I Dropped People From High School And It Was The Best

I Stopped Talking To People From High School, And It Was The Best Thing I Could Do For Myself

It's almost funny how social media can mess with our minds and give the illusion everything is perfect.


Sometimes, it is crazy to think about the fact I graduated over a year ago. I think what makes it truly crazy though is how much I've changed since the closing of that chapter of my life. I have failed, but I have also gained so many experiences I would not trade for the world.

That even means moving away from home, from what was familiar to me. My hometown is a close-knit community where everyone basically knows of each other. Frankly, a good portion of people never leave. I knew I had to leave though. I moved to my hometown when I was 6 years old, and felt like an outcast ever since. I've been through three different schools, meeting all different kinds of people, but never finding friends of my own. I had "friends," but they really weren't there for me.

After announcing where I was attending college, I still remember all the odd looks I got from even administration of my high school.

"Oh, you're going to fail."

"Why would you want to go that far away when community college is such a cheaper option?"

"Isn't Temple in a bad part of Philadelphia? Are you going because of the drugs there?"

When I first moved to Philadelphia, I would see the same people from high school hanging out on the weekends, or just even visiting each other at their respective colleges. Sure, I never was close really with any of them, but I missed what I knew. Senior year, I was running my school like it was nobody's business. I was comfortable. Moving so far away from home was unfamiliar and I most definitely felt uncomfortable. I was strangely homesick.

On Facebook, it is easy to see how happy people are based on the photos they chose to post. Seeing the smiles of my former classmates, or my old friend group hang out back home made me want to forget I even took a chance with studying at Temple University. It's almost funny how social media can mess with our minds and give the illusion everything is perfect.

It also didn't help that I had people telling me, "well you chose to move away for school," or "that's what you get for going so far away," when I tried voicing my anxieties and homesickness to my former classmates.

By the time Christmas break rolled around, I realized they were right. What I got from choosing to go to a school not 20 minutes from home was a new beginning that I deserved. My first semester of college taught me I was better off in the long run without all the toxic people I use to be associated with. College was offering me a new beginning in life and I really deserved to embrace it. I needed to give myself the chance to take every opportunity even if I failed because it was far better than what I had back home.

That was even I stopped paying attention to Instagram posts and Facebook statuses because they don't matter to me. Sure, it was nice seeing someone had gotten an internship, or someone had returned home from basic training. However, I needed to move on. They weren't my world anymore, and frankly never were. They were the people I ended up growing up with, but have different ambitions and needed to pursue them even if it is a risk.

I pushed myself hard to get to Temple. Now in my second year, it is the best decision I have ever made. Philadelphia is my second home, and I wouldn't trade it for the world.

However, I wouldn't know that if I believed social media that life back home was better. Having people constantly belittle your ambitions and choices can definitely deteriorate your self-esteem and make you over think if you are doing "the right thing." The right thing, in reality, is what makes you the happiest.

When I stopped talking to the people that made me wonder if I was happy at Temple, even though it is six hours from the world, that was what made me the happiest. I began embracing this new life I live and have people who treat me the way I deserve to be treated.

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20 Phrases All Roommates Say To Each Other

Some common phrases all roommates have said to each other at some point.

1. Do I have to go to class?

2. When do you have class today?

3. Want to get lunch before your next class?

4. Do you think I need to wash my hair? I can’t tell if it’s greasy.

5. What’s the weather? I don’t know what to wear.

6. Are you going out tonight?

7. What should I wear tonight?

8. Can I borrow a shirt?

9. We have to watch *insert Netflix show here*.

10. Want to order in dinner tonight?

11. We have to take a cute picture tonight so I can Instagram.

12. Is this a good caption for my Instagram? How’s the edit?

13. Ok I instagrammed … go like and comment.

14. We should probably clean our room soon.

15. Can I borrow your *insert random item here*

16. I’m so hungry.

17. I think it’s time to do our laundry.

18. I’m going to start eating healthy and go to the gym more.

19. The dining hall menu is so bad today.

20. Thanks for being my best friend.

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An Open Letter To The Friend Who Continues To Save My Life

No one knows me like you do.


From the day we became friends, we have always had nothing but support for one another. Although we have only really been friends for about seven years now, I feel as if you have always been a part of my life. You know me just as well as you know yourself, and I understand you in the same way I understand my own thoughts and feelings.

You have never made me feel pressured, insecure, or unappreciated. The mutual respect we have for one another is unmatched. We can talk to each other about anything; from some of the most trivial topics to entire life philosophies. We have grown and matured together, and I couldn't be more proud of the person you are today.

We don't always agree on everything, and I always appreciate your fresh point of view, but I have never felt more in sync with another person than I do with you. We share the same birth month, the same age, the same home town, the same anxieties, and many of the same attitudes and values.

I feel as if you know exactly when I want to be alone and when I need company. Since we are both introverted, we understand that the other person needs time to recharge. And when I'm sitting alone with nothing to do, I always get a text from you asking to hang out.

In some of my loneliest, most vulnerable moments, you have been there. When I question how many true friends I really have, you are always sure to make your love for me known.

Through high school, and now college, we have experienced so many life-changing events together. Some that have taught us extremely valuable lessons, and others that have shown us incredible pain and how to grow from our lowest moments.

I want to thank you for showing me what life-long friendship looks like. Thank you for always understanding me and never putting too much pressure on me. I see an incredible future for both of us no matter where each of our lives takes us.

We will always share a unique connection that cannot be separated by any distance. But, for now, I'm glad you're only one text or phone call away.

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