The other day I was talking with a friend, I was telling him how I didnt know how I was going to ever be able to tell a significant other everything I have been through. Then he explained back to me that my story makes me, ME and that if someone can’t love me through my story then they don’t deserve me.
I have seen it a million and one times, my friends who have been hurt by others or hurt by life are constantly pushing away people that are good for them. They push and push and if they get what they think they want, the other person will run. Note: I said what they think they want. They think they deserve to feel alone or that they will be better on their own, but really is anyone better on their own? We always have family or friends.
My friends are so scared, even I am, to get hurt again. To feel that loss of losing someone we think will stick around. It’s scary to let someone that in, thats why we don't do it often. We are absolutely terrified that we will start to feel that emptiness again.
The ones who are strong are worth it because they know suffering. They know what it means to be completely miserable, but that also means they also know what happiness feels like. Though, it feel absolutely incredible to be on top of the world to be happy with someone, they also are worried about the aftermath of feeling like the whole world is against them.
They need closure. I don’t think everyone understands this part. For a person who is strong they aren’t going to be able to let go of something until they know what went wrong or they will slowly convince themselves that they did it.
When they hurt, they will hurt so badly it will feel like their insides are burning, thats when you have to hold on. Even if they push you. you push back, but pushing to get closer and not farther away. You hold them close no matter how much they fight you.
Take the chance with someone who is strong, because they know what it feels like to be hurt so they won’t let you feel it. They will show you parts of life you never thought you’d see. They will let you see the world from their perspective. They won’t be afraid to call you out. They won’t be afraid to tell you how they feel. That’s why a person who is strong or difficult is the best person to be with.
Now, to the girl/boy/person/my friends who have been hurt, you have to take the chance to let someone care about you the way you deserve to be cared for. You’ve been hurt, but you are stronger than the loneliness that you will feel if you don't take the chance. Don’t fight the reality of taking chances and what they can bring. If someone can’t love you for your story and all of the pain you have been through, then someone will want to be with the strong/difficult masterpiece you are.
