8 Things You Can Only Relate To If A Decade Separates You And Your Siblings

8 Things You Can Only Relate To If A Decade Separates You And Your Siblings

4. Feeling like you actually experienced teen pregnancy.


Here are 8 the best and the worst things you experience if you are a decade older than your siblings! Honestly, I think the good outweighs the bad any day!

1. Being told "You're not my mom!"

Honestly, I can't even say how many times I've heard this one. I would say that every single time I watch my sisters for more than 30 minutes one of them screams either "YOU'RE NOT MY MOM" or "YOU AREN'T THE BOSS OF ME". No, I may not be your mother, but at this very moment I am in charge and you will do what I say.

2. But also...being called Mom.

So if I'm not your mom then why do you accidentally call me Mom all the time? I've also been called Granny on occasion so I'm not really sure what that says about me...

3. Being the ~super~ cool big sibling.

This is probably one of my favorite parts of being a big sister. Nothing makes me happier than when my sisters want to show me off. Even better is when I'm featured on the Insta. I love being the one to take them to lunch, to take them shopping, or just have a sleepover. I will never get tired of being asked to come to their schools for lunch.

4. Feeling like you actually experienced teen pregnancy.

Truth be told, sometimes I have to remind myself that I am not actually a mom. I remember the days I found out that our Mom was pregnant, the days they were born, and holding them for the first time. I changed diapers. I go to cheer practices and soccer games. I've taken them to doctor's appointments and picked them up from the bus stop. I'm not really sure how anyone could expect me not to feel like a mother of two?

5. Being mistaken for a teen parent.

I can't begin to tell you how many times I have been told that I have "beautiful daughters" or have engaged in conversation with a mother just to realize she thought I was also a mother. I know I act older than I am, but I still can't figure out the math of how old I would have to be to have a 9 and 11-year-old.

6. Feeling left out of the little moments. 

Going to college was extremely hard for me, and I think a huge part of that was leaving my little sisters behind. I went from being there for every tooth loss and haircut to finding out news weeks later. Sometimes when I go back home I feel like that horrible aunt that grabs your cheeks and says, "I can't believe how big you've gotten!" Especially at such young ages, they're changing so much so quickly.

7. That special moment when you go from sister to best friends.

Although it's sad that my sisters are growing up so quickly, there is something special about our relationships now. They're getting to that preteen age that is both terrible, yet super relatable. I no longer feel like I am talking to children when I talk to them; we have very real conversations. I see them as some of my closest friends and I hope they see me as the same.

8. Embarrassing the crap out of the little ones. 

But also, our age difference means they are still at the age where family members are super embarrassing. Any chance I get, I will throw a silly face their way in public or hug them so tight they can't breathe.

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11 Reasons Why Your Little Sister Is Your Biggest Blessing

She will forever be your go-to Netflix date, your late-night life talk partner, and your absolute best friend.

She's the person you care for with all your heart and sometimes hate passionately. She's the one you misbehave with yet the one who often keeps you in check. You've been there since her day one, and she changed your life forever. She is truly your partner in every crime, your shoulder to cry on when life is too much to handle on your own, and the very best friend you never expected to love this much. She's your little sister, and there are many reasons why she is the best thing that ever happened to you.

1. She makes you want to be a better person.

She's your baby sister, and you want her to grow up to be a genuine and well-respected person, which means you must be that person for her to look up to. She gives you a reason to be better.

2. You were her first friend, and that is a difficult bond to break.

From the day she was born, you were who she latched onto. You were her friend before she knew anyone else, and that makes your relationship unbelievably strong.

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3. She matures you.

You find yourself feeling motherly when it comes to your little sister. Your instinct will always be to protect her, often maturing you beyond your years.

4. She will always keep you young.

Although you want to be a grown-up example in her life, she will always be a reminder to have more fun and to let loose. She also has a better sense of style than you ever did at her age, so pay attention.

5. Your life-long friends have known her almost as long as you have, and they love her too.

You may have been her very first friend, but your friends fell in love with her at a young age as well. You know you've got a pretty great little sister when your friends never fail to hug her upon arrival.

