Same-sex schools are a double-edged sword.

Confessions Of A Teenage Queen (All-Girls School Version)

Same-sex schools are the walking contradictions of the institution world.


Me: So, I went to an all-girls school.

From boys: "Woah, what was that like?" Then followed by a smirk and amusement.

From girls: "Woah, what was THAT like?" Followed by a look of shock and surprise.

We can get into the sexist and creepy connotations of these comments, but the focus here is the utter disconnect most people have with same-sex institutions. Same-sex schools, which typically come in small sizes, are on the decline as private schools increase in price and its significant difference to regular public schools are becoming less apparent. Nuns don't discipline students, resources are becoming more scarce, and the general cultural shifts in teenage society has broadened perspectives on LGBTQ+ rights, abortion, and religion that contradicts that with Christian beliefs (a prevailer of same-sex institutions). My parents had put me into an all-girls school to continue a Catholic education and reduce any distraction from the opposite sex (in the name of heteronormativity, of course). Though an education I am grateful for, as I now attend a large, co-ed, and very public university, I look in retrospect that there are definite pros and cons to my four years of pleated skirts.

*Disclaimer: Written from a binary perspective and generalizations to simplify the article. The author acknowledges non-binary exists.

1. So about the boys...


Cons: No Boys. And I'm not saying that it's a problem because girls' lives revolve around boys (note: it doesn't!), I'm saying that you're not exposed to the ease and simplicity of having male friends. Sometimes, you want to take a step back from girl-world and understand the opposite sex better. There's a different vibe with guy friends that you don't necessarily get with girlfriends, and a break is welcome every now and then.

Pros: No Boys. Boys can also bring a different vibe from the classroom, generalized to be more of a class clown or entitled. Girls are like this, too, but the social connotations can sometimes get the best of us and these aspects can be visible in co-ed institutions. In all-girl schools, it can be avoided.

2. Lack of resources? No problem

Cons: Private schools tend to be really small, making it difficult to find and maximize resources because of less funding. I know, we literally pay thousands of dollars for our education, but for some inner-city schools, its difficult to collect these funds. It affects student-life, activities, and extracurriculars. A lack of resources could also be frustrating when funding ASB or service ministry activities, that at some point, you start taking out-of-pocket expenses. Without resources, leadership and stewardship lead to burn-out.

Pros: Since there aren't many resources available, students learn to be more resourceful with what they have. You become crafty, open-minded, and forward thinking with the limited resources you have on hand. Creating things out of almost nothing is a skill, almost a gift, that those in smaller schools learn to perfect.

3. Ask, and you (might) receive

Cons: Smaller schools make stronger relationships with teachers. It becomes more difficult to ask for, say, an extension for a grade, help on an application, and forgiveness for mistakes. However, the real world is not as forgiving. Bosses and professors won't be as understanding when you're late, when you've made oversights, or when you're having a difficult time. In a place like UCLA, a microcosm of the real world, you have to learn to prepare and do the work yourself, and only ask for help when absolutely necessary.

Pros: As unrealistic it could be to always ask for absolution from your wrongs, it is also a strong and necessary practice to ask. Without asking for what you want- setting goals and networking for the right information- how would you reach your goals? The lesson to be learned, compared to the con, is to ask confidently for the right things at the right time. Don't ask the world to forgive you, but do ask it for what you want.

4. More than just seven subjects

Cons: With small schools, and same-sex, there are more than just regular school subjects on the table. You end up on tangents ranging from personal matters to society issues. These talks can definitely sidetrack the learning environment. It also blurs the boundaries between teacher and student in terms of what can be talked about. In doing so, when classes need to be more focused and professional, it could be a little difficult taking a teacher seriously.

Pros: Going beyond basic subjects is where true education begins. Being able to have conversations about how to be a man, Chris Palomo says, prepared him better for this world. Chris attended an all-boys school in Los Angeles, where he recalls conversations about being a better man than your father and being the man you need to be for the world to see. I also remember when I was in school and my chemistry teacher connected feminism in the STEM field so that we would see examples of STEM women in the real world. These are conversations that can be applied to society and/or personal life that same-sex classrooms can freely have while being relatable for people in the room.

