As many young couples do, my boyfriend and I enjoy staying in with each other. We are homebodies, just like the author of this article. Yet, miraculously, that is not a defining factor of our relationship. We actually have friends that we like to hang out with, exclusively away from each other, from time to time. I know, shocking, right? A healthy balance of ‘mine’ and ‘yours’? Crazy.

Here’s a real shocker: bashing couples that enjoy going out on Friday nights will increase your relationship satisfaction by 0%.

When did we create this hierarchy? When did we decide on this black-and-white notion that you’re either a couple of squares that never go out, or you’re absolute ragers that blow all your cash at bars every weekend? When did we obliterate that middle ground?

I enjoy staying in, making Tasty recipes, and playing games with my boyfriend just as much as this woman does. However, I also enjoy going out and spending money with my boyfriend. And…I also enjoy going out with my friends. Without my boyfriend.Gasp!

Not to mention how unhealthy it is that “one person becomes the source of your happiness.” Girl, come on now. Explain how this exactly beats going out to the bars with your significant other? If I gained any insight into your relationship from this article, it’s that it is extremely unhealthy.

Don’t get me wrong, being a couple of homebodies is fun. Being “boring” is fun. That time spent in on a Friday night baking cookies and watching Netflix is incomparable to a late night at a bar.

But you should also be able to take pride in knowing that you are an independent person from your significant other. No one person should be the sole source of your happiness. That’s just too much pressure to put on a person.

I’m a firm believer in growing together. This requires a bit of separation in a relationship. Your independent lives are just as important as your lives together. Otherwise, your sense of self becomes completely dissolved into the other person. And God forbid anything ever happened to this woman’s relationship… would you have friends to help support you and lift you up if you were to have an argument or break up?

Props to you for buying a house with your significant other. That is something I can’t say I’ve done just yet.I understand that there is a difference between living separately and joining your lives together.

However, wouldn’t that environment of seeing each other 24/7 - sleeping together, cooking together, doing EVERYTHING together… motivate you further to foster your outside relationships? I’m sure your friends would love to hang out with you outside of a bar on Saturday night. That’s a shallow misrepresentation of people in their early 20s.

Our age group is already highly criticized in so many ways. Part of this criticism comes from older generations bashing us for eating avocado toast and meeting our partners on Tinder… the other criticism comes from this elitist B.S. from couples in our own age group who relish in being “boring”, and tearing down “party” couples.

My boyfriend and I are boring. But we’re also fun. We have to stop this mentality of having one or the other, or that one is necessarily better than the other. Just like anything else, too much of anything is never good.

If you’re happy with cutting off all other social and emotional ties for each other, simply to boast about being “boring”…well, good luck to you and your future happiness.