When deciding to go to a women's college, the question I heard most is "How do you meet boys?" I suppose it's a fair question; I myself originally didn't want to consider a women's college for this very reason, but I soon realized that the benefits of living and learning with other women outweighed the cost of not finding a boyfriend at school.
My school knew that this was on the minds of many of the prospective students, and in visitation events they often had a panel where we could ask current students questions, and how to meet boys was always a topic on the agenda. The truth is that unless your women’s college is located in the literal middle-of-nowhere, there will be boys around somewhere.
My school has two co-ed universities, a technical school, and a very small bible college all in the same town, along with other universities and colleges less than an hour away. The downtown area is quite a popular scene, so if you or the men around are brave enough to approach a stranger and begin a romantic encounter, the opportunities are there.
And of course, if you participate in any activities off-campus, such as church, work, etc. you’ll have opportunities to get to know people of various genders to build friendships and potential relationships there as well.
And now to the ever popular online dating. It seems that the majority of young people just don’t approach potential romantic partners in person anymore. The question of if millennials growing up with technology has hindered their social skills is a topic for another day, but it is clear that we use technology for everything from sharing photos of our breakfast to finding our next date.
The app Tinder, (for these purposes I’ll call it a dating app, though some would call it a hookup app), is very popular these days. In truth, many college students are not looking for a long-term relationship, and if finding someone to hang out with for a night or a week is more your speed, then you have plenty of options. With photos and a short “About Me” blurb, this may not be your style if you’re looking to get to know someone enough to see if they are a potential relationship.
Other apps like Plenty of Fish and OkCupid allow users to see profiles, find matches, and send messages, similar to the Match.com style but does not cost any money. With so many options, it can be overwhelming to sort through the studs and the duds, but this style provides information to know if they, at least, fall into the category you’re looking for (race, religion, body type, etc.).
I’m not saying online dating is foolproof because people can still lie, but I will say that at least a fair amount of the people on these apps are single and looking for a relationship, which may not be the case when meeting people in person.
Regardless of your dating methods, you will still have to kiss a lot of frogs to find your prince, but even at a women’s college, you have options. My biggest advice to you is never let whether or not there will be boys there influence your life choices. I used to be a girl who couldn’t go a day without having a crush on someone, and choosing a women’s college was the best decision I ever made.