5. The real world

Cons: The world is co-ed, meaning same-sex schools don't really help with preparing you for the real world. You can prepare yourself for its injustices and prejudices, but you won't really know how that stands up when you're faced with the challenge of feeling men think you're less competent in the lab, of imposter syndrome with privileged students, and of not knowing as much as you thought you did. Small, same-sex schools are far from being a microcosm of the real world (they are the exact opposite) and cannot provide the exposure of harsh realities necessary to feel prepared for the world's edge.

Pros: Though you're not faced with how to deal with men in the classroom or terrifying imposter syndrome, you do learn to garner self-empowerment and confidence. Gianna Bermeo attended an all-girls school for four years, claiming that such an education "allowed me to become a person with self-confidence, independent strength, and passionate interest in the academic world." Besides empowerment, it also fostered her understanding of social justice, PoC struggles, and LGBTQ+ community struggles. Geared with these resources, Bermeo feels prepared to face the challenges she knows will come her way. Though it cannot offer you real challenges, it does help with developing resources to cope with it.

Even though same-sex schools don't prepare you for realistic aspects of the real world, it does give you the tools and resources you need to navigate around it. You just have to know how to utilize these resources to the best of your ability to maximize your potential.

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A Beginner's Guide to Milwaukee Sports

Part I: The Bucks


Being a college student in Milwaukee has its perks, especially for sports fans. Now, while some may have brought their hometown teams to college, others (myself included) may have warmed up to the Cream City teams without knowing much about them. If this is the case for you, then these pointers can help you start enjoying Milwaukee basketball without looking and sounding like a bandwagon fan.

Quick History

Here are some facts about the Bucks that can make you feel more knowledgeable about the franchise:

- They have only won one championship (back in 1971) and have lost one NBA Finals series (1974) (Land of Basketball)

- They have only had one* MVP-caliber player in Kareem Abdul-Jabbar (#33) during the 1971, 1972, and 1974 seasons (Land of Basketball)

- Other Notable Players Include: Oscar Robertson (#1), Sidney Moncrief (#4), Jon McGlocklin (#14) and Ray Allen (#34) (Land of Basketball)

*Giannis Antetokounmpo may win the MVP award this year


Gear Up

This one is a bit of a no-brainer. Wearing team's colors or spirit wear is a must, especially if you're going to a game. Most items like hats and t-shirts are perfectly acceptable, and these are great if you're not trying to break the bank. Buying your gear from a sporting goods store will usually be cheaper than buying them from the team store (the main one of which is located in Fiserv Forum). Most online stores like, Fanatics, Fansedge, and sometimes even the team's online store will have sales on sports gear, so getting a good deal on team wear is always a plus!

A Word of Caution: Jerseys

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If you're willing to go the extra mile, buying a jersey can really get you into locked in and pumped for the live action. However, it should be kept in mind that official Nike NBA jerseys range from $110-$250, so they definitely are an investment. While there are other options available like the FastBreak jerseys by Fanatics, they are a simpler (still official) knockoff of the Nike jerseys. Also; beware buying sale jerseys. There are usually three reasons why jerseys are ever on sale (aside from a storewide sale): a player is injured, a player doesn't play much and is about to be traded, or a player has been traded. While there is nothing wrong with having the jersey of a player who went on to another team (like Kareem and Allen), you are not exactly going to get brownie points for wearing a Jabari Parker or a Thon Maker jersey anytime soon.

Know The Current Squad

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Everyone in Milwaukee has heard of Giannis Antetokounmpo, but who else is part of the supporting cast?

Starting Five for the 2018-2019 Milwaukee Bucks (Basketball Reference):

- #6 Eric Bledsoe at Point Guard

- #13 Malcolm "The President" Brogdon at Shooting Guard

- #22 Khris "Money" Middleton at Small Forward

- #34 Giannis "The Greek Freak" Antetokounmpo at Power Forward

- #11 Brook "Splash Mountain" Lopez at Center

Student Perk

Using your university email, you can get special discount ticket offers for home games by signing up for the Bucks' Student Rush Program. Tickets usually start at $15 per ticket, and the seats available may depend on who the Bucks are playing (and how well they are doing during the season).

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Don't be afraid to get into it! The Bucks are an amazing team to watch and they love Bucks Nation. In addition to cheering at games, going to team events and player appearances can be great ways to make memories and even get an autograph or two!

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