Since I was young, I've heard people tell me that a woman's purpose is the one day find a husband and have children.
Since I was about 15, I have known that I:
1. Might end up with a woman as I am Bisexual
2. I don't want kids.
I remember distinctly a conversation with a rather Conservative family friend where she told me that god's plan for me was to be a mother and to be a wife to a man and to serve him.
It made me feel ill.
I constantly feel like when people ask the question "do you want kids" I have to justify my "no" with "but I love kids!" which is true I am a cousin and I hope someday and aunt and I love being around my little cousins and watching them experience all the wonders this world has to offer but that doesn't mean I want children of my own. And it's taken me so long to realize that's okay!
A woman is so much more than a vessel for a baby. For example, I am a writer I pour my heart into words and share them to hopefully inspire or educate. I am a friend, loyal and true and would go to the ends of the earth for the people closest to me. I know the boundless love people describe.
I don't feel that anything is missing from my life as the result of not having children or even having the desire for them. I do not feel less than.
My body is a temple, MY temple. And just maybe I don't want my temple to be in complete shambles for 9 months. Maybe I don't want to gain a bunch of weight because I already have severe body issues.
Maybe I don't want to make a life long commitment. Or maybe I just simply don't want a child.
And just maybe that's no one's damn business.