Dear Mom And Dad, Your Divorce Did NOT Ruin My Childhood
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Dear Mom And Dad, Your Divorce Did NOT Ruin My Childhood

From the girl whose parents' divorce didn't ruin her life.

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Dear Mom And Dad, Your Divorce Did NOT Ruin My Childhood
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This is coming from the girl whose parents' divorce didn’t ruin her life.

You hear a lot of different things from the children of parents who are no longer together.

Things such as, “my parents divorce seriously messed up my childhood,” along with “because of my parents' divorce, I can no longer open up emotionally,” and even “my parents' divorce ruined my view on love, causing me issues when it comes to getting into a relationship.”

I disagree with all of those.

Though, my disagreement doesn’t override the effect separation had on children of those who divorced.

In a way, my parents' separation benefited me.

That does not in any way mean my life would’ve been worse if they had stuck together, it just would’ve been different.

I believe their divorce made me stronger.

It didn’t ruin my view on love.

It didn't cause me the inability to emotionally open up to people.

And It didn’t cause me issues when forming a relationship.

In my case, the hardest part was simply the hassle of finding a second house, knowing where I was going to be on the weekend and what I had to pack, moving from a private to a public school, and basically switching my one life, into two.

Other than adjusting to a whole new life in another area and attending a new school, emotionally, nothing changed.

Obviously, when I found out my parents were separating I cried, and was as depressed as an eight year old could be... but It wasn’t because my parents were no longer going to be together.

It was because of the change.

It was because my dad wouldn’t walk into my house anymore after work for us to run up to and hug, letting us take his lunch box out of his hand to see what goodies he left in there for us that day.

It was because I had to walk into a new school full of kids I’d never met before in hopes to make a new friend the first day, so I didn’t have to sit at lunch alone.

It was because starting then, every weekend I’d be staying at a different house with only one of my parents, instead of both.

It was because my whole life changed from the things I’d been so used to for so long, to things I’d never known before. I began facing more than just one or two new things each day.

But, If you think about it... I had double the friends, a new second home, and twice as many holidays. (What kid wouldn’t love Christmas more than once a year?)

I now lived part-time in a subdivision, when before all I knew was life in the country.

The neighbor girl became one of my good friends. Somebody other than my sister to ride bikes, do crafts, and watch movies with.

It wouldn’t have been like that if things with my parents had stayed the same.

I could now talk my dad into spaghetti tacos, which wasn’t an issue for him because when he first started out he couldn’t really cook anything fancy anyways. (Sorry Dad)

I no longer had to shut the bathroom door when I showered, because it was just us girls.

A lot of things we began to do involved just us girls. Mom even began to call them “girls days”.

So, Mom and Dad, I want you to know your divorce didn’t ruin me.

Without your separation, I wouldn’t be as independent.

I wouldn’t have to work as hard as I do, for the things that I have.

Your separation didn’t change my views on love, and didn’t change my views on anything, actually.

Sometimes, change is good.

And although finance might’ve been tough, and I thought moving to a new school would be the end of the world..

It wasn’t anything we couldn’t handle.

Realistically, I can’t picture my childhood any other way.

It had its pros and cons, but all in all, I’m OK with your decision.

Your decision is the reason I am who I am today… and I am happy.



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