College Friends- The Greatest Gift You Never Saw Coming

College Friends- The Greatest Gift You Never Saw Coming

“Find a group of people who challenge and inspire you, spend a lot of time with them, and it will change your life.” –Amy Poehler

I grew up in an itty, bitty, little dot-on-the-map town, that probably has close to about 500 people in it (to be honest, even this seems like an exaggeration) so tiny that we had to combine with two neighboring towns to form one high school, so I guess you could say I knew my classmates pretty well. I was having recess and eating Cheerios in elementary school with the exact same kids I was sneaking out and drinking with in high school, the only thing that changed was time.

High school friends are great, you stay the night at their houses, you befriend their parents, and you spend every waking hour communicating with them. You pretty much cocoon yourselves together in every possible way, wrapping up so tightly not even Excalibur could break you apart. That is, until the harsh reality starts to set in- people change. It’s a fact of life, we get older, we all grow, and unfortunately sometimes you don’t grow at the same pace with the people you once did. Graduation is the number one killer of 93.6% of all friendships (fact check me, I dare you). I remember thinking to myself when I was graduating, “I’m probably never going to see some of these people ever again,“ fun fact, I only had about 70 people in my class and to this day, that statement is still accurate. Sure, it’s sad, but we all go our different ways, and that’s ok. Do you know why that’s ok? Because it’s true what they say, the best is yet to come.

I have never found a love for anyone, the way I love the friends that I have met in college. These are the people that are all riding the same bumpy ramen-noodle-eating-road with you. We're all just wobbling drunkenly down the unsteady path of adulthood together, like toddlers taking their first steps, and although it feels like the world is going to open up and swallow us daily, it's pretty damn comforting to know that we're not alone. If one person is fed to the flame, you can bet your ass there is an army waiting to jump in after them, and those, my friends, are our soul mates; our aux cord stealin’, Taco Bell eaten’, late night G-Eazy rappin’ college best friends.

When you are away from your home and your parents for the first time, the world can be a terrifying place, so you take refuge in your college friends. You count on these people more than you’ve ever counted on anyone. They let you use their washing machines and eat the food out of their fridge, host 2 a.m. cram sessions with you, they'll pick you up after a mental breakdown, spot you cash, give you a place to crash, they talk with you about your future and your goals, and let you cry into their shoulders, they’ll bring you coffee and send you memes when you’re having a bad day, they take spontaneous trips with you, and offer to drop out and become a stripper with you if the whole college thing doesn’t end up working out; but aside from all of that, and most importantly, they love you. Not the you, you were when you were under your parents’ wing, the real adult version of who you are.

Choose your friends as if you are choosing an expensive wine, your energy is reflected off of those around you. I can’t thank God enough for surrounding me with the group of friends I have met in college. I wouldn’t go out, be involved, or know half of the people I do if it wasn’t for them. They push me in the best way possible. Every one of them is so special to me in their own way, and I, without a doubt, would do anything for any of them. Looking back, I’m not sure if I could say the same for some of the friends I had in high school (and that’s not to say I don’t love the people that I grew up and went to school with, because I do, my very best friend I have to this day I met in high school), but I can honestly say the relationships you make in college will change your life. We are an arms length away from the real world, and these connections we’re making in our lives right now could quite possibly last us an entire lifetime. Those types of bonds don’t just fade away, they are special. If you want to stay in someone’s life these days you have to make it apparent, you aren’t going to see them everyday like you did in high school; it requires real, honest-to-God effort to support a friendship now. I don't think there is anything more assuring than that, knowing your presence in someone’s life is appreciated so greatly.

To all of my friends out there, even if I don't say it quite enough, I love and appreciate you. Thank you for being you.

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To The Friends I Won't Talk To After High School

I sincerely hope, every great quality I saw in you, was imprinted on the world.


So, for the last four years I’ve seen you almost everyday. I’ve learned about your annoying little brother, your dogs and your crazy weekend stories. I’ve seen you rock the awful freshman year fashion, date, attend homecoming, study for AP tests, and get accepted into college.

