For starters, this letter only stems from a strong sense of curiosity. Really. While I may come off frustrated and angry, I'm actually curious to hear your thoughts on the matter. Just please don't give me an uneducated defensive babble about living in America and having the right to do as you please. Hear me out. And try to keep an open mind? Thanks.
Dear every person who has ever walked into a fine establishment such as Twin Peaks or Hooters,
I'm baffled. I've tried to wrap my head around the decision you've made, but I just can't. So here's everything I want to say to you in order to spark a conversation that we need to stop tiptoeing around in our society.
I want you to re-run your last trip to a place such as the ones I've mentioned above in your head.
Which rack did you look at first? The pork, or the double D's?
Would you have tipped more if your "view" was better looking? Did you hold back on another couple of bucks because she wasn't as good-looking as the waitress across the room?
Did you even walk into this establishment hoping for good food, or because you were in the mood for an afternoon delight?
If they had an advertisement that said "Now Hiring," would you take an application home to your daughter? Your sister? Your wife?
Would it bother you if other men were looking at your 18 year old college daughter in a tied up t-shirt and jean booty shorts? It's funny how fathers joke about sitting on the front porch on Prom Night with a gun, but no one has a problem with her being the Daisy Duke of your hometown?
You make jokes about your daughter not being able to date until she's married, but you contribute to society's sexism of young women by tipping waitresses who flash you a nice view of their ASSets? Would you even want your 18-year-old daughter to work at a place where her body is objectified in a way that makes her have to "flaunt it" for better tips?
You don't want your wife to walk around town dressed in these outfits, do you? Don't you want her to have a little respect for herself? Don't you want her to be valued based on her skill set and what she adds to the world? Instead of the cup size she fills up?
I want you to wear the things these women wear and walk around in front of people for an entire day, for tips. Tie your shirt up. Show off your hind quarters. Let's hope you can make your car payment by the time you finish your shift.
While I don't want to rule out a woman attending a place to eat such as these, I would say the large majority of people spending money at these places are men. So while I'm not criticizing the way God wired you to want to reproduce, and I'm not shaming you for wanting to look at a nice looking girl over a beer and some ribs, I wish you had more self-control. I wish you could understand what kind of society you're contributing to before you walk in with your crew, whispering about which waitress you're hoping bends over to pour your beer.
I wish I could call my family right now, all at once, and tell them I've become a Hooters girl. I have a feeling they'd be on their way to Knoxville to come knock some sense into me.
I feel sorry for the girls who have taken a job that requires them to be objectified in order to pay their bills. I wish they knew how much more of a person they are to this world than just a nice rack and rear-end.
And I feel sorry for you. I wish you were more of a gentleman. And maybe you think I'm crazy, but I'm probably just too good for you. (Don't let the door hit you on the way out, or do.)
Sincerely,
The girl who dumps boys who eat at Twin Peaks.
P.S. Still don't understand? Watch Maddie and Tae's video here.
