Cliche New Year's Goals With Some Reality

Cliche New Year's Goals With Some Reality

It's the thing you see every year, but hopefully this one is helpful!
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Hopefully this isn't your typical "New Year's Goals" article. I think the idea of setting a goal for the entire year, when the year hasn't even started, is so dumb. You can't have any idea what the coming year will entail, you can't even begin to predict what life will throw your way. Now I don't say that to scare you! It's just the truth, so how can you successfully stick to a goal you set in December all the way to the next December?

Setting a goal and then not sticking with it is a terrible feeling, but sometimes life gets away from us and we have to adjust accordingly so why not set a goal every month instead? Set your goal for January on January 1, set your goal for February on February 1, but make it a different goal than January and continue on every month. The idea of following through on a goal for 12 months straight is daunting and can be very discouraging, but following a goal for thirty days is much easier! Maybe make the one you know you will struggle with the most for February so it's only for 28 days instead of 31. Prove to yourself you can, in fact, follow through on the goals you set for yourself. Try a new goal for a month and then maybe go back to the first goal. Prove to yourself that you can do it before trying to make it for extended periods of time.

If you can only hold the goal for a week, consider setting easier goals or try setting goals for the week. Your life is changing and so are your needs for example if you set a goal to eat only three square meals a day, or to cut back on your food intake to a healthier level, but begin a hard workout regimen daily and are sleeping less because you're working more, then you may have to set aside the less food goal until your life settles down. Making sure you are healthy for what life is throwing at you is more important than temporary goals.

Good luck on the next year! I hope it's great and I hope that you achieve all you want to!

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I'm The Girl Without A 'Friend Group'

And here's why I'm OK with it

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Little things remind me all the time.

For example, I'll be sitting in the lounge with the people on my floor, just talking about how everyone's days went. Someone will turn to someone else and ask something along the lines of, "When are we going to so-and-so's place tonight?" Sometimes it'll even be, "Are you ready to go to so-and-so's place now? Okay, we'll see you later, Taylor!"

It's little things like that, little things that remind me I don't have a "friend group." And it's been like that forever. I don't have the same people to keep me company 24 hours of the day, the same people to do absolutely everything with, and the same people to cling to like glue. I don't have a whole cast of characters to entertain me and care for me and support me. Sometimes, especially when it feels obvious to me, not having a "friend group" makes me feel like a waste of space. If I don't have more friends than I can count, what's the point in trying to make friends at all?

I can tell you that there is a point. As a matter of fact, just because I don't have a close-knit clique doesn't mean I don't have any friends. The friends I have come from all different walks of life, some are from my town back home and some are from across the country. I've known some of my friends for years, and others I've only known for a few months. It doesn't really matter where they come from, though. What matters is that the friends I have all entertain me, care for me, and support me. Just because I'm not in that "friend group" with all of them together doesn't mean that we can't be friends to each other.

Still, I hate avoiding sticking myself in a box, and I'm not afraid to seek out friendships. I've noticed that a lot of the people I see who consider themselves to be in a "friend group" don't really venture outside the pack very often. I've never had a pack to venture outside of, so I don't mind reaching out to new people whenever.

I'm not going to lie, when I hear people talking about all the fun they're going to have with their "friend group" over the weekend, part of me wishes I could be included in something like that. I do sometimes want to have the personality type that allows me to mesh perfectly into a clique. I couldn't tell you what it is about me, but there is some part of me that just happens to function better one-on-one with people.

I hated it all my life up until very recently, and that's because I've finally learned that not having a "friend group" is never going to be the same as not having friends.

SEE ALSO: To The Girls Who Float Between Friend Groups

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In Real Life, 'Plus Size' Means A Size 16 And Up, Not Just Women Who Are Size 8's With Big Breasts

The media needs to understand this, and give recognition to actual plus-size women.

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Recently, a British reality dating TV show called "Love Island" introduced that a plus-sized model would be in the season five lineup of contestants. This decision was made after the show was called out for not having enough diversity in its contestants. However, the internet was quick to point out that this "plus-size model" is not an accurate representation of the plus-size community.


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It is so frustrating that the media picks and chooses women that are the "ideal" version of plus sized. In the fashion world, plus-size starts at size 8. EIGHT. In real life, plus-size women are women who are size 16 and up. Plunkett Research, a marketing research company, estimated in 2018 that 68% of women in America wear a size 16 to 18. This is a vast difference to what we are being told by the media. Just because a woman is curvy and has big breasts, does NOT mean that they are plus size. Marketing teams for television shows, magazines, and other forms of media need to realize that the industry's idea of plus size is not proportionate to reality.

I am all for inclusion, but I also recognize that in order for inclusion to actually happen, it needs to be accurate.

"Love Island" is not the only culprit of being unrealistic in woman's sizes, and I don't fully blame them for this choice. I think this is a perfect example of the unrealistic expectations that our society puts on women. When the media tells the world that expectations are vastly different from reality, it causes women to internalize that message and compare themselves to these unrealistic standards.

By bringing the truth to the public, it allows women to know that they should not compare themselves and feel bad about themselves. Everyone is beautiful. Picking and choosing the "ideal" woman or the "ideal" plus-size woman is completely deceitful. We as a society need to do better.

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