3 Things College Students Miss

3 Things College Students Miss

These would make the (stressful) time of our lives so much more enjoyable.

College: the time to explore and adventure. It’s the time of our lives, right?

Uhm, sometimes, yes. Other times—when the ramen grows low and the stack of exams, papers, and projects high—it definitely feels like “the time of our lives”: the most stressful time of our lives.

We’re doing and seeing so much, but (maybe) we’re actually missing more. Here’s what we let slip by…

1. Opportunities to Lose Ourselves

College is supposed to be about finding ourselves.

But it’s too easy for it to become all about us.

What are you majoring in at college? How is that going to help your life in the future? How do you feel about your campus? How do you see yourself changing? What are your goals?

These questions are okay—sometimes. It’s when they become our constant mental-fixation that we start to miss.

We start to miss opportunities to invest in people around us.

If we are obsessed with becoming all we can be, we forget that people around us are also faltering as they develop into their potential. What if we tried to lose ourselves in trying to serve them? Trying to walk through life with them and encourage the good things we see in them?

We can turn our conversation from complaining about our-sad-existence to thanking the people who make our lives a little better.

We can stop criticizing others and encourage them in the ways they are doing good.

We can ask if they are struggling with something and honestly try to help—with our words or with our actions.

In the time of “finding ourselves” we don’t want to miss losing ourselves (because this might actually help us see who we really are):

“The best way to find yourself is to lose yourself in the service of others” (Mahatma Gandhi).

2. Opportunities to Waste Time (No Really. I’m Serious.)

You might feel like you already do this too frequently (hello, Netflix…). But maybe, you should actually be doing this more—just in a different way.

Honestly, who defines what wasting time actually is? Is it neglecting your priorities? What defines your priorities? Your deadlines for assignments? Your parents’ opinion about that successful career you must devote all your time to achieving?

Maybe your priorities should reflect valuing people as much as tasks, chasing your dreams even more than other peoples’ dreams for you, loving each moment as much as humanly possible.

I know I don’t want to get through my college years never letting myself take time to just explore what interests me. To spend the extra, “wasted” time getting to know the depths of my roommate’s story. To consciously do things out of my comfort zone that develop as a whole person.

I know I don’t just want to spend my life meeting the expectations of others. I want to live; I want to “waste time” finding out what life really means.

3. Opportunities to Hope

College is the supposed launching pad of adulthood. For better or for worse, we are forced to learn “to adult.”

And “adulting” often brings issues along with it. We have to see reality more clearly (apparently); we have to “face the facts” and accept that “it’s only going to get worse from here.”

We’re told of the old age, crazy children, less-than-loving spouse, less-than-ideal boss, and less-than-free life.

But what if we approached this new “adulting” with a perspective of hope? What if we allowed ourselves to focus on all the good about our future realities?

What if this was our future reality:

Excitement—hoping that we will keep learning new things about ourselves, others and the world around us?

Anticipation—hoping that our life would be full of small moments of joy and meaningful conversations?

Expectation—hoping that we have the power to choose each day, to take steps closer and closer to reaching our goals and achieving our dreams?


Maybe if we had a perspective shift, we could stop missing so much.

Maybe we could really see what it means to live.

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Millennials Should Not Be Ignored

Our generation is speaking out, and people need to listen.

In today's society, millennials are often being ignored. We are characterized as "too young" or "too naive". But has anyone ever stopped and thought about how we as millennials may actually have more knowledge on today's issues?

Think about it: the majority of us get a quality education, most at least have a high school diploma or GED. Speaking from personal experience, I know that education is getting more and more complex as the years go on: My parents stopped being able to help me with math and science when I turned 10, and they both have college degrees. Our young minds are being exposed to so much more than other people have ever had the opportunity to access before.

We are also the generation who has been completely submerged in technology. Most of us don't remember a life without a computer, cell phone, or the internet. Generations before us haven't had the opportunity to completely live in a world full of technology and all it has to offer, and that gives us a huge advantage.

We understand how technology works and how useful it can be, as we don't know life any other way. For the first time, we are able to find out information about anything at literally any moment. We are able to connect with people all over the world and find out news the second it happens. Ignoring our knowledge of such a useful resource is not only stupid, but also damaging to everyone's futures.

Something I find completely ridiculous about generations before us is how ignorant they are of millennials, and the experience that we have with all of these current issues in our society.

So, let's talk about gun control.

