It's Really OK If Things Don't Turn Out The Way You Planned

It's Really OK If Things Don't Turn Out The Way You Planned

We all have expectations of how things will turn out and even though they aren't always met, sometimes it's for the best.


From the moment we're born, people have expectations of who we'll be and how we'll get there. However, as we get older, we start to have a different set of expectations for ourselves. From wanting to be a straight-A student to making a ton of friends, to figuring out your career path, it's easy to overwhelm ourselves with trying to achieve these goals we have for ourselves. As more people are getting ready to either begin their college years or prepare to leave them behind, it is also important to talk about what happens when some of these expectations aren't met.

When I first started college two years ago, I had no idea what to expect. I was eagerly hoping that it would be drastically different from high school and that I would love my college as much as everyone else seemed to love theirs. I spent the months before I started college looking at a bunch of Instagram posts hoping that I'll make as many friends as my peers or that I would go out and meet new people like everyone else was doing. I was also hoping that I would finally be able to figure out what I wanted to do with my life just like everyone else. So, as I moved into my dorm room and went through my first week of classes as a college student, I was upset that nothing was turning out the way that I planned.

Going to a school that has more commuters than residents made it more difficult for me to make friends that I would get along with, especially since people in my dorm never seemed to want to talk to anyone. I was shocked at first that all those YouTube videos I watched about what to expect when starting college lied to me about that. As I was trying to figure out the best way to make friends, I tried to do what I did during all my other years of schooling: talk to people in my classes. After being forced to do those wonderful icebreakers that college students love so much, I continued to fall short and realize I had absolutely nothing in common with my classmates except for the fact that we didn't declare a major yet. How was I going to explain to my family and friends that I wasn't enjoying college my first semester? How was I going to tell them that I tried everything I could think of and even looked into different organizations and still couldn't make friends?

After having an extremely uneventful first semester of college, I managed to get decent grades and get one step closer to figuring out what I wanted to do with my life. While that one step was a baby step, it helped me realize what I didn't want to be. I also became best friends with my roommate who is still my roommate to this day and made a few friends during my second semester and also in my second year. While I didn't go to any parties during my first year like everyone else I knew, I still managed to have some fun memories with the friends I made that I will remember for many years to come. So, if you're upset that you don't seem to be having a picture-perfect college experience, just know that everything will work out in the end, but it'll never be in the way that you expect.

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14 Fraternity Guy Gifts Ideas, Since He Already Has Enough Beer

Frat boys are a species of their own and here are some exciting gifts they will be ecstatic to receive!


What more do frat boys love than alcohol, partying, and just acting stupid? Here are some gifts that help fulfill all of those needs for the frat boy in your life!

1. Beer holster belt

Whats better than one beer? Six beers! This fashionable camouflage accessory can be used for tailgates, beach days, formals and everything in between.

Price: $8.49

2. Phone juul holder 

You know those cardholders everyone sticks on the back of their phones? Well, now a Juul holder for your phone is on the market! This will save your favorite frat boy from ever again losing his Juul!

Price: $10.98

3. Animal house poster 

This Animal House poster is a classic staple for any frat boy. This poster will compliment any frat house decor or lack thereof.

Price: $1.95

4. The American Fraternity book

Does the frat boy in your life need a good read for Thanksgiving or winter break? Look no farther, this will certainly keep his attention and give him a history lesson on American fraternity heritage and tradition.

Price: $28.46

5. Beer pong socks 

These snazzy socks featuring beer pong will be loved by any frat boy. As for the way to any frat boy's heart may, in fact, be beer pong.

Price: $12.00

6. Condom case

This condom carrying case will not only protect condoms from damage but also make frat boys more inclined to practice safe sex, which is a win-win situation!

Price: $9.99

7. Frat house candle

Ahhh yes, who does not like the smell of stale beer in a dark, musty frat house basement? Frat boys can make their apartment or bedroom back home smell like their favorite place with the help of this candle.

Price: $16.99

8. "Frat" sticker

Frat boys always need to make sure everyone around them knows just how "fratty" they are. This versatile stick can go on a laptop, car, water bottle, or practically anywhere their little hearts desire.

Price: $6.50

9. Natty Light t-shirt 

Even I will admit that this shirt is pretty cool. The frat boy in your life will wear this shirt at every possible moment, it is just that cool!

Price: $38.76-$41.11

10. Natty light fanny pack 

This fanny pack can absolutely be rocked by any frat boy. The built-in koozie adds a nice touch.

Price: $21.85

11. Bud Light Neon Beer Sign 

A neon beer sign will be the perfect addition to any frat boys bedroom.

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12. Beer Opener

Although most frat boys' go to beers come in cans, this bottle opener will be useful for those special occasions when they buy nicer bottled beers.

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13. Frat House Dr. Sign

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Forget stealing random street signs, with this gift frat boys no longer have to do so.

14. Beer Lights 

Lights are an essential for any party and these will surely light up even the lamest parties.

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Please note that prices are accurate and items in stock as of the time of publication. As an Amazon Associate, Odyssey may earn a portion of qualifying sales.

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I've Made Incredible Friends Without Being A Sorority Girl

Deep down, I knew I wasn't the type of girl to be in a sorority, so I decided to try making friends the old fashioned way.


I have made friends in college without the help of a sorority! I've met people through class or through tinder or at house shows. Greek life is not the only way to make friends! There are many options and finding someone with common interests is the BEST way to make a friend.

I remember when I was a freshman at university and absolutely TERRIFIED of what was going to happen. I wasn't sure I would make any friends here, and I seriously debated joining a sorority in the hopes of finding a sisterhood of girls I belonged with. Deep down, I knew I wasn't the type of girl to be in a sorority (not that being in a sorority is a BAD thing), so I decided to try making friends the old fashioned way. Within the first couple of months, I had made some wonderful friends.

One of my newer friends at the time had invited me to a basketball game where we ended up meeting two really cool ladies, who became my first Eugene friends. None of us were involved in sororities, yet we still made our own friend circle.

My point is that you can make friends in college without being involved in Greek life! If you're not the kind of person who is going to do well in Greek life, try making friends another way. Maybe through some common interests!

I've made a lot of friends within the Eugene music community since house shows are where I spend the majority of my time. This exposure to the scene has helped me meet some incredible people and it's been HUGE in helping me make friends in college. Going to new shows and talking to new people has been the most effective way of me making friends outside of Greek life.

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