Maybe you're reading this as a break from your mindless scrolling through your phone from the comfort of your couch. Maybe you're in between meetings and looking for something—anything—else to think about. Or maybe you're procrastinating that trip to the grocery store or gym that you keep finding excuses to get out of. Wherever you are and whatever you're doing, there's probably at least one thing on your to-do list that's making you think, "Ugh I really don't want to do that."
Whether you're a student, employee, parent, friend, caregiver, or all of the above, I know that there's a lot on your mind. With final papers, appointments, deadlines, emails, birthdays, errands, phone calls, and everything in between that need to be remembered, attended, submitted, or completed, feeling overwhelmed, anxious, and stressed is often unavoidable...or is it?
In a world getting busier by the second, it is easy to define life in black and white, success and failure, or right and wrong, but in doing so we often miss the steps, people, experiences, lessons, opportunities, and moments in between that can offer even more than the end result itself. It's just like if you were set to go on a hike up a tall mountain, but dreaded the climb itself and only cared about getting to the top. Instead of relishing in the incredible views, natural beauty, and adventure of the ascent itself, only focusing on and imagining what the top of the mountain must look like leaves no room for finding joy, awe, or inspiration along the way. The same scenario applies to every other aspect or situation in our lives, too.
If we view the things we don't want to do with the same negativity, complacence or disinterestedness, how can we ever expect to seize opportunities or enjoy things as they come? Instead of viewing everything as fixed, unmoving, and permanent, being open to flexibility and the discomfort that comes with change and growth requires us to hold ourselves accountable, and focus on the learning that comes from the process, or on the way to the end.
Instead of viewing minor changes of plan as inconveniences, allow the possibility of something else to shine through as a blessing of sorts. Instead of sitting in traffic, cursing passing drivers, and getting frustrated at what you cannot control, see that extra time alone as time for reflection, organization of thought, and peace in the midst of chaos. When the older lady in front of you in line at the grocery store is taking too long, look around and realize that everyone is in the same position as you—in a rush to nowhere. By focusing on the lessons or moments in between, instead of on the problem or end result alone, we allow ourselves the possibility of finding new interests, talents, and freedom to take more chances.
If you look at the above examples, nothing about the physical environment changed. Traffic didn't miraculously clear up and the grocery store managers didn't open a checkout lane just for you, but what did change was your perspective. Keeping your end goals in mind, but not making it your sole focus, and ensuring that you appreciate the small things along the way can make all the difference. Stop and smell the roses from time to time, you might like what you find.
