Committed Relationships in College: It's Not The Right Time
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Committed Relationships in College: It's Not The Right Time

Go to college for a degree, not a soulmate.

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Committed Relationships in College: It's Not The Right Time
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Before I go on with this article, I want to say that I have so much respect for people who make the time and commitment for each other in the crazy years of being college. Some people are lucky enough to find their soulmates at a very young age, and I think thats absolutely beautiful.

However, not everyone is as lucky, including me. I was in a year and a half long committed relationship until a couple months into my first year at college. We really didn’t have to leave each other, we could’ve worked things out. However, as I was going through the breakup, I realized that he was the right person I met at the wrong time.

Therefore, maybe college isn’t the right time to be in a committed relationship. It’s the time where you find yourself and your own hobbies and interest, and form your closest group of friends. You have so much going for you as far as internships and job applications and studying until the late hours of the night. In my opinion, when I’m in a relationship, I want to be 100% invested. Right now, my heart and soul is just not into it.

I believe that I’m at an age where relationships fizzle out, and the “hooking up” era escalates. No one wants attachment. Everyone wants to be with themselves, but have someone else. I never understood it until I started college. However, “friends with benefits”? Totally not for me. It just causes awkward attachment issues and it can turn into an emotional disaster for both people. You deserve the absolute best from someone else, and if they can’t give you your best effort, then what is the point? I want to be fully invested into the person I want to be with, and they don’t deserve anything less than that.

One day, I know I’ll end up with the man I’m supposed to be with. I’ll find my best friend, and my soulmate. Right now, my time and energy goes into what I want. These next few years are for me. If the person who wants to be with me cannot support and understand me and what it takes for me to build my career, then forget them. Also, this is our time to grow up and learn how to be on our own. I want to learn how to fend for myself and be independent before I take care of someone else. I want to establish my own future before I enter someone else’s.

Take this fragile and adventurous time for yourself and your closest friends, and more importantly, spend time with your family. You’ll end up moving out permanently before you know it, and you won’t have your parents with you all of the time. Go out with your friends, and take some nights to sit in bed watching Netflix cuddling with your pets. Take this time to find yourself, not go looking for someone else. Also, another point is, you can’t go looking for your soulmate, they have to find you.

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