Hearts. Flowers. Expensive chocolates. Over-sized teddy bears. Long, cheesy Facebook posts about how couples are "soo #inlove." Valentine's Day is getting closer, and love is in the air. Oh, and so is the CONSTANT complaining from those who will be single on V-Day. In the words of Tomi Lahren, "Anyone else need a drink?"
Let's get something straight right away. Being single on Valentine's Day is no big deal. Let me say it louder for you guys in the back. BEING SINGLE ON VALENTINE'S DAY IS NOT A BIG DEAL. It is just another day of the year and a commercialized holiday, not an excuse for you to throw a major pity party. If you want to treat it like any other day of year, go ahead. (but I hope you celebrate love in some way, shape or form everyday) If not, find something to celebrate other than your own pity party.
If the holiday is hard for you because of serious reasons (your significant other has recently passed away, etc.) This article is not directed at you. If you are a little sad because you just broke up with your boyfriend/girlfriend or are briefly discouraged because you are still looking for a significant other, that's cool. We are only human. However, it is the constant #foreveralone pity party on social media and in person that we have to put a stop to.
First of all, Valentine's Day is about celebrating love. This is not limited to romantic love. Get out there and celebrate! Surely you love someone or something. Don't get me wrong, I love my boyfriend (sometimes haha) and being in a good relationship is an amazing feeling and one of the most important things in my life currently. However, it is not the only important thing in my life. I also love my family, my friends, my dog and myself. If you don't have significant other, treat yourself. Do something you love, have a movie night with your friends, tell your parents you love them, call your grandma. There are more ways to celebrate love than a romantic candlelit dinner and flowers. Who knew?
Secondly, being single is not a disease. I am sick and tired of girls (and boys) as young as elementary or middle school moping around because they are "forever alone" and acting like romantic love is the only way to find fulfillment. It is sad. To those of you who feel this way, I am sorry you were raised to believe this. Carrying on the pity party only makes the problem worse. Here's a idea, how about we find some value in ourselves as strong INDIVIDUALS who don't depend on others for their happiness. Focus on yourself. Sometimes the best relationships happen when you are doing this. Even if they don't, focusing on personal growth can only help you.
It is time to start focusing on what we do have to love. Some people don't have a mother on Mother's Day or a father on Father's Day. Your situation could be a lot worse. You can't replace a mother or father. The cool thing when it comes to romantic relationships is that you only have something to gain; it is okay to want one but it isn't something you need. If you want a significant other, go on a few dates or sign up for an eHarmony account. The constant complaining is not necessary and can only cause harm. JUST STOP ALREADY. A romantic relationship should be seen as something that enhances your life instead of the only thing that can make it complete.
Plus, who has time to be sad when chocolate goes on sale as soon as it is all over?
It's time to gain a little perspective. #endthepityparty