What happens after you graduate college?
It seems so easy when you're in a school filled with 40,000 people, presumably half of those males. There are parties every night of the week, different guys around every corner, and places to meet new people everywhere. You are hanging out with new guys every night, maybe you find a boyfriend who lives down the hall from you and date happily through college. Life's great. Then you graduate. Uh-oh.
Dating in the real world is not so easy or so it seems. Throughout the past two years after graduation, I have tried everything, and I mean EVERYTHING, to try and meet guys. Online, bars, social gatherings, concerts, fun events, you name it, I've tried it! What makes it so hard nowadays? My friends and I talk about this on a daily basis. Is it just the area we live in, or is it really our generation, the time we live in and the people our age?
Online dating has become the new norm, whether it be through Tinder, Match.com, eHarmony, Plenty of Fish, or another website or app that you may have stumbled upon. Listen, I have tried them. All of them. Do not get me wrong, I have gone on a few dates here and there, but nothing sticks. Why is that? Are guys not looking to settle down and have a girlfriend like girls their age are? Many people see online dating as a way of "hooking up" rather than dating at all, but where is that going to get me. Still single, with another notch in my belt? That's not what I am looking for and sometimes it is hard to find otherwise. Another problem with online dating is that you never really know what you're going to get. I don't want to end up on Catfish or better yet Dateline. Are they ever as good as they seem? Probably not.
Well, where do twenty-something-year-olds spend most of their time? The bar. Drinking, partying, and out with friends. But the problem with that is, do you really want to make the "bar guy" your boyfriend? The guy that's at the bar every night of the week, slinging a few too many back with his buddies that you flirt with every time you see him. That is not boyfriend material. I don't want a guy that's going to be drunk on a nightly or even bi-nightly basis. I want a man, not a boy.
So where do you go to find a good MAN? Boyfriend material. Not the hookup, the one night stand, the party boy that isn't ready to settle down
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When you figure it out, please let me know. I will still be looking.