Thank you for asking me about my day, filling me in on your boy drama and giving me the World History homework. Thank you for complimenting my outfits, laughing at me presenting in class and listening to me complain about my parents. Thank you for sending me your Quizlets and being excited for my accomplishments- every single one of them. I appreciate it all because I know that soon I won’t really see you again. And that makes me sad. I’ll no longer see your face every Monday morning, wave hello to you in the hallways or eat lunch with you ever again. We won't live in the same city and sooner or later you might even forget my name.

We didn’t hang out after school but none the less you impacted me in a huge way. You supported my passions, stood up for me and made me laugh. You gave me advice on life the way you saw it and you didn’t have to but you did. I think maybe in just the smallest way, you influenced me. You made me believe that there’s lots of good people in this world that are nice just because they can be. You were real with me and that's all I can really ask for. We were never in the same friend group or got together on the weekends but you were still a good friend to me. You saw me grow up before your eyes and watched me walk into class late with Starbucks every day. I think people like you don’t get enough credit because I might not talk to you after high school but you are still so important to me. So thanks.

With that said, I truly hope that our paths cross one day in the future. You can tell me about how your brothers doing or how you regret the college you picked. Or maybe one day I’ll see you in the grocery store with a ring on your finger and I’ll be so happy you finally got what you deserved so many guys ago.

And if we ever do cross paths, I sincerely hope you became everything you wanted to be. I hope you traveled to Italy, got your dream job and found the love of your life. I hope you have beautiful children and a fluffy dog named Charlie. I hope you found success in love before wealth and I hope you depended on yourself for happiness before anything else. I hope you visited your mom in college and I hope you hugged your little sister every chance you got. She’s in high school now and you always tell her how that was the time of your life. I sincerely hope, every great quality I saw in you, was imprinted on the world.

And hey, maybe I’ll see you at the reunion and maybe just maybe you’ll remember my face. If so, I’d like to catch up, coffee?



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To My Best Friend Of 15 Years

You are my person.


To my person,

I will never forget the first day that we met. It was the first day of preschool and my mom had just dropped me off. As I started to walk into the classroom I noticed that you were sitting alone on the floor crying. Not sure what to do, I went over to you and asked if you wanted to go play. Your face immediately lit up as we walked into the classroom and in that moment I knew that you would become my best friend. Ever since that day we've been attached by the hip and I wouldn't want it any other way.

April Roberson

Our friendship is the one true relationship that I can count on and for that I am forever grateful. This friendship of ours goes beyond our laughs and lake days. It's real. Through blood, sweat, and tears you've always been right by my side no matter what. You pick me up when I am drowning in pain. You cheer for me even when my ego is a little too high. You love me even when you should hate me. But, most importantly, you stand by me.

Our friendship is the perfect example of trust. You taught me that the right people can be trusted and will not betray you. No matter how dark the secret or how crazy the adventure, you never speak a word about me to anyone. You care about protecting my heart from the awful things in this world and when I am broken you are always there to pick up the pieces no matter how long it takes them to heal.

April Roberson

Our friendship has been a lifetime of happiness with a little bit of spunk. Not only do you encourage my crazy adventures, but you're always right by my side for each one. You keep life exciting and you make it easy. You are a true gift from God and I feel completely indebted to you for the role that you've played in my life. Our friendship is so special because it's full of our tremendous amounts of giving, sharing, and most importantly, love. There's not a day that goes by when I don't feel overwhelmingly thankful to have you by my side doing life with me.

So thank you, to my person. Thank you for always showing up for every little thing and making life so much better. Thank you for being my adventure inspiration and my lifelong travel buddy. Thank you for loving me unconditionally through the good, the bad, and the ugly. Lastly, thank you for being the one person that I can forever count on in this life time. I love you with my whole heart and I wouldn't want to do life with anyone else. You are my person.



April Roberson

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