In just a few short months, I will be graduating. In fact, I'm flying to Ohio next weekend to visit my graduate school. My plans are solid. But still, I am overwhelmed about what's ahead. Any transition in life is hard. It was not easy to transition from high school to college, and I can only imagine what the post-graduation transition will be like. As a college student, you are used to being around your friends ALL. THE. TIME. Once you graduate, that support is not necessarily there. Everyone becomes busy with their own post-graduation adventures. You'll generally have less time for your friends. Full time jobs or even just searching for jobs will completely change your schedule. But, I think there are some things that can make that transition a little easier.
1. Strength in numbers.
Look for people who you can integrate into your post-graduation life. They don't even have to be local to where you are living. Find a friend you can have regular phone calls with. Choose someone who's in it for the long haul. I'm talking future bridesmaid, Godmother of your children. Specifically talk to them about your transition and see how they can help you make it easier.
2. Consider all your skills and be open to learning!
Remember; your time in college was preparing you for the real world. You have a great deal to learn, but you also have a great deal to offer. You'll likely be surprised at the skills you possess! Make a list of the things you learned as a college student, and review it regularly. This will help you draw upon those skills when you need them.
3. Establish a prayer life.
Many students fall away from their faith after graduating. The best thing to do is decide on a time and place you will pray and attend mass regularly. Your relationship with Christ through prayer is crucial, and deciding when and where you will pray will help you remain deeply rooted in Him.
4. Reflect.
Start journaling now about how life is going to change. Journal the following questions, and then talk to someone about them. Preferably your friend from number one.
1. What is ending?
2. What do I think about this transition, and what do I hope to gain from it?
3. What losses do I feel?
4. What are things I had the opportunity to do for the first time while in college?
5. What closures do I want to secure?
6. What do I need?
7. Describe what I experience "here and now" and what I will experience after the transition, "then and there."
Of course, it's going to be a challenge; every transition is. But seriously, you aren't alone. You were made for greatness. You've got this!
