We’ve all been there, hung-up on some guy that we believe would be just perfect for us. I mean it’s hard not to be, he’s funny, smart, attractive, practically everything one could ever want in a guy. When you hangout, things seem perfect, conversation is great, he knows all the right things to say. The only issue is that, well, he’s never really there when you need him to be. He only makes himself available to you when it is convenient for him.

You constantly make up excuses for him in your head. You tell yourself he must just be having a rough week, he’s busy studying, or maybe he’s out with his friends. You keep reaching out, ask how he’s doing and what he’s been up to, but barely receive a reply, if any. Then, all of a sudden he’s bored and starts speaking to you again like normal, acting as though nothing ever happened. For some reason you give in and hangout with him once again because you hope that you can break this vicious cycle and finally get him to want something real with you.

Let me first say that I’m so sorry. I am so deeply sorry that this boy is treating you like zinc when you are gold. I know how it feels and I know you are probably thinking back to everything you’ve ever done and every word you’ve ever said to him in order to find some way to blame yourself for him treating you this way. Don’t. You did absolutely nothing wrong.

This has everything to do with him and nothing to do with you. If he really cared about you he would MAKE time for you, not just fit you in whenever he is free or bored. If he can't make time for you, then he is simply not worth any of yours.

I know how hard it is. He seems so interested when he’s bored, when he wants to hangout. You can never say no to him, because all you want to do is see him, even though you know it is not good for you. I know that your friends all tell you that you need to cut him out of your life and it makes you mad, so mad because you know that they are right. You also know that you don’t want to imagine your life without him, even though you know you would be so much better off.

This boy is toxic. He is never going to change. I know it’s hard for you to cut him off because you think that the minute you push him away will be the minute when he finally decides that he’s ready to commit. I promise you, he’s not going to break this cycle. It’s up to you to step away from it and let him be miserable on his own while he finds his next victim.

His cycle is never going to end, so you might as well just leave it to the next girl to deal with his mind-games and lies. Start focusing on the things in life that matter, and remember that he is not one of them. You are going to move on and you are going to be successful.

This boy is zinc. You are gold.