I get it. Having kids is a big deal. It's painful, it sucks, and it's a lifelong commitment. But it is a commitment that I want to make one day and you will never change my mind.
You may not agree, but I think children are a beautiful blessing. Bringing an innocent little baby into this world is a magical thing. Yes, it will be very painful. But to me, that pain will all be worth it.
Sure, adoption is an option if you don't want to go through that pain. But I don't want that. I want to have my own child and experience all the pain. Because creating another human being is an amazing ability. That baby will be half me and, hopefully, half the person I love. That is incredible.
I want to feel every moment of it. I want to be proud of myself for enduring that much pain to accomplish something truly amazing. Something that not everyone can do. Something that will make me a mother, which is all I've ever wanted to be.
When you try to change my mind about my decision to have children one day, think of it like this. What is your number one goal in life? To be successful? To have your dream job? To be rich? Well, imagine someone telling you about this insane process of pain that you have to go through to achieve that goal. Will that stop you from achieving your goal? Maybe. But it will never stop me. My number one goal is to be a mother and nothing will stand in my way to accomplish that.
You could tell me all the horror stories about childbirth and raising children but you will never change my mind. I love children and I always will. You may have other opinions and that's fine. But please don't disregard my opinions because you don't agree with them.
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Do not hate me for my goals and I won't hate you for yours. We all have different goals and life plans. If you don't agree with my goals and my plans, keep it to yourself. I don't need your opinions and your insight on what becoming a mother will entail. Leave my goals alone, and I'll leave yours alone. It's as simple as that.
Also, don't forget that your mother had to endure all that pain for you to be here today too. What if someone told her everything you're telling me and tried to change her mind? Maybe it wasn't her number one goal either, but she still did it for you. Keep that in mind when you try to ruin my plans.
