A few days ago, an Odyssey article was published where the writer stated that checking her boyfriend's location every hour doesn't classify her as a "psycho girlfriend". To the writer of this article, I have to say, I'm sorry, but checking in on your significant other every hour is not normal.
My boyfriend and I have been dating for two and a half years, and while this is considerably longer than how long the author and her boyfriend have been together, at no point in our relationship did either my boyfriend or I check up on each others' location every hour. We also never demanded that either of us has read receipts on so that we could check to see when we read each others' texts. We trust each other and know that if I say I'm going to my best friend's house for a movie night I'm telling the truth, and vice versa.
In a stable and health relationship, you shouldn't be obsessivly checking in on the person every hour -- in fact, the only time my boyfriend and I have done anything close to this was when I became extremely ill while away at school and he would text me every few hours to check in on me and make sure I was okay. My boyfriend and I are adults, and I know that if he hasn't texted me back in a while he's probably just busy or taking a nap, not "dead in a ditch". I trust him, and he trusts me.
To be honest, the only people who has an excuse to obsessivly check up on your boyfriend are his parents, or maybe his grandparents. You're not your boyfriend's mom -- you don't need to text him "what are you up to?" or "haven't heard back from you in a few minutes, everything okay?" every hour. If you want your relationship to continue on and be strong, you need to trust that the person you're with is being honest with you.
You also need to understand that if your boyfriend is out with his boys, the last thing he wants is to get bombarded with text messages from you -- after all, would you like it if he texted you all throughout girls night? Just like you, your boyfriend is a college student enjoying his newfound freedom, and he probably doensn't want to be tied to someone who constantly monitors him.
Yes, it's okay to shoot your boyfriend an "eta?" text if he's coming over and you want to see if you have enough time to run out to the store to grab some snacks to enjoy with him. If he's under the weather, feel free to check in on him throughout the day to see if there's anything you can do to help him feel better. But under no means should you be monitoring his location. Just love and trust him, and know that he loves and trusts you too.
