Come Out Of Your Shell

Come Out Of Your Shell

I promise you won't regret it.

As I’ve talked about in previous articles, maybe too much, I was incredibly shy growing up. I hated it, and constantly tried to be more outgoing. It never worked. Until recently.

I am in my junior year of college, and I have noticed that since I started college I have really blossomed. I have started talking more, even to strangers. I have started doing things I never would’ve done in high school. I have also started making more friends, especially people I would’ve never thought of being friends with in the past.

I can even talk to cute boys now! When I was younger, I was nervous and awkward when I interacted with them. But now, I am just nervous. Not awkward at all. (Okay, maybe that is a stretch, but I am improving.)

The reason for my writing this article is because coming out of your shell feels amazing. I feel like a whole new person, and I don’t even think the friends I have now would recognize the girl I used to be. I think this is mostly a lesson in confidence. When I was younger, I cared a whole lot about what people thought of me. I was worried about whether or not people were looking at me in the hallway, if they thought my outfit was weird, or if I had anything in my teeth. I worried about what I said before I said, and was scared that people would think I was stupid if I said anything weird.

The truth is, I don’t worry about anything like that anymore. I used to try to be liked by everyone, but now I know that in order to make an impact on this world and the people around me, not everyone is going to like me. I still try to be kind as possible, but I also am sticking up for myself and what I believe in. I do not let people push me around the way I used to, and I follow my heart in everything I do.

I am writing this for the “shy” young girl who desperately wishes to be heard and to be noticed. I am writing this to tell you that you can be whatever you want to be in this world. If you want to be more outgoing, you are the only person who can do it for yourself. You have a whole life ahead of you, and it is up to you to make it what you want it to be.

So go, I implore you to come out of your shell! Talk to people everywhere you go and let people talk to you as well.

I am no longer scared of people knocking down my walls and learning about who I am. I am proud of myself as a person, and I want people to know. I am evolving and changing, and you can too!

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30 Things I'd Rather Be Than 'Pretty'

Because "pretty" is so overrated.

Nowadays, we put so much emphasis on our looks. We focus so much on the outside that we forget to really focus on what matters. I was inspired by a list that I found online of "Things I Would Rather Be Called Instead Of Pretty," so I made my own version. Here is a list of things that I would rather be than "pretty."

1. Captivating

I want one glance at me to completely steal your breath away.

2. Magnetic

I want people to feel drawn to me. I want something to be different about me that people recognize at first glance.

3. Raw

I want to be real. Vulnerable. Completely, genuinely myself.

4. Intoxicating

..and I want you addicted.

5. Humble

I want to recognize my abilities, but not be boastful or proud.

6. Exemplary

I want to stand out.

7. Loyal

I want to pride myself on sticking out the storm.

8. Fascinating

I want you to be hanging on every word I say.

9. Empathetic

I want to be able to feel your pain, so that I can help you heal.

10. Vivacious

I want to be the life of the party.

11. Reckless

I want to be crazy. Thrilling. Unpredictable. I want to keep you guessing, keep your heart pounding, and your blood rushing.

12. Philanthropic

I want to give.

13. Philosophical

I want to ask the tough questions that get you thinking about the purpose of our beating hearts.

14. Loving

When my name is spoken, I want my tenderness to come to mind.

15. Quaintrelle

I want my passion to ooze out of me.

16. Belesprit

I want to be quick. Witty. Always on my toes.

17. Conscientious

I want to always be thinking of others.

18. Passionate

...and I want people to know what my passions are.

19. Alluring

I want to be a woman who draws people in.

20. Kind

Simply put, I want to be pleasant and kind.

21. Selcouth

Even if you've known me your whole life, I want strange, yet marvelous. Rare and wondrous.

22. Pierian

From the way I move to the way I speak, I want to be poetic.

23. Esoteric

Do not mistake this. I do not want to be misunderstood. But rather I'd like to keep my circle small and close. I don't want to be an average, everyday person.

24. Authentic

I don't want anyone to ever question whether I am being genuine or telling the truth.

25. Novaturient

..about my own life. I never want to settle for good enough. Instead I always want to seek to make a positive change.

26. Observant

I want to take all of life in.

27. Peart

I want to be honestly in good spirits at all times.

28. Romantic

Sure, I want to be a little old school in this sense.

29. Elysian

I want to give you the same feeling that you get in paradise.

30. Curious

And I never want to stop searching for answers.
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To My Little Sister, Don't Wish For Time To Move Faster, Soak Up The Stage Of Life You're In

Live in the moment and you will come out having no regrets.


To my best friend,

Time goes by quickly, do not wish it away. Enjoy living in the moment you are in right now because you will never get it back. Stop wishing you were in college already because you have so much to live for right now.

I know all you want to do is get away from home and start over, which is normal because I wanted to do the same thing at your age. But as your older sister, and as someone who has gone through that stage already, I am here to tell you that it is not all rainbows and sunshine 24/7.

With the time you have left in high school, enjoy every second of it because eventually, you will come to miss it.

Graduation is just around the corner for you and it honestly freaks me out how fast time is going. And it only goes faster in college. As kids, all we wanted was to be in high school and be able to drive on our own and once we hit high school, all we want is to be in college. With almost being in college for two years, I can easily say that all I want is to be a kid again. We have been wishing our whole lives away since we can remember. Enjoy today.

I see so much potential in you and I am beyond excited for what the future has in store for you.

Many times, you have been the one to give me advice even though I'm the older sister and this shows how caring and loving you are. Life is going to treat you so well and it already has.

There is one piece of advice I must give to you though. Make sure to thank mom and dad and tell them you love them as often as possible. I know they can get on your nerves and may make you angry at times, but they have given us the best life. You will learn in college just how much they love us and how much they have given up just to make us happy.

You have a good head on your shoulders and I know life is going to turn out to be exactly what you wanted. Just don't wish it all away. Some of my favorite times were when I was a senior in high school.

I'm always looking out for you so don't ever think you are alone in this crazy world. Remember, I am just one phone call away.

I love you so much sis, you got this.

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