College Kids, It's Unhealthy To Make Your College Stress A Competition

College Kids, It's Unhealthy To Make Your College Stress A Competition

When you leave, it's you versus the world.


Who is more stressed? Who studied more? Who procrastinated longer? Who consumed more coffee to stay awake? Whose GPA is higher? Whose major is harder? Who has more due? Who takes more classes? Whose life is better or worse than yours? Who is able to get by on the bare minimum? And who bites off more than they can chew?

College students always act like they have something to prove by having more on their plate.

It is constantly brought up, this question of who is working harder and is, therefore, more stressed out. The truth is, we're all winners and we're all losers, too. If the prize is stress, how is that even remotely a good thing?

They brag about doing more than they could handle, as though they had no idea what they were getting themselves into. There's always a question of who did the most in the best way, whether it affects their outcome or not. It's such a competition and everyone doesn't even have the same finish line.

When it's all said and done, the only person you'll hope you've beat is yourself. You'll hope you conquered all of your fears. You'll hope your skills have been mastered, and that your potential was met. Nothing anyone else is doing will ever affect anything long-term in your life. You'll get where you want to be all on your own.

The girl beside you in math class with the higher test grade doesn't affect your future. The all-nighter your roommate pulled for an exam you aren't even taking doesn't affect a grade you'll get on an exam you are taking. You know what you need. You know your limits, every strength, and every weakness. Take care of those; focus on your health, grades, goals, future, and career.

The chance that someone wants the exact same things out of life that you do is so slim. No one wants the same job, in the same city, with the house and the same partner living in it. That is your plan and it's unique to you. No one is deliberately going to stand in your way of following it. They're too worried about their plan and their success, and there is no way that involves taking away from yours.

Save all that competitiveness for when it really counts. The world is going to put people in your way. It will feel like the world itself is against you. Obstacles will come along. You'll go against people in your career and you'll have to be better than them to get that promotion. But now, it's you against yourself. You have to care for yourself and put out your best. Pick your battles carefully to win the war.

Instead of competing against your peers, be happy for their success as they build a foundation for what will be the rest of their lives. It's completely separate from the life you create and it's so much bigger than just a GPA and the stress we all got from it.

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I Ghosted My Old Self For 5 Months In An Effort To Reevaluate My Life

My life fell apart faster than a drunk dude approaching a Jenga stack.


BREAKING (not fake) NEWS: It's true, you have to hit your lowest before hitting your highest.

I want to share my lowest with you, and I'm almost ashamed to say it had nothing to do with the loss of both of my parents. I like to think I handled that like a warrior.

Turns out I didn't, and the hurt I've been burying from that hit me all at once, the same moment my life fell apart faster than a drunk dude approaching a Jenga stack.

My life flipped upside down overnight back in August. I had my heart broken shattered, lost two very important friendships that I thought were with me until the end, lost my 9-5 job, my health took a hit stronger than a boulder, and I was absolutely lost. For the first time, ever, I let go of the reigns on my own life. I had no idea how to handle myself, how to make anyone around me happy, how to get out of bed or how to even begin the process of trying to process what the f*ck just happened. I was terrified.

Coming from the girl who never encountered a dilemma she couldn't fix instantaneously, on her own, with no emotional burden. I was checked out from making my life better. So I didn't try. I didn't even think about thinking about trying.

The only relatively understandable way I could think to deal with anything was to not deal with anything. And that's exactly what I did. And it was f*cking amazing.

I went into hiding for a week, then went on a week getaway with my family, regained that feeling of being loved unconditionally, and realized that's all I need. They are all I need. Friends? Nah. Family. Only. Always.

On that vacation, I got a call from the school district that they wanted me in for an interview the day I come home. It was for a position that entailed every single class, combined, that I took in my college career. It was a career that I had just gotten my degree for three months before.

I came home and saw my doctor and got a health plan in order. I was immediately thrown into the month-long hiring process for work. I made it a point to make sunset every single night, alone, to make sure I was mentally caught up and in-check at the same exact speed that my life was turning. I was not about to lose my control again. Not ever.

Since August, I have spent more time with family than ever. I've read over 10 new books, I've discovered so much new music, I went on some of my best, the worst and funniest first dates, I made true, loyal friends that cause me zero stress while completely drowning me in overwhelming amounts of love and support, I got back into yoga, and I started that job and damn near fell more in love with it than I ever was for the guy I lost over the summer.

But most importantly, I changed my mindset. I promised myself to not say a single sentence that has a negative tone to it. I promised myself to think three times before engaging in any type of personal conversation. I promised myself to wake up in a good mood every damn day because I'm alive and that is the only factor I should need to be happy.

Take it from a girl who knew her words were weapons and used them frequently before deciding to turn every aspect of her life into positivity — even in the midst of losing one of my closest family members. I have been told multiple times, by people so dear to me that I'm "glowing." You know what I said back? F*ck yes I am, and I deserve to.

I am so happy with myself and it has nothing to do with the things around me. It's so much deeper than that, and I'm beaming with pride. Of myself. For myself.

I want to leave you with these thoughts that those people who have hurt me, left me, and loved me through these last couple of months have taught me

Growth is sometimes a lonely process.
Some things go too deep to ever be forgotten.
You need to give yourself the permission to be happy right now.
You outgrow people you thought you couldn't live without, and you're not the one to blame for that. You're growing.
Sometimes it takes your break down to reach your breakthrough.

Life isn't fair, but it's still good.

My god, it's so f*cking good.

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I'm A Communications Major Now, And I Have More Opportunities

I am no longer limiting my options.


I have changed my major more than three different times, and I've heard it all.

"You're clearly uncertain of what you want to do." "You've changed your major too many times." "Where's your 5-year plan?"

First I wanted to be a nurse, then a historian, and then I landed on a journalist. But unlike the first time I changed my major, this doesn't have to do with any anxiety.

Believe me, I know I've had a mid-college crisis or two, but I know that this is what I really want to do. I love writing, I love journalism, but I know that as a communications major, I'll be able to do more than just write for a news outlet.

Much like my fellow comm major Emily, there are so many things that are going to be available to us after we graduate.

Becoming a journalist is still something I'm very inclined to do, but having a safety net into new and different career opportunities will give me a leg up in the future. It'll help me determine that I have more than just one item in my tool belt. I could potentially become a media planner or human resources director. The point is I know I'm going to be alright.

After struggling through a few lulls in college, I think this is what's best for me as a person and as a student. I can feel this new major not only fit my life, but it really feels like a new major is going to kick off 2019 for me.

There are definitely a couple of positives to changing my major; I have plenty of support and plenty of options. I no longer feel like I have just a one-way street, I have an intersection.

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