Communication Is Important

Communication Is Important

Whether it's your friend or significant other, you should feel comfortable talking and sharing your thoughts with them. Let them know how much you love having them in your life.
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When you adopt a puppy, you quickly learn that you have to train them. They could be chewing up your pillows or making a mess on the carpet. In order to stop that behavior, you scold them and let them know you dislike what they are doing. On the other hand, if they are behaving well, you reward them by giving them praise and treats. They start to learn what they must do to receive a positive reaction.

I’m not relating people to dogs, but we aren’t that different. If we spend an entire week studying for an exam, we hope to get a good grade on it. If we don’t then we begin to shut down and feel as though we can’t achieve our goal. But if we do get the grade we expect, we celebrate and continue to push ourselves since we know we are on the right track.

We should be treating our relationships and friendships similarly. By communicating to your friend or significant other that you appreciate how they treat you, they will know they’re doing something right. In contrast, when someone you care about treats you poorly and/or you dislike how they are acting, please communicate that to them. If you want someone in your life, you should show them the respect they deserve. Give them the opportunity to change their ways.

In any case, keeping someone in the dark is never the answer. Even though it would be a cool superpower, no one can read your mind. Bottling it all up will just cause you to eventually blow up in their face. Don’t delay the inevitable. Especially if you are upset, ignoring someone does not solve anything. Meet up with them in person. Texting a serious discussion is difficult since you can’t hear or see their sincerity which then leaves everything up for interpretation. Indeed, people feel more comfortable hiding behind a screen. That just allows them to lash out and not know the immediate repercussions of what they have said. I bet I’m not the only one who has sat on their bed, crying about a text that I had just received.

Nevertheless, there are cases where communication may not solve the problem. My sorority had a “healthy relationships” workshop this past week. We said communication was one attribute that would define a healthy relationship (platonic or romantic). One thing that stuck out to me was a term I hadn’t heard before – gaslighting. “Gaslight” is a verb meaning to “manipulate (someone) by psychological means into questioning their own sanity.” Some warning signs include: they tell blatant lies, their actions do not match their words, and they tell you or others that you are crazy. If any of these happen when you confront them, consider talking to your support system and see if they have noticed any of these signs. You deserve so much better than someone who does that to you.

All in all, talking to someone and telling them how you feel will benefit both of you. You can learn a lot about someone by having a heart-to-heart with them.

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Dear Mom, I Hope You Know

I hope you know that I am here for you--until the very end.
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Dear Mom,

I hope you know that I appreciate you.

You are the hardest working woman I know, continuously putting your family before yourself. Thank you for doing all of the tedious jobs that no one wants to do like keeping the house in order, cooking the food, and doing the laundry. Thank you for constantly putting up with my siblings and I. Thank you for always supporting us in our interests and hobbies. Thank you for investing in our daily lives and listening to our minor problems. Thank you for always loving us unconditionally.

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I hope you know I'm sorry.

I know I can be a big pain in the butt sometimes, and for that I'm sorry. I'm sorry for yelling at you, arguing with you, not listening to you, and making dumb decisions at times, but thank you for loving me anyways. Thank you for helping me stand back up, teaching me right from wrong, and pushing me to be the very best version of me.

I hope you know your love inspires me.

You live your life with a love that is contagious. Whether its nurturing love, tough love, friendly love, or romantic love, you have it all and you show it daily. The love you and Dad share is something I hope to find one day and the love you have for your family is evident in the way you constantly put us first.

I hope you know that you are my biggest role model and hero.

Ever since I was a little girl, you have been the person I have looked to in my life. You are strong, independent, confident, loving, supportive, and nurturing-- everything I strive to be as a woman and as a future mother. You give the best advice, even when I don't always take it. Though, I should know better by now because mothers always know best. Without you in my life, I honestly don't know where I'd be.

I hope you know that you are my best friend.

Not only are you my biggest cheerleader supporting me in everything I do, you are the person I talk to about everything, whether it's good or bad. I'm honestly so thankful for the relationship we share because I've had countless screwups and you literally give the best advice. Seriously, thank you for being the person I can count on at all times, at any time of the day or even night to just talk with. I mean we really do have some of the best conversations, best laughs, best cries (when needed), and the most fun watching cheesy chick flicks together or going on crazy shopping adventures.

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I hope you know that I am here for you--until the very end.

I don't mean to make you cry or anything -- even though you probably already are, but I want you to know that when the time comes, I'm going to be there for you just like all of these years you've been here for me. I will be there to support you, talk with you, laugh with you, cry with you, and love you for all of my life.

Honestly, I can't really imagine my life without you -- but it doesn't matter because I wouldn't be here without you, so here's to you.

Thank you for being you.

Love you lots!

Your daughter.

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If Only My Best Friend Wasn't 749 Miles Away

Distance really doesn't change a thing.

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People say that absence makes the heart grow fonder and maybe it does, but all I have learned from being so far away from my truest friend is that distance doesn't change anything. She is still the same kind of friend she was when she lived two miles down the road. I still call her when I've had a bad day or when juicy drama happens. She is always the first person I call when the boy I have a crush on says hey to me.

Distance hasn't changed our friendship in the slightest, but these are all the things I wish were still an option for us.

1. Go to movies again.

Going to the movies was our thing. It wasn't a once a week thing either, multiple nights were spent at the movie theatre and honestly our best memories come from the drives to and from some really great and even some really bad 9:00 pm movies.

2. Eat dinner together. 

You forget how precious your favorite restaurant is until you can't eat it with your bestie anymore. You know that place you eat at least 4 times a week? Yea, try going again and not having your best dinner date with you... it changes everything.

3. Not study together. 

Picture this - night before a huge test, you're sitting at a table with your friend and all of a sudden you're planning a Christmas cruise. Failing out of college just isn't the same on your own.

4. Have someone to go everywhere with you. 

Yes you have other friends, but the thing about that one best friend is they never say no when you want to go somewhere. It is just understood that you won't go alone.

5. Get a ride. 

Picking you up from class, a date, anything it just isn't the same when you're trying to escape and you have to drive yourself or get another friend to pick you up.


Somethings honestly and truly are not the same without your best friend. Even with other close friends all those things just don't compare. Sure, you have people to go to the movies with or to pick you up or even to go to random places with, but the memories are so much different. There isn't always the chance to say "dude you remember that one time" with another person because you can say it but they definitely will not remember.

Long distance friendships are not fun, but they are worth it. Distance may take them away from you, but a true bestie will stick with you always even if there are hundreds of miles separating you. It helps you appreciate trips to Walmart and movie nights so much more because life far away from your best friend is honestly just empty.

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