Gender fluid

Adjective

a gender identity which refers to a gender which varies over time. A gender fluid person may at any time identify as male, female, neutrois, or any other non-binary identity, or some combination of identities. Their gender can also vary at random or vary in response to different circumstances.

If you thought being bisexual gave me problems, wait until you hear about this.

I grew up wearing lots of girly frilly things, enjoying things girls typically did. But I also enjoyed wearing clothes made for boys, and girls with short "boyish" cuts, and getting dirty and all sorts of other things that were more "pandered towards boys". Kids often called me a "tomboy" and i kind of just accepted it, because I didn't know what else to call it. But as I got older and studied more into sociology and psychology, and did some exploring on various LGBTG+ positive websites and blogs, I learned a little bit about myself, and how sex and gender work together to create who a person is.

Gender and sex have been widely debated for some time over whether or not they are the same thing or two separate ideas. In western culture the idea that male equates to boy and penis, and female equates to girl and vagina, has been imposed on us since birth. Many Americans, especially those of the christian and catholic type, are raised with the concept that what you were born as physically is how you were meant to be, and you cannot change that.

Well I'm here to tell you different.

I am a firm believer that gender is affected by what your heart and mind tells you. Some scientists have argued that the hippocampus (the parts of your brain that are associated with short and long term memory, emotion and spatial navigation) was larger in volume in women compared to men, which is why they are inherently more emotional and better with verbal memory in comparison to males. But recent studies of a variety of ages of both men and women have revealed that there actually is no real size difference in the hippocampus! The only findings of variation in size was with a study involving 9 and 10 year old boys and girls which compared the correlation of the hippocampus size with physical fitness and wellness--children who were more physically fit had an overall larger hippocampus size and did better on memory tests in comparison to children who were less fit, despite their sex.

So no, people who are transgender, agender or genderfluid ect. don't have "wrong brains" that can be fixed with conversion therapy or a psychiatrist with some pills. Gender is just an interpretation your brain makes about itself! Mine for example, changes over time. Sometimes i feel more masculine and i want to be addressed as "he/him" instead of "she/her". Other days i can feel completely neutral, and I could be addressed either way. I've even had days where I've started out feeling more feminine, but by the end of the day I've gone to the opposite end of the gender spectrum!

Thanks to my mother though, I've almost completely gotten over people using the correct pronouns and changing them every time my gender fluctuates. There are really strong masculine days when i might insist on male pronouns, but otherwise I have the mindset that I am more than what pronouns people use to address me by.

Gender is defined in society by the role "men" and "women" are supposed to play. Women and people born with vaginas are supposed to be more sensitive, emotional, nurturing, soft. In reverse, Men and people born with a penis are supposed to be workers, laborers, stern, strong, and overall "better" than their counterparts. This idea is almost exclusively western built and enforced. It has been shoved down our throats for so long and so forcefully, that it can be hard to convince people to look at it from another point of view. I think the first step to accepting gender as a construct of our minds and not an identifier directly linked to our genitals is to tear down western standards and stereotypes for males and females.