Defining Your Value

Defining Your Value

Know your self-worth.

Often times people struggle with their self-worth and self-value. To our own eyes, we are never good enough.

Too many people are quick to define themselves by their relationship status, their job status, or by the amount of friends they have. If you have more friends, you are more special; or if you don’t have a significant other you don’t fit in.

Well, you are more than that.

As a confident, stand-up person, I like to think I know my worth and value, however, many others don’t.

When we hear about self-value and self-worth, we think of maybe middle school aged kids or high schoolers that are struggling with their identity. As I‘ve grown older and started college, I’ve noticed that it is still an issue for a lot of people. At first, when I hear someone worrying too much about what others’ think or how many friends they have, it’s infuriating. We’re adults now. But I realize it doesn’t go away as easily as I may think.

The amount of times I tell my friends, “you don’t need a boyfriend” or “you have enough friends” will never be enough to truly convince them. Though these thoughts tend to get better with age and experience, they can never disappear until you come to terms with it and identify yourself. For some, it might take longer than others.

Friends, boyfriends, and jobs and things that fall into place once we know who we are and where we are going. To find the best friends, boyfriends, jobs, etc. we must sit back and let them come to us.

God has a plan for everyone and where is your faith if you keep worrying and second-guessing that? It is easier said than done but we are the one’s who build our foundation, God and us. Friends and boyfriends and other materialistic things that people allow to define them are just smaller parts of the bigger picture. If we are true to whom we are and to God, our friends will find us - life will find us.

Who we are and how much value we have as a person does not depend on where we go to school, who are friends are, or who we’re dating.

Society has set norms for people and if you don’t meet the norms you are lacking something in your life. The more you go out to search for whatever it is you think you’re lacking, the more likely you are to lose it. You are already who you are supposed to be, who God meant for you to be, you just have to take a look inside yourself to accept it. What is here on Earth is not what makes you who you are. Yes, there are tools and fruit here to help fulfill you, but they don’t make you, you.

When I see someone reaching out trying to find a significant other, trying to have the most friends or get involved in the most things, it’s infuriating. Why can’t they see what everyone else sees? You should never lower your standards or take a step backward because you want to fit in. We shouldn’t throw ourselves away for the sake of someone or something else.

We need to start viewing ourselves as God sees us and made us and not let earthly perceptions and values stand in the way.

“People look at the outward appearance, but the Lord looks at the heart”
1 Samuel 16:7
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8 Reasons Why My Dad Is the Most Important Man In My Life

Forever my number one guy.

Growing up, there's been one consistent man I can always count on, my father. In any aspect of my life, my dad has always been there, showing me unconditional love and respect every day. No matter what, I know that my dad will always be the most important man in my life for many reasons.

1. He has always been there.

Literally. From the day I was born until today, I have never not been able to count on my dad to be there for me, uplift me and be the best dad he can be.

2. He learned to adapt and suffer through girly trends to make me happy.

I'm sure when my dad was younger and pictured his future, he didn't think about the Barbie pretend pageants, dressing up as a princess, perfecting my pigtails and enduring other countless girly events. My dad never turned me down when I wanted to play a game, no matter what and was always willing to help me pick out cute outfits and do my hair before preschool.

3. He sends the cutest texts.

Random text messages since I have gotten my own cell phone have always come my way from my dad. Those randoms "I love you so much" and "I am so proud of you" never fail to make me smile, and I can always count on my dad for an adorable text message when I'm feeling down.

4. He taught me how to be brave.

When I needed to learn how to swim, he threw me in the pool. When I needed to learn how to ride a bike, he went alongside me and made sure I didn't fall too badly. When I needed to learn how to drive, he was there next to me, making sure I didn't crash.

5. He encourages me to best the best I can be.

My dad sees the best in me, no matter how much I fail. He's always there to support me and turn my failures into successes. He can sit on the phone with me for hours, talking future career stuff and listening to me lay out my future plans and goals. He wants the absolute best for me, and no is never an option, he is always willing to do whatever it takes to get me where I need to be.

6. He gets sentimental way too often, but it's cute.

Whether you're sitting down at the kitchen table, reminiscing about your childhood, or that one song comes on that your dad insists you will dance to together on your wedding day, your dad's emotions often come out in the cutest possible way, forever reminding you how loved you are.

7. He supports you, emotionally and financially.

Need to vent about a guy in your life that isn't treating you well? My dad is there. Need some extra cash to help fund spring break? He's there for that, too.

8. He shows me how I should be treated.

Yes, my dad treats me like a princess, and I don't expect every guy I meet to wait on me hand and foot, but I do expect respect, and that's exactly what my dad showed I deserve. From the way he loves, admires, and respects me, he shows me that there are guys out there who will one day come along and treat me like that. My dad always advises me to not put up with less than I deserve and assures me that the right guy will come along one day.

For these reasons and more, my dad will forever be my No. 1 man. I love you!

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The Notre Dame Cathedral–Such A Loss Of History And Beauty, But What A Gift It Was To Experience It

Reid shares her story as she is saddened for Paris and the church.


After the massive fire that devastated large parts of the Notre Dame Cathedral in Paris, the 850-year-old cathedral's spire fell. French President Emmanuel Macron addressed the nation to share in the nation's sorrow but gave hope for the future. This includes the rebuilding of the cathedral together and making it more beautiful than ever. "The fire of Notre Dame reminds us that our story never ends. And that we will always have challenges to overcome. What we believe to be indestructible can also be touched," Macron said.

Tyler Reid

Among many others, Tyler Reid is saddened for Paris and the church. Although, she counts herself blessed to have seen it such a short time before it was destroyed. Reid, who was lucky enough to visit the amazing structure this past spring break, remarked:

My trip was filled with so many wonderful sites. Although, because Notre Dame carries the title of most-visited monument in Europe, my expectations were high. When I first walked up, there isn't one specific feeling I got; instead, it was more of a million thoughts running though my head. Once inside, looking at the massive stained glass windows combined with all the details in every crevice, it was hard for me to imagine people actually building this without the technology we have today. This hand crafted masterpiece really is so influential considering people still went there to worship, even after so much time has past and so many other cathedrals had been built. This proves how special the Notre Dame Cathedral really is. Due to my experience here, hearing about the fire hurt my heart, especially thinking about how some of the irreplaceable artworks and all of this history may be gone. This place truly influenced people, including me, and for it to be gone is a true tragedy.

Like Macron, Reid shares in the sorrow; although, for her, it was just from one visit. This proves the amazing impact the Notre Dame Cathedral had and hopefully will continue to have even after this devastation.

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