For some reason, talking about sex has always been a rather taboo topic, especially for women. Recently, my friend and I were approached by a man who told us that we, as college-aged girls, needed to learn how to control “the power of the pussy.” He went on to rant about how guys use girls for sex (as if we didn’t already know) and that, in the long run, we would be more respected by not having sex with every guy who happened to look our way. While this is probably true, what he didn’t seem to grasp was that women are just as capable of initiating or “using” someone for sex as men. Who’s to say that I expected anything from my latest hookup other than some good old meaningless sex?
Society has conditioned us to think that it is shameful or inappropriate for a woman to have had sex. Have you ever had someone ask you point blank about your sex life? Have you ever noticed that guys are treated a lot differently than girls are when they openly talk about it? How can men judge the very same girls whom they have had sex with for being easy or slutty? Don’t get me wrong; I’m not saying the fault lies entirely with men, or that all men view women in this way. How can anyone judge anyone else for their sexpeditions?
On the other hand, women need to stand up for their sexual rights and freedom, and stop allowing men and other women to shame them. If we would stop gossiping about other women for wearing a short skirt, showing off a little cleavage, or hooking up, we would be a lot closer to achieving the sexual equality that we all deserve.
It’s time to kick this sexual revolution into high gear. We need to stop worrying about what others will think of us. It’s getting to the point where most girls are unwilling to even tell a guy their real "number" for fear of judgment. I’ve had numerous friends ask me if they should be honest with a guy they’re talking to about how many guys they have slept with, or just claim that they're a virgin. Well, I’m here to tell you that it shouldn’t matter. It shouldn’t matter one bit. Why should we all be so concerned with what others think about our sex lives? Because that’s just it, it is your sex life, so you do you (literally, if you want to).
The bottom line is, it’s okay to have sex, and it’s okay to not have sex. We aren’t going to get any closer to gender equality if we keep letting the men shape the rules. It’s okay for a woman to make the first move, whether it’s socially acceptable or not, and it’s definitely okay to acknowledge your sex life and to stop shaming others.
Hello, sex is fun. There’s no need to feel guilty.
