My mom always told me, "Kayla you just need to be a good person, everything will be alright." And anyone who knows me knows I can be stubborn, more than stubborn. I'm bullheaded, opinionated, driven and when something bothers me I will be the first person to let you know. I'll be the first to admit that I have an attitude, and it can be a bad one. I am as guilty as the next person who has a bad case of RBF. I'm competitive and I will fight with you. Caring for a person who is as stubborn and hard headed as I am isn't easy, just ask the people who have cared for me my entire life (thanks mom and dad for putting up for me). Ask my best friend, she'll tell you that I have a major attitude complex. But what they don't tell you about caring for someone who has such a stubborn personality is that we would go to the end of the world for you.
People who are stubborn will fight with you, will fight for you. We don't just give up on things even when we know they aren't going to work. We will stay because we know that we want to try to make things work. Even in the worst of the situations, we try. These things aren't always obvious to us as they are to other people, that somethings just won't end well. As someone with a problem of being stubborn, I can tell you that it's harder for us to let go than it is for a normal person. It hurts more, to give up on something that we know we wanted to fight for.
Stubborn people with an attitude problem is probably the crappiest combination in the world. We have an attitude, and sometimes it gets the better of us. Even when we realize that we are probably wrong and have no reason to have an attitude, we will still give you attitude because we are too stubborn to admit that we were wrong. We definitely do not want to admit that we're wrong, we would rather be falsely right than be correctly wrong. Sometimes we have to swallow our pride and admit that we were wrong. Even if that means we have to give up our attitude and stop being stubborn long enough to apologize.
Even if we are super nice people (which most of the people I know are incredibly nice and can manage their stubbornness well) people who are stubborn are far more susceptible to RBF. For those of you who are not aware of this more than common syndrome RBF is "resting b***h face" syndrome. It's a condition that causes you to look like you are completely and utterly displeased with society and conveys the message that you do not want to be talked to under any circumstances. Those who bother you take the risk of enduring your wrath. It's not even that we are displeased with mankind, it's just my face. Sometimes my attitude shows through even when I don't have one.
Even though we have major attitude problems and we are stubborn as heck, we will be your best advice giver, your biggest supporter, and your number one fan. We will care for you when you're down, and crush whoever tried to hurt you. We can make you laugh like you never have before and forget your problems. We can be your best friend and when we have one heck of a mean mug to throw your ex if we see him in public.
