I Asked 12 College Men About Their Biggest Dating Pet Peeves, So, Ladies, Listen Up

I Asked 12 College Men About Their Biggest Dating Pet Peeves, So, Ladies, Listen Up

Pet peeves are a real thing so why not get a head start in the game?

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Let's be real- we all do little things that may be annoying to others. Sure, in the grand scheme of things this isn't a huge deal but wouldn't you like to know some of the things that bother the guy you like? I figured getting some insight directly from the source would do more good than harm because honestly, once you begin to see these annoyances it's hard to un-notice them.

We all need to remember that after all, we're only human and nobody is perfect (if you think they can be... you are very unrealistic.) But regardless, pet peeves are a real thing so why not get a head start in the game?

I talked to 12 guys and got them to confess what bothers them most and things you should avoid.

"I don't like when they are overly sweet. Saying 'whatever you want to do!' gets old!" — A, 21

"When someone is being too clingy or when they feel the need to post every little thing about our relationship on social media." — K, 22

"I think the obvious one from all guys is a girl's inability to say what they want to eat or the girl who doesn't say what bothers her until it turns into a full-blown fight. Also, girls who expect the guy to always initiate something." — C, 23 

"When they expect you to not have a life outside of them. Like when they get mad at you for going out with your friends." — A, 22

"Dwelling on the past and not making something of the future. To me, that's a big thing because it starts off ruining trust from the beginning and wrecks the relationship." — P, 22

"I hate when people are just weird at first about asking questions or texting back too fast or whatever. Just be yourself. You don't have to put up a front."  — R, 24

"I hate when girls complain about being over weight when in reality they are skinny as shit. Be confident." — N, 21

"How long it takes for them to get out of the apartment when it's time to leave. Girls always have to be the last one out." — L, 22

"When they can't decide on anything they want to do when we want to go out." — A, 22

"It bothers me when the person I'm on a date with can't put their phone down." — G, 21 

"Whenever a girl tries to act like she's too good to have a fun time. Don't worry about doing something you think is embarrassing, just be yourself." — R, 21

"I hate when a girl purposely tries to act dumb." — A, 22

We all have pet peeves and major turn-offs when it comes to dating but the best advice I have is to stay out of your own head, keep an open mind and most importantly, be yourself.

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To My Boyfriend's Mom

He loves you more than you could ever imagine...
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Without you, there would not be a him, so first things first, thank you.

1. Thank you for teaching him to love a woman the right way, to put God first, and YOU before me always, the respect he shows you is so attractive, and you deserve it.

He talks about you like you hung the moon, I don't doubt for a second that he will be an amazing father one day, I owe all of that to you.

2. Thank you for giving me a chance, learning to love me when you knew your son was doing the same.

I can't speak for my own first impressions, but hopefully mine was not THAT bad...when we both slapped him on the arms for his rude remark at the same time, I knew our relationship was already blossoming.

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3. Thank you for every meal you have ever purchased me.

And chocolate, and candy...you know just as well as your son does that food is the way to my heart. Especially Taco Bell and cheesecake ;)

4. Thank you for your advice, suggestions, and opinions...and asking for mine

Whether it's telling me to slap him for being a smart a$$, or you're asking me about color swabs for your kitchen makeover, you come to me as if I am your own, and I am so honored to give you my own input.

5. Thank you for including me

You never fail to leave a spot for me, and I love family dinners/outings with you guys just as much as I love my own!

6. Thank you for teaching your son to never give up, and that if he does it is only to better himself, or it's the only choice he has left.

He is so focused on his future, he wants the best for himself, and he is constantly reminding me that these are things that YOU taught him, you deserve to be so proud.

7. Thank you for letting him love my family, and allowing me to love yours.

He is so loyal and loving to my family, and I don't even have to ask myself why because I see him with you and yours. Thank you for letting us double up on holidays when we can, and making sure we get the most out of our time with you!

8. Thank you for being his best friend.

I think of him as mine too, but I couldn't think of a better person to also hold that title, you know him better than anyone else and you always will.

9. Thank you for teaching him how to treat a woman

He is constantly telling me "You sound like my mother." Thankfully earlier in our relationship, he told me that the woman he wants to be with, should do just that. He always tells people who try, "No, no one calls me by my full name except my mom and my girlfriend."

10. Thank you for your honesty

We all know that he and I can drive you crazy sometimes, thank you for telling us like it is, and making sure we know you still love us anyways.

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11. Thank you for teaching him to work as hard as possible in anything and everything he does.

I have never met anyone with such a desire for success, he and I are constantly discussing how we can better our futures, and I know exactly where his drive comes from.

12. Thank you for teaching him to clean up after himself

Even though sometimes, it takes him a minute to do so.

13. Thank you for teaching him how to love, and letting him love me.

I have never felt so loved by a man, probably because anyone else who came into my life was just a boy. Thank you for your unconditional love for him, he is your entire heart and that is so easy to see, I am happy to share his with you.

You and I both know that even years from now we will both occasionally probably be closing the fridge that he left open, cleaning the crumbs he dropped, demanding he take a shower after playing soccer, or reminding him 20 times about plans we made weeks ago, we both share such a great love for such an amazing man. I could never be more thankful that you brought forth into this world such a comforting, supportive, protective, steadfast, driven, handsome, and hilarious guy. Thank you for everything you do for him, for me, and for us, I love you a lot!

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If She Can't Tell You How She Feel Then It's Her Fault If She Is Upset

We aren't mind readers, its not our fault if you get upset for me not knowing how you feel.

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Be vocal.

Feeling hurt? Feel betrayed? Or, that someone is pushing you around? Step up and say something. If you remain silence for months on end and then one day explode, then sorry.

That is on you, not me.

Having a relationship is all about communication. That means you discuss your feelings. You listen and exchange conversation. If you are unable to communicate about how you feel, it's not the other person's fault. You had months to explain how you felt. Instead, you sat there in silence. You can't expect someone to hold your hand and walk you through your problems. If you are feeling hurt, you need to step up and say something. It's not their fault you kept your feelings silenced. A relationship without communication is destined to die. And if you can't express how you feel to them you have already nailed the confine closed.

A relationship goes two ways. It's about building and growing together.

If someone is unable to properly communicate their feelings, then how is that relationship going to grow. People need to step up and say how they feel.

Got something to say? Say it.

Staying in the silence isn't going to help anyone. It's not going to help your hurt feelings or fix the situation. Chances are, the other person in the relationship doesn't even know what is going on. Say something. Speak up. Want to change the situation? Make the first step. A relationship is about growing together. If you can't give the person the chance to grow through a mistake then the relationship was never a true one. You can't expect someone to be perfect all the time. You need to understand that people make mistakes and if you are truly invested in the relationship, you would stand up and say something.

People are not mind readers. It doesn't matter who started it.

They said something that hurt you? Say something about it. The situation won't change. So, don't expect to sit around and watch the situation change. You could what changes a bad situation for others. But if you stand there acting all innocent or quite, guess what. You are the one in the end to blame. Not them. They did nothing wrong at the end, because you nailed that confine shut when you decided not to speak up. Don't proceed to attack them about it. Be open. Be honest.

Staying quiet isn't going to change the situation.

So don't yell and cry when things don't work out.

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