Demisexuality is a sexuality on the asexual spectrum. It means that no sexual attraction is felt unless a certain type of deep bond is formed first, and even then sexual attraction isn’t guaranteed.There's a ton of myths and misconceptions about it that definitely need to be busted.
1. Demisexuals are just straight people trying to be queer.
People who say this are forgetting that there are demisexuals that experience same sex attraction. There are homoromantic and panromantic demisexuals along with the heteroromantic. Not to mention transgender demisexuals, agender demisexuals, and nonbinary demisexuals. Even if a person who is demisexual identifies as heteroromatic, they are still under the ace spectrum.
2. All Demisexual people are attracted to everyone who becomes close to them.
This is kind of ridiculous. While some demis might become attracted to a close friend, that doesn't mean that they're attracted to everyone. Just because they're close with their cousin doesn't mean they are planning a wedding with them.
3. Demisexuality is just a preference.
Here’s the thing: it would be a preference if someone would rather not sex or a relationship until they and their partner have established a close relationship. With demisexuality, an actual attraction isn't present until they have a strong romantic and emotional bond in the relationship. They are not abstaining, but they do initially have a lack of any attraction.
4. Demisexuals are just self proclaimed slut- shamers
Demisexuals have a variety of feelings about sex and other sexual activities. Some may be only comfortable having sex once they are close to someone, while others might enjoy casual sex for the feeling, not for the other person. Some are even sex repulsed. All feelings about sex are valid in a demisexual identity: the only thing that defines demisexuals is that they only feel sexual attraction after forming an emotional bond. Just because a majority of demisexuals don't partake in casual sex themselves doesn't mean they hate people who do.
5. Demisexuality isn't a form of asexuality
Asexuality means that someone doesn't feel sexuality. The ace spectrum ranges from no sexual attraction to some sexual attraction. So technically, yes, demisexuality is a form of asexuality.
