Dear Fat People,
Don't ever let anyone belittle you. It's not okay. If you are unhappy with your body, then you change it. If you aren't, don't feel the need to change based on some skinny vlogger's opinion.
If you are unhealthy, that is none of my business. That is none of Nicole what's-her-faces business. That is YOUR BUSINESS. It is not my place to tell you that you are unhealthy; I am not your doctor. As a friend, it is my place to know if you are unhappy. Yes, I may be concerned about your health, but it is ultimately your decision.
If your man/woman thinks your beautiful, good. You shouldn't be with someone who thinks body shaming is okay. If they don't think your beautiful, don't try to change for them unless YOU want to. There are plenty of nicer, better fish in the sea that will think you are beautiful.
Don't accept social standards of "beauty." You don't have to be thin to be beautiful. Ask Tess Holliday. Ask Melissa McCarthy. Ask Kelly Clarkson.
Basically, what I'm trying to say is, Nicole Arbour knows nothing about you. Not one single thing. She doesn't know who you are, where you live, or anything going on in your life. She doesn't know if you have diabetes, a thyroid condition, or an emotional disorder. She doesn't know, but she thinks she does. What I'm trying to say is, don't let some insignificant "star" of the internet dictate what you do with your body or how you feel about your body.
As someone who has always been a little more to love, someone who was always on the heavier side of my classmates, I have been through the feelings. Guilt, for eating "so much." Shame, for always having a reminder when my pants are a little tight, or when a shirt makes me look three months pregnant (which I have never been, but people ask me all the time). Under-confident, because I knew I would never be homecoming queen or a model.
But, after a long struggle, I finally realized that I liked myself. I realized I shouldn't be working for everyone else to like me; I should be working for myself. And I was happy being smart, being funny, being beautiful, and twenty pounds overweight. I know a lot of women who have gone through the same process that I have. It takes us a long time to love ourselves sometimes, and I am not here for Nicole Arbor coming in and ruining it because she's trying to be "funny." In all reality, she's not being anything but hurtful.
Rejoice in yourself. You are funny, smart, beautiful, courageous. Don't let one ridiculous ply for attention make you second guess your positive opinion of yourself. The world will remember Tess Holliday for being courageous, Melissa McCarthy for being funny, Kelly Clarkson for her killer voice, and all of these women are so beautiful. Nicole Arbour might think they are ugly for being overweight, but I think she is ugly for being so shallow. The world will remember her for being hateful.
