I've recently/not-so-recently gotten into a relationship with a musician. He plays bass, guitar, the ukulele... He's pretty good with music. Most young girls dream of dating a musician. They're mysterious, talented, and wouldn't it be nice to have someone serenade you? Well, all those things don't happen, but these 10 things actually do happen when you date a musician.
1. The band
The band is also dating your significant other. My boyfriend is the bassist/guitarist of a band, and he's also dating the other three people of the band. I've accepted it. I honestly don't know if I'd be upset if he came to me and told him he and another band member were running off together. I'd understand.2. You become a roadie
Whether the show is ten minutes or ten hours away, you're right there lugging gear down to some stranger's basement or into some weird local bar. Here are some phrases you might hear from your significant other: "You're such a babe, can you carry my pedal board?" "Where's my roadie? Can you bring my bass to the car?" "No, don't worry I'll get my amp!"
Honestly, I wouldn't trust myself with an amp, either. But really, it's interesting to get to see everything before the show! The set up, hanging out with the band. Most of the time, I'll just sit on the floor in front of a space heater but hey! I try to help when it's needed.
3. You love their music
Honestly, if you're dating a musician, you don't just love their music because you love them. Chances are you're dating someone who has a similar taste in music, and their music is actually really good. You probably love going to shoes and practice and you may have downloaded their EP more than once (I accidentally deleted it the first time, but I hope me plugging the url for your EP will make you happy).
4. Practice
We've all been there: practice Tuesday night and your SO wants you to come listen to their stuff. So, you sit in the corner and watch with a stupid smile on your face. Or, in my case, you're so swamped with homework that you sit at a table with your laptop for a couple hours with the best human iPods there are #win.
5. Friends
You become extremely close with the other band members and their significant others and friends. I have met some of the most incredible people through Introvert, and I couldn't be more thankful. These guys really know how to make great, long-lasting friendships.
6. They will probably judge the music you listen to
Okay, disclaimer: I love music, but I listen to a lot of mainstream music. I'm way too lazy to search for better music, and it's right at my fingertips. It's not my favorite but it's easier. Sometimes, I can feel him staring at my "Now Playing" on Spotify and thinking, "What the hell?"
Even if you have the same taste in music as them, they'll find a way. One song. Maybe you'll accidentally shuffle to Rick Astley or Nickelback, but they will find a way to call you out for it.
7. They'll probably make you some bomb playlists
The best playlist I've ever listened to was the first gift my SO gave me. He opened my eyes to a lot of new music (I seriously love Allison Weiss). Good playlists are hard to make, and musicians are usually pretty good at it.
8. They're super talented
Musicians will always amaze you. I remember the first time my SO played his guitar in front of me, and I remember finding a hidden Ukulele behind his guitars. I remember the first time he explained his pedal board to me (so many knobs!!) and I am honestly still amazed by everything he does. It's just incredible.
9. They're great at jamming in the car
Sometimes, when my SO and I listen to a throwback playlist on Spotify in the car, it'll be an ideal moment. I love looking over and seeing him singing along to Britney Spears or Backstreet Boys, and even though we're both pretty bad singers we have fun.
10. You're their #1 fan
You instantly become your SO's number one fan. I would fight someone if they thought they were a bigger fan of my SO than I am. Honestly, I know absolutely nothing about most of what he does, but I can tell you that it's incredible and he could do no wrong.
