I Dropped People From High School And It Was The Best

I Stopped Talking To People From High School, And It Was The Best Thing I Could Do For Myself

It's almost funny how social media can mess with our minds and give the illusion everything is perfect.


Sometimes, it is crazy to think about the fact I graduated over a year ago. I think what makes it truly crazy though is how much I've changed since the closing of that chapter of my life. I have failed, but I have also gained so many experiences I would not trade for the world.

That even means moving away from home, from what was familiar to me. My hometown is a close-knit community where everyone basically knows of each other. Frankly, a good portion of people never leave. I knew I had to leave though. I moved to my hometown when I was 6 years old, and felt like an outcast ever since. I've been through three different schools, meeting all different kinds of people, but never finding friends of my own. I had "friends," but they really weren't there for me.

After announcing where I was attending college, I still remember all the odd looks I got from even administration of my high school.

"Oh, you're going to fail."

"Why would you want to go that far away when community college is such a cheaper option?"

"Isn't Temple in a bad part of Philadelphia? Are you going because of the drugs there?"

When I first moved to Philadelphia, I would see the same people from high school hanging out on the weekends, or just even visiting each other at their respective colleges. Sure, I never was close really with any of them, but I missed what I knew. Senior year, I was running my school like it was nobody's business. I was comfortable. Moving so far away from home was unfamiliar and I most definitely felt uncomfortable. I was strangely homesick.

On Facebook, it is easy to see how happy people are based on the photos they chose to post. Seeing the smiles of my former classmates, or my old friend group hang out back home made me want to forget I even took a chance with studying at Temple University. It's almost funny how social media can mess with our minds and give the illusion everything is perfect.

It also didn't help that I had people telling me, "well you chose to move away for school," or "that's what you get for going so far away," when I tried voicing my anxieties and homesickness to my former classmates.

By the time Christmas break rolled around, I realized they were right. What I got from choosing to go to a school not 20 minutes from home was a new beginning that I deserved. My first semester of college taught me I was better off in the long run without all the toxic people I use to be associated with. College was offering me a new beginning in life and I really deserved to embrace it. I needed to give myself the chance to take every opportunity even if I failed because it was far better than what I had back home.

That was even I stopped paying attention to Instagram posts and Facebook statuses because they don't matter to me. Sure, it was nice seeing someone had gotten an internship, or someone had returned home from basic training. However, I needed to move on. They weren't my world anymore, and frankly never were. They were the people I ended up growing up with, but have different ambitions and needed to pursue them even if it is a risk.

I pushed myself hard to get to Temple. Now in my second year, it is the best decision I have ever made. Philadelphia is my second home, and I wouldn't trade it for the world.

However, I wouldn't know that if I believed social media that life back home was better. Having people constantly belittle your ambitions and choices can definitely deteriorate your self-esteem and make you over think if you are doing "the right thing." The right thing, in reality, is what makes you the happiest.

When I stopped talking to the people that made me wonder if I was happy at Temple, even though it is six hours from the world, that was what made me the happiest. I began embracing this new life I live and have people who treat me the way I deserve to be treated.

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To My Best Friend Who Taught Me What True Friendship Is, I Can't Thank You Enough

"To the person who will love you endlessly, love her with kindness and understanding."

Dear Best Friend,

You have been a part of my life for quite some time now. You have seen my good, bad, and ugly sides and have stuck by my side through it all. I don't know if I could ever find the words to truly thank you for everything your friendship has given me, but I am definitely going to try.

Our lives have taken some twist and turn these past few years, but we have stayed strong through it all.

Thank you for judging me just the right amount.

Throughout our friendship, I have made some very questionable decisions. A lot of people would say "thanks for never judging me," but I feel like everyone needs a best friend who's going to tell them how it is, to tell them when they are about to make a bad decision or how to avoid something worse from happening. You have always told me how it is (even when I don't always want to hear it), but I know that I can come to you whenever I need someone to set me straight.

You're always down to do nothing with me.

I think that you are the one person that I can call up to hang out and do absolutely nothing with and have a good time. From the nights sitting in and playing card games to ordering Chinese food and watching an entire Netflix series while I dance around with the cat: I know that we could do anything, and nothing together and it would be fun.

But also, you're always down to get lit with me.

I swear one day we will be two old moms at a bar drinking vodka crans and laughing about the stupid shit our husbands and children do. You're always down to go out and have a good time. Even if everyone else we're with is miserable, we find a way to laugh at ourselves.

You are one of the few constant things in my life.

I've lost a lot of friends in my life, but you have stayed by my side through everything. I can't remember the last time we actually fought about anything, but even when we do we can't stay mad at each other for more than a day. I know we will be in each other's lives until we literally keel over.

I want you yo know that you're the strongest person I know.

You've dealt with things that not many people go through ever in their life. You have always been so mature, and you handle everything with grace. You inspire me every day with your goals and successes and I am so proud of you and all of your accomplishments.

Above all else, you deserve the world.

It's so easy to get caught up in your own mind and think that you deserve the things that happen to you, but please know that the only thing you deserve is happiness. Please settle for nothing short of that. It may take a bit to find your happiness, but I will be there every step of the way. You're a remarkable human being, and I want nothing but the best for you.

To the person who will hold your heart someday, please do not break it. To the person who may wrong you, you will regret it forever. To the person who will love you endlessly, love her with kindness and understanding.

You, my best friend, future bridesmaid, godmother of my children, the person to bail me out of jail, the one who lets me cry on their couch for twelve hours,

I love you.

I will cherish our friendship forever. Thank you for being you.

Love always,

Your best friend.

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Sandra Bullock Is More Than Just The Lady From Bird Box

How dare you call her just the lady...?


Sandra Bullock is the lead actress of the new Netflix movie Bird Box. This movie has received so many good reviews. Also, there has been memes on social media about the movie. It's become very popular, so even people who haven't seen the movie know about the movie. For example, a meme would say:


However, there was this one disrespectful tweet.

This generation does not know who Sandra Bullock is. This is wrong because Sandra Bullock amazing. People watched Bird Box and discovered who Sandra Bullock was. I watched Bird Box because of Sandra Bullock. She is the reason why I had a great childhood. Let's not forget about all the movies that made her famous. There's many: A Time to Kill, Hope Floats, Practical Magic, Miss Congeniality, Two Weeks Notice, Miss Congeniality 2: Armed and Fabulous, The Proposal (one of my favorite movies), The Blind Side, The Heat, Gravity, and Ocean's 8.

All these movies are the best of the best and this generation needs to watch these movies to realize that Sandra Bullock isn't just the lady from Bird Box. She is an extraordinary actress and human being, and her greatness should be recognized. Period.

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