6. She supports your decisions.

This does not mean she will always agree with them, but as your sister, she trusts you to do the right thing.

7. And helps you make the ones that stump you.

She may not have as much life experience as you do, but sometimes this can work to your advantage. She hasn't made as many mistakes as you have, and this can mean she's not afraid to take chances and push you to make scary decisions.

8. Distance is no match for you two.

You could go long periods of time without talking and nothing would change. You'll pick up right where you left off every time, although you prefer to stay in touch consistently.

9. You've become really good at giving advice and looking out for people.

Your little sister will come to you for advice, and you become more and more prepared to give it every time. This experience has also helped you help your friends when they need your input.

10. You will always be needed.

We all want to feel like we are a necessity to someone; we want to feel like we are improving someone's quality of life. While you may find this in other relationships over the years, your little sister will always need you, and it will always be rewarding.

11. She's a constant in your ever-changing life.

People will come and go in your life. Relationships will end and friends will fade, but your sister isn't going anywhere.

The day she was brought home, your sister changed your life dramatically. Maybe you were an only child before she came along, and she stole your thunder for a little while, but you'll forgive her for it. You'll realize that she changed your life for the better. She became your truest friend and your biggest blessing.

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To My Little Sister Who Became My Best Friend

You are so strong. Never forget that.


It's no secret that most siblings go through periods of loving and hating each other before they become best friends. My parents always told us "don't burn bridges with your sister, one day she'll be your best friend," and like most moody teenagers, I would roll my eyes and walk away.

How could I ever become best friends with this person who stole my clothes, who would flirt with the boys I liked, who had more friends than I ever would?

To my surprise, I went off to college, and my sister became my best and closest friend.

To my not-so-little-sister (yes, we're only 13 months apart. Thanks, mom!) who finally became my best friend,

I know I haven't said it enough over the last 18-years, but I love you. Please remember no matter how many times that I'll continue to say it now, I will always love you so much. Having a sister like you has not only been one of life's biggest challenges but one of its biggest blessings as well.

Thank you for teaching me so many lessons in our journey through life together. I know that they typically say 'learn from your older siblings' mistakes,' but let's be real, you've taught me a lot more than I could have ever shown you.

Thank you for being there for me when life gets hard. For being the only familiar face in the halls of every new school, and holding my hand after each heartbreak, I experienced. Thank you for the many late-night Steak 'n Shake runs, and hours spent with me shopping at the mall (because we both know how indecisive I get when it comes to clothes). For the times we've danced in the kitchen screaming Demi Lovato's greatest hits avoiding the piles of dishes and laundry to do before mom gets home.

These are some of the memories I will cherish forever.

Thank you for being the best secret-keeper and the person I know I can always trust the most. You've seen me at my best, but also my worst and yet you never fail to be there when I need you. Sometimes I feel like you know me better than I know myself. Thank you for accepting who I am as a person and supporting me even when others in our family do not.

Despite all of the stupid fights growing up over stealing each other's shoes or clothes or what time we were going to leave for school in the morning (that was a weird one), I don't know what I would do without you. My biggest regret in life is looking back and realizing how much time we lost fighting over the littlest things. I miss having you close to me.

Know that I'm always here for you, even if it's a 2 A.M Facetime call away. You can come to me with anything and everything. I know I don't tell you this enough, but I am so proud of who you are and the woman you are becoming.

Through both the good times and the bad, I will always be here supporting you, encouraging you, and loving you. Through thick and thin I will always be your big sister (even if it's only by 13 months) who loves you. No amount of distance, no fight, and no mistake could ever change that.

A few things I hope you always remember my dear sister: you are beautiful, smart, determined, passionate, and talented. You are so strong. Never forget that. You are so much more than you will ever believe yourself to be. You can conquer the world and reach any of the dreams that you set yourself out to achieve. I know you will! You are capable of so much more than you will ever know. Work hard, never give up.

Through everything that you do, in everything that you face, I will always be here supporting you. I am so proud of you. I can't wait to see you reach all of your dreams.

"The bond between sisters is probably the most competitive relationship within the family, but once the sisters are grown, it becomes the strongest relationship." - Margret Mead

I love you forever,

Your big sister

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