College Taught Me The True Meaning Of Friendship

College Taught Me The True Meaning Of Friendship

I used to waste my time on toxic people, but now I'm just surrounded by positivity and good vibes.
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In high school, I was the girl who was just friendly to people. I never wanted to cause issues, and even when I would get caught up in drama, all I wanted was to resolve it with no hurt feelings. I wanted that peaceful resolution and just to get through that phase of my life without any problems. I never went to parties in high school, but occasionally hung out with some really good friends on the weekends.

I have come to realize that most of my friendships in high school were just toxic. By that, I mean that my "friends" were never supportive of my goals or milestones in life. It all became a competition of who could achieve what, in the classroom and outside the classroom.

Frankly, looking back on those friendships, I don't really know what we had in common. We got along with each other, sure, but there was no true foundation to our friendships. We were friends probably out of convenience even, though we filled our minds of false illusions of "being roommates" in an apartment someday together when we wouldn't really hang out outside of school. Once again, we would text each other but that does not define a friendship.

And the fact that said friendships have fallen out because of social media just makes me laugh. I chose to leave a group chat because of the toxicity and negativity that would just come from the texts. I always felt anxious whenever we would hang out every few weeks since I wouldn't know what kind of mood they would be in or what they might say because of their mood.

Now, I have realized I was a punching bag for their bad days. I would brush off their behavior. I also would find myself trying to making them feel better and even taking on the blame for why they were feeling that certain way, that it must have been me.

For anyone who has ever experienced such a friend dynamic, get out now. You deserve better.

Last semester, I found myself trying to keep these horrible people still in my life. I felt like we had to be friends since we went through high school together. I didn't even realize how unhealthy the friendships were until I came home Christmas break. I cut all ties. I decided 2018 was going to be a year of just happiness and I was going to do whatever I could to achieve it.

Over the past few weeks, I have just been reflecting on how grateful I am for the friendships I have made so far and continue to make. For once in my life, I finally feel like I'm being appreciated for who I am. The friends I have now are supportive of me in all that I achieve and vise versa. When I'm having a bad moment, I know I can turn to any one of them and just vent with no judgement and only love and support. I also feel when I ask any one of them to hang out, they genuinely want to spend time with me.

It feels so fulfilling to finally feel like people like me rather than just just putting on a show or trying to just pose for Instagram pictures.

And even outside of my college, I have strong friendships with people who I only got close to my senior year. Rather than just talking about high school gossip, I feel like I can carry an actual conversation and have just a genuine connection.

So to the friends that I have now, thank you. Thank you for showing me what friendship is supposed to be like. Thank you for putting my broken pieces back together again. And most importantly, thank you for just being you.

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When You Make A Girl An Aunt, You Change Her World In All The Best Ways

When you make a girl an aunt, you make her the happiest girl in the world.

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My brother and his wife recently blessed our family with the sweetest bundle of joy on planet earth. OK, I may be a little bias but I believe it to be completely true. I have never been baby crazy, but this sweet-cheeked angel is the only exception. I am at an age where I do not want children yet, but being able to love on my nephew like he is my own is so satisfying.

When you make a girl an aunt, you make her a very protective person.

From making sure the car seat is strapped in properly before every trip, to watching baby boy breathe while he sleeps, you'll never meet someone, besides mommy and daddy of course, who is more concerned with the safety of that little person than me.

When you make a girl an aunt, you give her a miniature best friend.

There is something about an aunt that is so fun. An aunt is a person you go to when you think you're in trouble or when you want something mom and dad said you couldn't have. An aunt is someone who takes you to get ice cream and play in the park to cool down after having a temper tantrum. I can't wait to be the one he runs to.

When you make a girl an aunt, she gets to skip on the difficulty of disciplining.

Being an aunt means you get to be fun. Not to say I wouldn't correct my nephew if he were behaving poorly, but for the most part, I get to giggle and play and leave the hard stuff for my brother.

When you make a girl an aunt, you give her the best listening ears.

As of right now I only listen to the sweet coos and hungry cries but I am fully prepared to listen to all the problems in his life in the future.

When you make a girl an aunt, you make her the best advice giver.

By the time my nephew needs advice, hopefully, I will have all of my life lessons perfected into relatable stories.

When you make a girl an aunt, you make her a number-one fan

Anything you do in life sweet boy, I will be cheering you on. I already know you are going to do great things.

When you make a girl an aunt, she learns what true love is.

The love I have for my nephew is so pure. Its the love that is just there. I don't have to choose to show love every day, I don't have to forgive, I don't have to worry if it is reciprocated, it is just there.

When you make a girl an aunt, you make her the happiest person in the world.

I cannot wait to watch my precious nephew grow into the amazing person that I know he is going to be.

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To My Best Friend Of 15 Years

You are my person.

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To my person,

I will never forget the first day that we met. It was the first day of preschool and my mom had just dropped me off. As I started to walk into the classroom I noticed that you were sitting alone on the floor crying. Not sure what to do, I went over to you and asked if you wanted to go play. Your face immediately lit up as we walked into the classroom and in that moment I knew that you would become my best friend. Ever since that day we've been attached by the hip and I wouldn't want it any other way.

April Roberson

Our friendship is the one true relationship that I can count on and for that I am forever grateful. This friendship of ours goes beyond our laughs and lake days. It's real. Through blood, sweat, and tears you've always been right by my side no matter what. You pick me up when I am drowning in pain. You cheer for me even when my ego is a little too high. You love me even when you should hate me. But, most importantly, you stand by me.

Our friendship is the perfect example of trust. You taught me that the right people can be trusted and will not betray you. No matter how dark the secret or how crazy the adventure, you never speak a word about me to anyone. You care about protecting my heart from the awful things in this world and when I am broken you are always there to pick up the pieces no matter how long it takes them to heal.

April Roberson

Our friendship has been a lifetime of happiness with a little bit of spunk. Not only do you encourage my crazy adventures, but you're always right by my side for each one. You keep life exciting and you make it easy. You are a true gift from God and I feel completely indebted to you for the role that you've played in my life. Our friendship is so special because it's full of our tremendous amounts of giving, sharing, and most importantly, love. There's not a day that goes by when I don't feel overwhelmingly thankful to have you by my side doing life with me.

So thank you, to my person. Thank you for always showing up for every little thing and making life so much better. Thank you for being my adventure inspiration and my lifelong travel buddy. Thank you for loving me unconditionally through the good, the bad, and the ugly. Lastly, thank you for being the one person that I can forever count on in this life time. I love you with my whole heart and I wouldn't want to do life with anyone else. You are my person.

Love,

Me

April Roberson

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