College Taught Me The True Meaning Of Friendship

College Taught Me The True Meaning Of Friendship

I used to waste my time on toxic people, but now I'm just surrounded by positivity and good vibes.

In high school, I was the girl who was just friendly to people. I never wanted to cause issues, and even when I would get caught up in drama, all I wanted was to resolve it with no hurt feelings. I wanted that peaceful resolution and just to get through that phase of my life without any problems. I never went to parties in high school, but occasionally hung out with some really good friends on the weekends.

I have come to realize that most of my friendships in high school were just toxic. By that, I mean that my "friends" were never supportive of my goals or milestones in life. It all became a competition of who could achieve what, in the classroom and outside the classroom.

Frankly, looking back on those friendships, I don't really know what we had in common. We got along with each other, sure, but there was no true foundation to our friendships. We were friends probably out of convenience even, though we filled our minds of false illusions of "being roommates" in an apartment someday together when we wouldn't really hang out outside of school. Once again, we would text each other but that does not define a friendship.

And the fact that said friendships have fallen out because of social media just makes me laugh. I chose to leave a group chat because of the toxicity and negativity that would just come from the texts. I always felt anxious whenever we would hang out every few weeks since I wouldn't know what kind of mood they would be in or what they might say because of their mood.

Now, I have realized I was a punching bag for their bad days. I would brush off their behavior. I also would find myself trying to making them feel better and even taking on the blame for why they were feeling that certain way, that it must have been me.

For anyone who has ever experienced such a friend dynamic, get out now. You deserve better.

Last semester, I found myself trying to keep these horrible people still in my life. I felt like we had to be friends since we went through high school together. I didn't even realize how unhealthy the friendships were until I came home Christmas break. I cut all ties. I decided 2018 was going to be a year of just happiness and I was going to do whatever I could to achieve it.

Over the past few weeks, I have just been reflecting on how grateful I am for the friendships I have made so far and continue to make. For once in my life, I finally feel like I'm being appreciated for who I am. The friends I have now are supportive of me in all that I achieve and vise versa. When I'm having a bad moment, I know I can turn to any one of them and just vent with no judgement and only love and support. I also feel when I ask any one of them to hang out, they genuinely want to spend time with me.

It feels so fulfilling to finally feel like people like me rather than just just putting on a show or trying to just pose for Instagram pictures.

And even outside of my college, I have strong friendships with people who I only got close to my senior year. Rather than just talking about high school gossip, I feel like I can carry an actual conversation and have just a genuine connection.

So to the friends that I have now, thank you. Thank you for showing me what friendship is supposed to be like. Thank you for putting my broken pieces back together again. And most importantly, thank you for just being you.

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8 Reasons Why My Dad Is the Most Important Man In My Life

Forever my number one guy.

Growing up, there's been one consistent man I can always count on, my father. In any aspect of my life, my dad has always been there, showing me unconditional love and respect every day. No matter what, I know that my dad will always be the most important man in my life for many reasons.

1. He has always been there.

Literally. From the day I was born until today, I have never not been able to count on my dad to be there for me, uplift me and be the best dad he can be.

2. He learned to adapt and suffer through girly trends to make me happy.

I'm sure when my dad was younger and pictured his future, he didn't think about the Barbie pretend pageants, dressing up as a princess, perfecting my pigtails and enduring other countless girly events. My dad never turned me down when I wanted to play a game, no matter what and was always willing to help me pick out cute outfits and do my hair before preschool.

3. He sends the cutest texts.

Random text messages since I have gotten my own cell phone have always come my way from my dad. Those randoms "I love you so much" and "I am so proud of you" never fail to make me smile, and I can always count on my dad for an adorable text message when I'm feeling down.

4. He taught me how to be brave.

When I needed to learn how to swim, he threw me in the pool. When I needed to learn how to ride a bike, he went alongside me and made sure I didn't fall too badly. When I needed to learn how to drive, he was there next to me, making sure I didn't crash.

5. He encourages me to best the best I can be.

My dad sees the best in me, no matter how much I fail. He's always there to support me and turn my failures into successes. He can sit on the phone with me for hours, talking future career stuff and listening to me lay out my future plans and goals. He wants the absolute best for me, and no is never an option, he is always willing to do whatever it takes to get me where I need to be.

6. He gets sentimental way too often, but it's cute.

Whether you're sitting down at the kitchen table, reminiscing about your childhood, or that one song comes on that your dad insists you will dance to together on your wedding day, your dad's emotions often come out in the cutest possible way, forever reminding you how loved you are.

7. He supports you, emotionally and financially.

Need to vent about a guy in your life that isn't treating you well? My dad is there. Need some extra cash to help fund spring break? He's there for that, too.

8. He shows me how I should be treated.

Yes, my dad treats me like a princess, and I don't expect every guy I meet to wait on me hand and foot, but I do expect respect, and that's exactly what my dad showed I deserve. From the way he loves, admires, and respects me, he shows me that there are guys out there who will one day come along and treat me like that. My dad always advises me to not put up with less than I deserve and assures me that the right guy will come along one day.

For these reasons and more, my dad will forever be my No. 1 man. I love you!

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To My Ex-Best Friend

Everything doesn’t last forever!


In the beginning, it was a great friendship! I thought it was going to last for years and even forever. I could see you being a part of my future like being a part of my wedding, around my children, etc.

There were different signs in the beginning, but I never wanted to pay attention to them. I kept making excuses for situations I knew was wrong.

I had never had a friend like you before, so I wanted to maintain it.

Little did I know, it wasn't a friendship that I needed to stay in. It constantly felt like a full-time job trying to be your friend, and it often seemed like you never appreciated it.

There were many reasons that made me come to the conclusion that this was not a friendship that needed to last for too long.

1. I was always the one that initiated for us to hang out

2. Once you got another boyfriend, you acted like you no longer needed a friend anymore

3. You constantly put me on the back burner until you needed something or someone to talk to

4. Our friendship constantly made me feel like I was on an emotional roller coaster

5. I wouldn't miss talking to you whenever we would stop talking because you were rude to me

  • If I can stop talking to you easily and not miss you, then that means our friendship wasn't that significant as I thought it was.
  • I don't hate you, and I don't resent you. In fact, I thank you and appreciate what you did. Although it didn't end well, I still got to experience having a close friend for a period of time. Because of you, I also know what I want in a friend and what I won't tolerate in a friendship!

    I wish nothing but the best for you, and I hope you find a friend just like you!

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