I always thought I would wait until I was well done with college before I got married. I would be in a relationship for at least two years, have a steady job, and be financially stable... I am none of these things.

My 6-month wedding anniversary is less than two weeks away, I am a senior in college, I have no idea where I'm going to graduate school and I just applied for a job at a coffee shop.

Looking at my wedding prerequisites, I wasn't "ready" to get married, but that doesn't matter.

Let's just say things don't always turn out the way we think they will, and I've discovered it is impossible to "be ready" for the majority of life changes.

I don't think you can be ready for college. You can bring all the right books, organizational devices, and read all the advice on Pinterest, but your experience will be different than what you read about. The life skills you learn in college are learned by going through college, not because you were well prepared.

I was not ready to study abroad in Thailand. I read about what to pack, I scheduled my classes, I paid for the trip and brought spending money. Nothing could have prepared me for what it would be like to hop in a taxi with a driver that speaks no English. Nothing could have prepared me for the homesickness, or how weird it would feel to make new friends. Thailand was the experience of a lifetime, and I can't believe some people choose not to travel because they "aren't ready." Preparing for Thailand taught me nothing, being in Thailand taught me a whole heck of a lot.

I wasn't ready to get married! Every single day my husband and I are confronted with a new "adult problem" to figure out. We have to learn to communicate effectively, how to shop for groceries, and how to cook when we like different foods. He gets annoyed because I leave the cabinets open and forget to turn off the lights. And it drives me crazy when he returns empty peanut butter and jelly jars to the fridge instead of washing them out. He's more of a saver and I'm more of a spender. We learn these things as we go, and not before.

I think most people would tell you that their marriage didn't meet all of their expectations. That doesn't mean they don't have a great marriage, it just means that life is never what we expect. My husband and I didn't wait to get married until we had eliminated unknowns such as a job, kids, or finances; we waited until we knew that all of the unknowns wouldn't matter as long as we could figure them out together.

I do think you must be committed to marriage. Committed to stick it out no matter how much you realize you and your spouse weren't "ready" for this.

Why do we talk ourselves out of amazing opportunities because we believe we haven't done what society tells us to do in order to "be ready"?

Readiness is for people who trust in their own ability to prepare, but I want to live a life trusting God. I want to live a life that's too big to be ready for.