When you’re in college, it seems like everyone around you is in a relationship. It is almost as if love flows around the campus like a sweet fragrance. Well, I must be one of the few who isn’t picking up the scent because I have yet to find a man worth keeping in college. I swear every time I open up my Facebook, someone new has posted his or her engagement. Is being single in college such a crime? Well of course not! But your close college girl friends sure do make you feel like a convict sometimes. “Maybe if you would quit turning guys away, you would have a boyfriend!” “We need to find you a man!” As much as I appreciate their concern and effort in finding me a date, I think I am doing just fine.

Of course I have given the college dating life a shot. I’ve been on a couple dates, and the boys have always seemed so sweet and respecting. That is, until the date was over and they expected something in return. I am definitely not stereotyping, but sadly too many college guys are the type who expect you to let them use your body simply because they bought you a nice meal and a movie ticket. As a girl with strong, Christian morals, I refuse to let a man use me for his own pleasure and call it “love.” If a man actually loves you, he will love you for your personality, not your body.

I know this may be shocking news, but maybe I am attending college to actually get an education. Perhaps I am paying for a degree instead of a relationship. I am a hard working woman who is on her way to becoming a doctor. I can’t let distractions stand in my way from reaching my goals in life. If God sneaks Mr. Right into my life through college, then it must be His plan, but I will definitely not chase after someone and let them steer me away from what I really want in life. As a college student, my whole life is ahead of us. Why are college students always trying to rush into everything? Go to college and get what you paid for. An education.

So if you are also single in college, don’t fret! Focus on making yourself a better person and preparing your heart to love someone the way God loves us; unconditionally. Fall in love with God before you fall in love with any man. God will fulfill every need and surpass all expectations of any human being. If Mr. Right comes around, love that man with all your heart. Care for him and his family as if they are your own. Sounds exciting, right? While you wait for him, pray for him and his family. You make not know who he may be yet, but God does. There is a grand design for your life and God is holding the blueprints.