The dating scene seems like a fun yet anxiety ridden experience because you don't know what to expect. You're interested in this person or maybe that person. You want to know what college they went to, their interests, if they like romantic movies or comedies, or even if they enjoy traveling. The list goes on when it comes to who you want to date and how you want to date. For instance, technology makes dating somewhat easier because they are so many apps, websites, and different dating techniques that makes the dating experience interesting yet versatile. Dating in 2017 has been a great experience for some people, but for me, not so much, and I'll tell you why throughout this article.
My personal experience with the dating scene is fairly new. I got out of a long-term relationship over a year ago, and I have been single ever since. I tried this dating thing recently, and it wasn't much of an experience that I have seen on television where you go out on a few dates here and there, a spark ignites between the two of you, and you keep the flame going. I haven't that experience yet where I am fully interested in dating a guy because the dating scene makes it a challenge to date.
Technology
As I mentioned before with technology and how it makes dating easier, well in my case, I think it makes dating a challenge for me. I was never the type of person to try out the different dating apps like Tinder, Zoosk, Bumble etc., because I was always hesitant about talking to a random person via the internet and possibly getting catfished or worse, dealing with a psychopath or stalker. Call me old fashioned, but I am a face to face type of girl that pays attention to body language and how you speak to me during a date or during a regular conversation. I am the perfect example of someone that has to be open to the idea of using technology as a dating resource because like most people, they will never know what is truly out there. So take my advice, be as open-minded possible when It comes to dating!
Expectations
When it comes to dating, expectations comes with it. Expectations can be a good thing or can be a bad thing because you don't want to accept anything that isn't worth your time. I have recently gotten some advice to lower my expectations when it comes to dating because once you set your expectations too high, you'll end up being disappointed. You tend to miss out on a great experience and end up gaining a learning experience from setting your expectations too high. My advice to anyone in the dating scene is to keep your expectations at a minimum because you honestly don't want to get disappointed. There is nothing like looking forward to a great night and it ends up because nothing like you expected but then you have to ask yourself: how can I expect so much from someone I hardly even know? Ask yourself that the next time you plan on going on a date.
Confidence booster
Dating boosts your confidence because after a while of being single and landing on a date, you feel like you're back in the game. You treat yourself to a new outfit, take extra care of yourself and your confidence starts to increase. There's nothing like dating someone you're attracted to and everything works out smoothly because it makes you feel good inside. The strut in your walk changes, a man may check his self out in the mirror a minute longer than normal, and you just allow yourself to enjoy the new experience with no restrictions. Next time you go out on a date, check your confidence and notice how you smile more after the date ends.
Face Your Dating Fear
The dating scene may seem scary, draining or not worth the energy but I'd advise you to get out there. There may be a misses once you get out there but the more you try, you'll land on dating a decent person. Face your dating fear because what do you really have to lose? Your favorite show or time at the gym can wait because you'll never know, you may miss out on an experience of a lifetime. Push that fear to the side!
