It's OK To Be A Girl Who Doesn't Want Kids
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I'm The Girl Who Never Wants Kids, And I'm Happy To Say That Doesn't Make Me Any Less Of A Woman

And it's not my purpose in life.

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I'm The Girl Who Never Wants Kids, And I'm Happy To Say That Doesn't Make Me Any Less Of A Woman

Since I was young, I've heard people tell me that a woman's purpose is the one day find a husband and have children.

Since I was about 15, I have known that I:

1. Might end up with a woman as I am Bisexual

2. I don't want kids.

I remember distinctly a conversation with a rather Conservative family friend where she told me that god's plan for me was to be a mother and to be a wife to a man and to serve him.

It made me feel ill.

I constantly feel like when people ask the question "do you want kids" I have to justify my "no" with "but I love kids!" which is true I am a cousin and I hope someday an aunt and I love being around my little cousins and watching them experience all the wonders this world has to offer but that doesn't mean I want children of my own. And it's taken me so long to realize that's okay!

A woman is so much more than a vessel for a baby. For example, I am a writer I pour my heart into words and share them to hopefully inspire or educate. I am a friend, loyal and true and would go to the ends of the earth for the people closest to me. I know the boundless love people describe.

I don't feel that anything is missing from my life as the result of not having children or even having the desire for them. I do not feel less than.

My body is a temple, MY temple. And just maybe I don't want my temple to be in complete shambles for 9 months. Maybe I don't want to gain a bunch of weight because I already have severe body issues.

Maybe I don't want to make a life long commitment. Or maybe I just simply don't want a child.

And just maybe that's no one's damn business.

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