Dear Me,
You may complain you’re single, not pretty enough, smart enough or know what you want to do once you graduate college, but it’s going to be okay. There’s nothing wrong with being a 23-year-old woman and not having a boyfriend. You’re beautiful just the way you are. Never compare yourself to the beautiful models and actresses you seen on screen. You’re young and don’t have to settle down by age 23. You’re smarter than you think you are. You have plenty of time to find your niche. It’s easier said than done to listen to your own advice. But there is no better feeling than being at peace with yourself.
I’ve heard and I’m starting to learn that you have to love yourself before anyone else can love you. I truly believe that. It’s important that you do what makes you happy before you can truly give yourself to someone else. As of right now, I have a pretty good life. I’m only six months away from getting my undergraduate, I have a loving family and group of friends and I’m doing what I love best, which is writing.
So why am I complaining about being single, not pretty and smart enough? It’s hard trying to remain positive about life when you think you have the only issues in the world. I am constantly beating myself up for trivial things that I shouldn’t. Of course, there will be times when life throws you curve balls. For instance, you didn’t get the GPA you wanted, you got dumped and you and your best friend got into a huge fight. But you’re stronger than you think. Life is about taking what comes your way even if it’s something that you didn’t have planned.
Life has a tricky way of showing you that you have to go through some bad times to get to your best. I am ultimately writing this letter to myself to remind myself that I'm doing just fine.There is nothing to worry about. I'm only 23-years-old. Why am I worrying about so many things, especially things that I have no control over?
I think a lot of individuals my age believe we have to have to be in control of everything and if something doesn't go our way immediately we think the worst. We're also supposed to have this ideal life where we have a significant other, an outstanding career and have the latest fashions and gadgets to impress our fellow peers. I for one have been a part of that trend, but I'm starting to think why do I have to blend in with society when I can be my own person?
I can do whatever I set my mind to. I don't have to blend in with society; I can be my own, unique self. I can be a happy, single 23-year-old. I can hang out with whomever I please. I can work in a job where I love what I do. Nothing's going to get in my way. As the great Bob Marley sang, "Don't worry about a thing, 'cause every little thing gonna be all right."
