation X obsessed with making everything and anything about sexism and finding a reason to discourage men, frankly, for no reason at all. There are real issues out there worth fighting for - big ones that affect our lives. But whining and demanding that men have it easier in all walks of life is not only a call for attention, but a plea to be victimized.

Modern feminism seems to contradict itself. We work to be a part of the workforce, yet complain that we still work under the shadows of men. We claim that our only intentions are to empower women, yet if that woman is a Republican, we call her names and find reasons to pick apart why she is a disgrace. Take Kellyanne Conway, the manager for Donald Trump's 2016 campaign, for example. Is she less of a woman or less worthy of at least human decency solely because she supports an unpopular candidate by feminists? I certainly do not think so. This "brand" of feminism is doing more harm to girls than good. When there were nothing but good intentions, we got so far! Fighting for what is right and what is just both morally, and legally as citizens of the United States worthy of fair treatment. How did it come to so much entitlement, complaining, and using what should be a movement held special to our hearts to our advantage?

I would like to consider myself a feminist… I really, really would. I am a girl with passions, dreams, motivations, goals, work ethic, resilience. I am an advocate for believing in yourself, not setting boundaries, working hard, actively pursuing what you want. I believe in girls, I believe in women. I believe that, one day, with the right candidate, we can have a female president who can do some incredible things. I believe in girl power, being a girl boss, embracing what it means to be a women. So, does that make me a feminist? In some ways, yes and in some ways no. I'm a feminist in spirit. I will advocate for female empowerment and worthiness. But, in a day and age where the playing field has never been more equal, and a time with laws designed and protested by women to protect us from becoming victims, I just cannot agree with the extent we have somehow stretched this civil rights movement.

This is just an opinion... my opinion. It is not an umbrella term for everyone who considers themselves a feminist - many have the same ideals of positivity and empowerment. But, these issues have consumed headlines and have redefined the way many view what it means to be one. Simply stated, I just think the priorities of feminism could use some modifications.

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10 Things I've Learned As Freshman Year Comes To A Close

Nine months taught me more than just what I learned in a classroom.


Nine months ago I moved out on my own for the first time as I started my college career. Now, as I watch it come to a close (literally, because I move out tomorrow) I can see how much those nine months have really grown me. To grow, you have to go through a lesson of some sort. Those lessons all taught me something in result.

Because of that, here's a list of 10 things I learned throughout my first year of college.

1. Naps are crucial if you want to actually make it through the day. 

They're extremely important, especially when you're running on only a few hours of sleep. I never took so many naps until I came to college.

2. Everything adds up.

I already knew this before, but you really realize how much every little thing adds up when you're in college.

3. Home-cooked meals are always better.

When you eat fast food so often, you really come to appreciate a homecooked meal. You quickly realize that it will always be better than fast food.

4. Cable is overrated.

Now, to keep up with any shows I watched live, I used Hulu and Plus, Netflix exists. I realized I didn't really need cable.

5. Saying goodbye is hard.

Whether it's saying goodbye to my friends and family at home or saying goodbye to my friends at school for the weekend, goodbyes are hard. I wish we could all be together all the time.

6. Take time for yourself.

Between school, working and having an internship, I found myself to be under a pretty busy schedule. While I really enjoyed everything I was a part of, I learned the importance of saying no and taking time for me to just breathe. This is why naps are so important.

7. Changing a tire is really hard.

So is buying new tires, getting my oil changed and just doing anything with my car in general.

8. Sometimes you just need to talk to your mom.

Bad test? Call Mom. Long day at work? Call Mom. Unsure of a recipe? Call Mom.

No matter what, always call mom. Even for the good things.

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9. Bringing a blanket to class isn't frowned upon.

I don't care if it's 90 degrees outside; it will be freezing inside the building and you must bring a blanket to survive the three hour class without freezing.

10. College friends are friends for life.

You build this family within your friend group. These are the people who will be a part of my wedding, who will be my children's aunts/uncles, and who I will grow up with. Make sure you find good ones to go through life with.

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You Know You're From Trumbull, CT When...

The best memories are made in this boring, little, Connecticut town.


1. The majority of places you will consider to eat at are in Fairfield or Westport... Colony, Shake Shack, Country Cow, Playa Bowls, BarTaco

2. But if you find yourself too lazy to get on 95 for food, Panchero's is the go-to... never Chipotle. If it is past midnight, the choice always comes down to the McDonalds in Monroe, where you are almost guaranteed to see a group of people you know, or Merritt Canteen.

3. Once you got your license, your Friday night plans consisted of picking up friends, driving up and down Main Street, and, somehow, always finding yourself at the THS parking lot seeing who's car is there because there is nothing better to do.

4. In the Fall, you couldn't wait for Friday so that after school you and half of your grade could walk to Plasko's Farm for ice cream and apple cider donuts... and hope you could get them before the owners would yell at you to leave. (This one only applies to Hillcrest Middle School kids, AKA the inferior middle school in town).

5. You couldn't wait to be a senior so you could officially lead the BLACK HOLE at football games... if you were even willing to go in the cold.

6. You looked forward to the annual Senior Scav, the last week of summer before your senior year where a list of tasks is passed down by the recently graduated class... the official kickoff to senior year.

7. You pass by Country Club Rd. and get flashbacks from the worst Cross Country practices ever. Driving up Daniels Farm Rd. in the Fall and Spring, you are conditioned to yell "hi" out the window to your friends at practice.

8. You knew someone who worked at Gene's gas station... and found yourself spending more time there on the weekends than you would like to admit.

9. You are convinced Melon-heads are real after frequenting Velvet St. to see the abandoned insane asylum with your friends, IF you didn't want to drive all the way up to Fairfield Hills in Newtown.

10. You have had/have been to at least one middle school birthday party at the Trumbull Marriott.

11. You know that the 25mph speed limit on Whitney Ave. is way too slow... and can't help but hit a little air going down the huge hill at the top.

12. The guy at Towne likely knows your name.

13. You never find yourself turning right out of THS... that side of town is irrelevant for those who do not live there.

14. You know to avoid the Merrit Parkway from 4:00-7:00pm at all costs.

15. You know more than you would like to about people you aren't even friends with... in a town so small, things get around very quick.

16. Going shopping really means going to Target, or any store in the mall, for the millionth time that week.

17. The marching band was the best in the state and you would see them practicing, literally, every time you drove by THS.

19. Depending on the side of town you lived, you spent a lot of time at Five Pennies Park or Indian Ledge Park.

20. You would say you couldn't wait to leave, but when you got to college, you find yourself excited to come back to your hometown so you can reminisce on old traditions and make new memories.

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