3 Things College Students Miss

3 Things College Students Miss

These would make the (stressful) time of our lives so much more enjoyable.

College: the time to explore and adventure. It’s the time of our lives, right?

Uhm, sometimes, yes. Other times—when the ramen grows low and the stack of exams, papers, and projects high—it definitely feels like “the time of our lives”: the most stressful time of our lives.

We’re doing and seeing so much, but (maybe) we’re actually missing more. Here’s what we let slip by…

1. Opportunities to Lose Ourselves

College is supposed to be about finding ourselves.

But it’s too easy for it to become all about us.

What are you majoring in at college? How is that going to help your life in the future? How do you feel about your campus? How do you see yourself changing? What are your goals?

These questions are okay—sometimes. It’s when they become our constant mental-fixation that we start to miss.

We start to miss opportunities to invest in people around us.

If we are obsessed with becoming all we can be, we forget that people around us are also faltering as they develop into their potential. What if we tried to lose ourselves in trying to serve them? Trying to walk through life with them and encourage the good things we see in them?

We can turn our conversation from complaining about our-sad-existence to thanking the people who make our lives a little better.

We can stop criticizing others and encourage them in the ways they are doing good.

We can ask if they are struggling with something and honestly try to help—with our words or with our actions.

In the time of “finding ourselves” we don’t want to miss losing ourselves (because this might actually help us see who we really are):

“The best way to find yourself is to lose yourself in the service of others” (Mahatma Gandhi).

2. Opportunities to Waste Time (No Really. I’m Serious.)

You might feel like you already do this too frequently (hello, Netflix…). But maybe, you should actually be doing this more—just in a different way.

Honestly, who defines what wasting time actually is? Is it neglecting your priorities? What defines your priorities? Your deadlines for assignments? Your parents’ opinion about that successful career you must devote all your time to achieving?

Maybe your priorities should reflect valuing people as much as tasks, chasing your dreams even more than other peoples’ dreams for you, loving each moment as much as humanly possible.

I know I don’t want to get through my college years never letting myself take time to just explore what interests me. To spend the extra, “wasted” time getting to know the depths of my roommate’s story. To consciously do things out of my comfort zone that develop as a whole person.

I know I don’t just want to spend my life meeting the expectations of others. I want to live; I want to “waste time” finding out what life really means.

3. Opportunities to Hope

College is the supposed launching pad of adulthood. For better or for worse, we are forced to learn “to adult.”

And “adulting” often brings issues along with it. We have to see reality more clearly (apparently); we have to “face the facts” and accept that “it’s only going to get worse from here.”

We’re told of the old age, crazy children, less-than-loving spouse, less-than-ideal boss, and less-than-free life.

But what if we approached this new “adulting” with a perspective of hope? What if we allowed ourselves to focus on all the good about our future realities?

What if this was our future reality:

Excitement—hoping that we will keep learning new things about ourselves, others and the world around us?

Anticipation—hoping that our life would be full of small moments of joy and meaningful conversations?

Expectation—hoping that we have the power to choose each day, to take steps closer and closer to reaching our goals and achieving our dreams?


Maybe if we had a perspective shift, we could stop missing so much.

Maybe we could really see what it means to live.

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This Is How Your Same-Sex Marriage Affects Me As A Catholic Woman

I hear you over there, Bible Bob.

It won't.

Wait, what?

I promise you did read that right. Not what you were expecting me to say, right? Who another person decides to marry will never in any way affect my own marriage whatsoever. Unless they try to marry the person that I want to, then we might have a few problems.

As a kid, I was raised, baptized, and confirmed into an old school Irish Catholic church in the middle of a small, midwestern town.

Not exactly a place that most people would consider to be very liberal or open-minded. Despite this I was taught to love and accept others as a child, to not cast judgment because the only person fit to judge was God. I learned this from my Grandpa, a man whose love of others was only rivaled by his love of sweets and spoiling his grandkids.

While I learned this at an early age, not everyone else in my hometown — or even within my own church — seemed to get the memo. When same-sex marriage was finally legalized country-wide, I cried tears of joy for some of my closest friends who happen to be members of the LGBTQ community.

I was happy while others I knew were disgusted and even enraged.

"That's not what it says in the bible! Marriage is between a man and a woman!"

"God made Adam and Eve for a reason! Man shall not lie with another man as he would a woman!"

"Homosexuality is a sin! It's bad enough that they're all going to hell, now we're letting them marry?"

Alright, Bible Bob, we get it, you don't agree with same-sex relationships. Honestly, that's not the issue. One of our civil liberties as United States citizens is the freedom of religion. If you believe your religion doesn't support homosexuality that's OK.

What isn't OK is thinking that your religious beliefs should dictate others lives.

What isn't OK is using your religion or your beliefs to take away rights from those who chose to live their life differently than you.

Some members of my church are still convinced that their marriage now means less because people are free to marry whoever they want to. Honestly, I wish I was kidding. Tell me again, Brenda how exactly do Steve and Jason's marriage affect yours and Tom's?

It doesn't. Really, it doesn't affect you at all.

Unless Tom suddenly starts having an affair with Steve their marriage has zero effect on you. You never know Brenda, you and Jason might become best friends by the end of the divorce. (And in that case, Brenda and Tom both need to go to church considering the bible also teaches against adultery and divorce.)

I'll say it one more time for the people in the back: same-sex marriage does not affect you even if you or your religion does not support it. If you don't agree with same-sex marriage then do not marry someone of the same sex. Really, it's a simple concept.

It amazes me that I still actually have to discuss this with some people in 2017. And it amazes me that people use God as a reason to hinder the lives of others.

As a proud young Catholic woman, I wholeheartedly support the LGBTQ community with my entire being.

My God taught me to not hold hate so close to my heart. He told me not to judge and to accept others with open arms. My God taught me to love and I hope yours teaches you the same.

Disclaimer - This article in no way is meant to be an insult to the Bible or religion or the LGBTQ community.

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