I am not much of the relationship lovey-dovey kind, but similar to how many other people feel…. I feel as if though I am surrounded by “love” and relationships. I have been the common outsider on several relationships, and these are things I have observed regarding the differences between red flags verses deal breakers in a relationship.

Red Flags

1. Constantly stating that they need a significant other.

Not only is it just so annoying, but when you ask them why do you need someone right now? They respond with “just because”….. Just because, what fam?! Let me know, and then maybe I’ll get it (maybe).

2. Aren’t respectful towards other people’s feelings and especially of those of people they should care the most about (example: their closest friends) or they are mean to their mom (that is never looked highly upon).

3. Always liking other girls/guys pics on Insta, but the plot twist is that these people are complete strangers.

You can creep all you want, but don’t let me, and the rest of the world know that you creep so much. It’s an unspoken rule. So if you didn’t know this before, now you know, and stop doing it. Like my best friend says “I may be peeping, but I ain’t no peeping Tom”.

4. Their self-worth seems to be directly correlated to the number of compliments or love they have received that day.

I get it, self-reassurance is vital and also needed. But, if you cross the line of becoming a compliment seeker then we have a problem.

5. They constantly critique others and/or disregard others feelings but never critic themselves (aka they think they can do no wrong).

Literally, stop doing this, no one has time.

Deal Breakers

1. Cheating of any kind. Physical and emotional.

2. Abuse of any kind. Physical and emotional.

3. They are two very very different people when intoxicated vs sober.

Again take this with a grain of salt. If you become insanely more outgoing or confident (or the opposite) when you’re drunk that is fine. But, if your actions when drunk constantly makes others around you feel uncomfortable than that really isn’t ideal.

4. You aren’t happy in the relationship, but you stay anyway because you think you would not be any happier without it.

5. They lie. A lot.

This may be my own pet peeve, but regardless this ain’t cute. Communication in any kind of relationship is key, and how are you supposed to communicate properly with someone if they don’t follow the basic rules of communication. I’ll wait.