It's Really OK If Things Don't Turn Out The Way You Planned

It's Really OK If Things Don't Turn Out The Way You Planned

We all have expectations of how things will turn out and even though they aren't always met, sometimes it's for the best.


From the moment we're born, people have expectations of who we'll be and how we'll get there. However, as we get older, we start to have a different set of expectations for ourselves. From wanting to be a straight-A student to making a ton of friends, to figuring out your career path, it's easy to overwhelm ourselves with trying to achieve these goals we have for ourselves. As more people are getting ready to either begin their college years or prepare to leave them behind, it is also important to talk about what happens when some of these expectations aren't met.

When I first started college two years ago, I had no idea what to expect. I was eagerly hoping that it would be drastically different from high school and that I would love my college as much as everyone else seemed to love theirs. I spent the months before I started college looking at a bunch of Instagram posts hoping that I'll make as many friends as my peers or that I would go out and meet new people like everyone else was doing. I was also hoping that I would finally be able to figure out what I wanted to do with my life just like everyone else. So, as I moved into my dorm room and went through my first week of classes as a college student, I was upset that nothing was turning out the way that I planned.

Going to a school that has more commuters than residents made it more difficult for me to make friends that I would get along with, especially since people in my dorm never seemed to want to talk to anyone. I was shocked at first that all those YouTube videos I watched about what to expect when starting college lied to me about that. As I was trying to figure out the best way to make friends, I tried to do what I did during all my other years of schooling: talk to people in my classes. After being forced to do those wonderful icebreakers that college students love so much, I continued to fall short and realize I had absolutely nothing in common with my classmates except for the fact that we didn't declare a major yet. How was I going to explain to my family and friends that I wasn't enjoying college my first semester? How was I going to tell them that I tried everything I could think of and even looked into different organizations and still couldn't make friends?

After having an extremely uneventful first semester of college, I managed to get decent grades and get one step closer to figuring out what I wanted to do with my life. While that one step was a baby step, it helped me realize what I didn't want to be. I also became best friends with my roommate who is still my roommate to this day and made a few friends during my second semester and also in my second year. While I didn't go to any parties during my first year like everyone else I knew, I still managed to have some fun memories with the friends I made that I will remember for many years to come. So, if you're upset that you don't seem to be having a picture-perfect college experience, just know that everything will work out in the end, but it'll never be in the way that you expect.

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A Letter To My Best Friend On Her Birthday

Happy Birthday to the girl I was so lucky have met in this lifetime.

Hey You,

It is your birthday, and I don't know where to start. There are so many things I'd like to say on your special day that I literally could not fit into this article. So let me start by saying the most obvious thing: You're my best friend. (Duh)

Since the moment you walked into my life, we got along just perfectly. You were like the perfect piece to my puzzle. Not that anything was missing, but you became a part of me and you made me better than I was without you. I know you're probably laughing right now thinking this is super corny. Sure, me too.

One thing that amazes me is your unconditional form of giving. Anytime I need something, you never hesitate to offer and even more. If I happen to have a bad day, you listen to my problems and you reassure me that it will pass. And when I need your shoulder to cry on, you never hesitate to snap me back into reality and tell me to stay strong. You give me so much strength and you've taught me to make this my lifestyle.

Everywhere you go, you light up everyone's day. You really are a sight for sore eyes and you know it. You are thoughtful, compassionate, and your vibes are nothing but happiness. I know you don't have a boyfriend right now, but the day someone is interested in you, they better be damn great. You're the prettiest, the sweetest, the cutest, simply the best and more.

Not only are you the best ear, the best supporter, but you're also my perfect fit for the most important reason: You don't judge me when I say "Whataburger?" at 2 am. Whatever it may be that night; Taco Bell, McDonalds, Canes, your response is always "YAS," and I love you for that. I can't even count how many times we've just sat in the car eating without even talking to each other. It's the best.

We know our deepest fears, our greatest hopes.

I honestly don't know what I'd do if you'd never walked into my life. You've made me a stronger woman, a better me. I don't know how I got so lucky that we ever crossed paths. I guess it was just destiny that decided the perfect moment.

It's been only a year since I met you. That sounds so crazy to admit. Every time we hang up the phone or leave for a class we always say "I love you." That's the kind of friendship everyone hopes for. The sweet, "You're so hot! No, you're hotter! No, you are!" friendship that is mildly annoying, but so great to experience. You are without a doubt the Christina to my Meredith, the Michael Scott to my Dwight Schrute. You're the Elliot to my Olivia, the Poussey to my Tasty.

If I had never met you, I wouldn't be the person I am today.

I guess what I'm trying to say is that I am so thankful for your life. Especially on a day like today, we celebrate your life and wish you so many more years to walk this crazy world and sprinkle a little bit of happiness into everyone's life. Thank you for being you, babe. You are my person. Happy birthday to you, special girl. You've changed my life and you inspire me every day.


Your Best Friend.

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22 Signs The Girls You've Met In College Will Be Part Of Your Girl Gang For Life

To the lovely ladies I've met in college that I can never imagine my life without again


Let me just be the first to say, I honestly don't know how I survived the majority of my life without you guys.

Attending college out of state in a completely new area and not knowing a single soul, I was petrified of the idea of starting over. I had a great group of friends at home, and I wasn't ready to begin this new chapter of my life. Hearing my parents and family friends talk about the people they met in college only stressed me out even more because, what if I didn't meet "my people?"

Luckily, that's when you guys came along, and my life was changed forever.

1. You genuinely care about each other's happiness.

2. Talking 24/7 is absolutely necessary.  You basically have a 2nd boyfriend.

3. You know absolutely everything and more about each other...even the details that may be TMI.

4. Regardless of how dramatic it is, you can rely on one another for advice on absolutely anything.

5. You can't go more than 2 days without seeing one's just not allowed. It feels like your 2nd boyfriend has mysteriously gone missing.

6. And when you go out together for a girls night, all hell breaks loose.

7. The best way to solve your problems is with each other, and a full glass of wine.

8. Somehow you lasted 18 years without them in your life, and you wonder every day how that was possible.

A friend like you is something I've always prayed to find, and I am so thankful I did.

9. You willingly shower each other with compliments like it is your job.

10. They give you that reality check every here and there when you are being more than overdramatic.

11. When something amazing happens, you immediately go to one another to celebrate.

12. They're always your support system no matter what.

13. They'll most likely be in your bridal party because they're the only people who will keep you mentally sane.

I wouldn't want anyone else beside me on my special day.

14. Staying mad at each other for long is just not even slightly possible.

15. You probably hate the same people, for the same reasons.

To the boy who screwed over your best friend, the girl who's secretly in love with your boyfriend, and the professor who gave you a bad grade, me and my best friend most likely talk about you!

16. No one will ever mistreat them, because they would have to go through you first.

17. You're right beside them when something intense is about to go down.

Neither of you will ever go through drama alone anymore, you've always got a go-to girl.

18. They're always loyal to you and your friendship, and fortunately, they're stuck with you forever.

19. Some of your best memories are with each other.

20. They always feel like sunshine when they're around.

The people who feel like the color yellow are the type of people you always want to keep in your life.

21. You will never allow a boy to make each other cry.

22. You remind them daily how much their friendship means to you.

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