The College Identity Crisis

The College Identity Crisis

Who Am I?
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College is supposed to be the time of our lives. It is supposed to be the time where we look deep into ourselves and find out who we really are and what we want to do in life. We are expected to grow into respectable adults and establish an identity that will be a part of us for the rest of our lives. The only problem is that most college students go through identity crises because we have not fully answered the question of “who am I?”

For most incoming freshmen, the identity crisis situation is not a big deal because they just got their turn to roll some new dice in the game of college; ready to play and ready to win. The truth is that winning does not matter unless there is reason for it. Many freshmen that come to college believe they know who they are, but if they truly start to think about who they really are, then the doubt of reality begins to sink in. However, it really does not start hitting hard until sophomore year.

Sophomore year is decision-making time. It is the last year where most of the general elective courses are completed, so junior and senior year, the courses taken are the ones focusing on a sought-after degree. We sophomores may not have as hard of classes as juniors and seniors, but most of them have passed the identity crisis and know who and what they want to be as a member of society. Making those kinds of decisions as a sophomore can be daunting because most of us are reconsidering our major or have already changed it. We are not exactly sure about ourselves or if the decisions we are making are the right ones. In actuality, there are no right or wrong decisions, only the ones that shape our identities.

The best way to shape our identities is by living and learning. Not one college course can tell us who we are, but it can shape what we believe or possibly change a custom of ours, but all of these are just minor parts to the whole. Every experience we have whether it is from a party to one of our grandparents telling us one of those “back in my day” stories shapes our identity. Those are the experiences that stick with us and influence the decisions we make. People and places have the strongest influence in shaping our identities, which completely changes when we get into college.

The difficult part about college is that we have left home and are in a new place with new people that alter our identity we established before we got here. It is a world away from home where we learn to stretch out of the comfort zones we have grown accustomed to and expand upon our experiences, so we can further develop the person we intend to be. We leave the known for the unknown because we want an adventure that is not a straight path, but sometimes that path never straightens out and becomes never ending switchbacks up a mountain where we cannot see the peak because it is covered by clouds.

No matter where we are, there will always be an identity struggle, but college is the time where it happens most. It is a crucial time in our lives because the relationships we form in college will play a vital role in our initial identity. Sometimes the identity we create for ourselves is not always the one we expect or want. Perhaps we are not always who we want to be, but maybe it is who we need to be. Whatever the case may be, eventually those switchbacks up the mountain will plateau when the clouds have cleared, and a straight path will lead all of us in the direction towards a never-ending evolution of our identities.

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I'm A Woman And You Can't Convince Me Breastfeeding In Public Is OK In 2019

Sorry, not sorry.

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Lately, I have seen so many people going off on social media about how people shouldn't be upset with mothers breastfeeding in public. You know what? I disagree.

There's a huge difference between being modest while breastfeeding and just being straight up careless, trashy and disrespectful to those around you. Why don't you try popping out a boob without a baby attached to it and see how long it takes for you to get arrested for public indecency? Strange how that works, right?

So many people talking about it bring up the point of how we shouldn't "sexualize" breastfeeding and seeing a woman's breasts while doing so. Actually, all of these people are missing the point. It's not sexual, it's just purely immodest and disrespectful.

If you see a girl in a shirt cut too low, you call her a slut. If you see a celebrity post a nude photo, you call them immodest and a terrible role model. What makes you think that pulling out a breast in the middle of public is different, regardless of what you're doing with it?

If I'm eating in a restaurant, I would be disgusted if the person at the table next to me had their bare feet out while they were eating. It's just not appropriate. Neither is pulling out your breast for the entire general public to see.

Nobody asked you to put a blanket over your kid's head to feed them. Nobody asked you to go feed them in a dirty bathroom. But you don't need to basically be topless to feed your kid. Growing up, I watched my mom feed my younger siblings in public. She never shied away from it, but the way she did it was always tasteful and never drew attention. She would cover herself up while doing it. She would make sure that nothing inappropriate could be seen. She was lowkey about it.

Mindblowing, right? Wait, you can actually breastfeed in public and not have to show everyone what you're doing? What a revolutionary idea!

There is nothing wrong with feeding your baby. It's something you need to do, it's a part of life. But there is definitely something wrong with thinking it's fine to expose yourself to the entire world while doing it. Nobody wants to see it. Nobody cares if you're feeding your kid. Nobody cares if you're trying to make some sort of weird "feminist" statement by showing them your boobs.

Cover up. Be modest. Be mindful. Be respectful. Don't want to see my boobs? Good, I don't want to see yours either. Hard to believe, I know.

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Easy Interview Tips to Help You Stand Out

Here are some quick tips that will help interviews go by way faster and make you seem confident.

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I recently interviewed for an organization on campus and this process makes it so much easier.

1. Look at your interviewer.

A simple way to attract one's attention is to look straight at them. I know sometimes its very nervewracking and getting distracted or getting your mind off of the subject seems like the best option. However, by listening to them, you seem more interested and attentive. It also shows off how much confidence about the subject.

2. Be clear and concise at what your trying to say.

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Its easier if you try to be more specific on a subject than being general about it. It's okay if you mess up on some words but try to pick the pace back up. An interviewer will be more interested if you actually are making a point.

3. Make bold points to stand out.

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Take on those difficult subjects that some people have hard times talking about or make a statement by using another point of view. There are endless possibilities to some questions so just go with your instincts and you'll do amazing!

4. Know a lot about yourself.

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Many personal questions about your characteristics or interesting facts are usually asked during an interview process. Knowing most things about yourself such as personal qualities or weaknesses show that you're a well developed person. Be confident in knowing yourself the best and be sure to honest as well.

5. Try to be prepared and know a lot about what your interviewing for.

If your prepared, then it's easier to talk to your interviewers. You're more fluid when you communicate and there is less fear of not knowing what to say. If it's a job make sure you make interesting points about their company and if it's an organization, then make sure you know what it is exactly that you made you want to interview in the first place.

6. Be dressed for the part.

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Usually jobs or organizations like it when you dress up in the desired attire. It makes you seem more professional and neat as a person. If a certain dress code is required, make sure you adhere to it and dress your best!

7. Ask for help!

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At many colleges, there are places that offer free or paid mock interviews that allow you to get better at communicating. Through these programs, you actually get feedback and experience. If there isn't something like this around, then ask a couple of friends to ask you potential or general questions. Doing this has helped me so much!

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