I’m writing this article based off of a comment that was made to me from a guy around my age. Now, I don’t believe this guy was trying to hurt my feelings or anything but it still pissed me off, just as it should. He was talking about my Facebook profile pic and he told me he really liked it and that I looked good in it. This is all fine and well, and I was appreciative of the compliment. However, I continued to talk about how it was one of the few times that I’ve worn makeup because personally I don’t usually wear makeup. Not because I don’t like it and I think many girls rock the look, but I just don’t like the feeling of wearing it.
So then this guy told me that he thought I looked good either way, but I jokingly said, “Well I seem to get quite a few compliments on this picture so maybe I should wear it more often” to which he replied with “I wouldn’t mind that.” This was a response I didn’t expect. And I first I thought he just meant like he would think I looked good no matter which look I chose, but then he said “it makes you look cuter.”
He backed this up by saying “You’re already really cute but it makes you look twice as cute.” So basically this guy was telling me that I did in fact look better with makeup on. Now, maybe some men don’t see why this would be such a bad thing, but as a girl, getting told you actually look better with a bunch of stuff on your face is kind of a slap in the face.
Choosing whether or not to wear makeup is a girl’s individual choice and she can decide whatever she wants for whatever reason she wants. Makeup is fun and gives us the little bit of confidence booster that we need every once in a while. But some girls also just feel more comfortable without it. Either way, a man has no place to say what a woman should wear or put on their face. It’s like if you don’t like having facial hair because it’s your personal preference not to have it, a girl saying “no you look cuter with it.” Even then, facial hair is still a pretty natural physical aspect and makeup is just cosmetics. It’s a substance we put on our face, it’s not like an actual thing that just comes naturally to our skin. We go through effort to put on makeup. So saying a girl would look better is saying that her natural look isn’t good enough and that she should go through the process of putting on makeup for you.
If you’re a man, please don’t tell me or any of my fellow women what to wear ever. Whether that be clothing wise or when it comes to makeup. Girls, if any man ever tries to tell you how you should look better, don’t listen to them. It’s up to you how you choose to look and no matter what you’re beautiful and no one can take that away from you.