Now everyone is entitled to their own opinions about gun control and what kinds of regulations we should have, but was I find baffling is how inconsiderate the government, the NRA, and older generations are being towards millennials. WE are the one's who have to watch our friends and peers be shot and killed. WE are the one's who have to practice 'shooter drills' in our schools now because of how normal shootings are becoming.

WE are the one's that are face to face with this reality of school shootings way too often. And what I don't understand is how the government and NRA have the audacity to say that we as students are uninformed, or naive, etc. We are the only one's who completely understand this issue. Honestly, I shouldn't even be including myself, because I have been fortunate enough to not have to experience such a tragedy within my lifetime. But I stand with those who have, as I am a millennial who's opinion is being ignored, and it needs to stop.

We need to be heard.

Our voices are stronger than ever before.

And we demand change.

But shifting off the topic of gun control, our opinion matters no matter what the issue. We are living in a period of activism, and millennials are the head of it. We want change, not just because activism is "trendy" or "current", but because we want to change the world that we are going to live in and that our children will grow up in.

We don't want to fear about school shootings, climate change, pollution, etc in our lifetimes, much less in our children's lifetimes. The generations before us have destroyed our world, and Millennials all over the world are trying to fix it. We are reshaping our world so that we will enjoy living in it.

So, To Whoever It May Concern,

Please do not ignore us. We are a lot more powerful than you think. I, and millennials around me, want to fix this world so that it doesn't crash and burn, but rather becomes better than it's ever been before. Don't ignore our opinions because we are younger, or don't quite have our degrees. We are more powerful than this world thinks.

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Donald Trump and John Bolton: Two Minds Alike

Yes, President Trump bypass his hatred for Bolton's mustache in favor of starting a new war.

Various news outlets claim Donald Trump will fire McMaster and replace him with John Bolton. Bolton made himself very clear that he prefers military action above anything else as shown by his Wall Street op-ed about North Korea and his New York Times op-ed about Iran.

Thus, many foreign policy experts lay caution in choosing John Bolton. However, Bolton’s preference for military action isn’t anomalous. In past administrations, hawkish advisers dictated the President’s foreign policy decisions as shown by Libya and Iraq. Many foreign policy experts think the President did not intend to inflict aggression, but, in all actuality, the President chose to follow their hawkish advisers.

The President follows American exceptionalism, the idea of America as a morally superior country to any nation on earth, and so do those hawkish advisers. American exceptionalism validates the act of aggression because if America is so superior, then the country has a right to intervene in a country’s domestic affairs. All Presidents believe in American exceptionalism, especially President Trump. As a hardcore believer, President Trump wants to engage in a war with North Korea to bring “democracy” by force-and John Bolton can validate him with his decision. President Trump chose Bolton because both of them have a penchant for aggression.

President Trump’s rhetoric regarding North Korea is nothing new. To illustrate, President Trump called Kim Jong Un “rocket man” and pledged to bring “fire and fury” to the country. By mocking the country and their leader, President Trump does not take the country’s nuclear arsenal seriously. By not taking the arsenal seriously, Trump sincerely believes in the power of the American military taking down the Kim regime. Even after he accepts Kim’s invite to talk, Trump still maintains his preference for the military option, especially when he plans to kick out McMaster for Bolton.

President Trump solidifies his stance on the military option after his time of constantly watching Fox News where John Bolton makes appearances. By appearing on Fox News constantly, Bolton will always be in President Trump’s mind. Hence, President Trump wants Bolton to replace McMaster because he and Bolton share the belief of the military option. McMaster and Trump also share the belief of the military option, but McMaster voices his aggression in a tame way or, in other words, Presidential English.

McMaster claims North Korea is un-deterrable because nobody can fathom the idea of a totalitarian regime having a nuclear arsenal. Meanwhile, Trump yells out for flat out bombings and plunder. Even after Trump has to translate his statements into Presidential English, he is still itching to yell out for bombings and plunder as he continues to call Kim Jong Un “rocket man” in his appearances and in his tweets. Bolton yells out for bombings and plunder, too, but in the form of written op-eds and eloquent (to Trump’s mind, at least, don’t judge me) news appearances.

If Trump wants to translate his eagerness for bombings and plunder into Presidential English, he does not want McMaster, who will just say “we’re running out of time” instead of the classic “fire and fury.”

President Trump wants John Bolton, who will say “fire and fury” in the middle of words combining to speak Presidential English to the public regarding the war in North Korea.

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